Give in to bridesmaid or be a bridezilla?

My fiance's sister will be a bridesmaid in our wedding. I've decided on a pale pink, green and ivory color theme. (inspired by pink tulip, green viburnum and ivory rose bouquet) My close friend, also a bridesmaid, has vetoed pink as a bridesmaid dress color, and I'm sympathetic to that. Pink is a tricky color. Not all women are pink kind of women. Green seems pretty innocuous though; I'm not talking candy apple or easter egg green, more of a muted, sophisticated one. Fiance recently conveys to me that his sister cannot stand the thought of a green dress, never wears green, would look awful etc.-the last part isn't true, well, except in her own head, she's a very pretty young woman with black hair and a nice tan in all seasons. We're not close (she's nearly ten years younger) and she hasn't brought this up with me herself. So, what do you think. Do I give in to her and re-arrange the color theme I've enamored with (found but not purchased flowers, coordinating invites etc.) or not?

Give in to bridesmaid or be a bridezilla?
You could just find the dress available in multiple colors. Put the close friend in green, his sister in pink or cream and so on and so on. They don't have to be in identical outfits and it might solve your issue without making you alter your color scheme.
Reply:I don't understand why people feel if they don't like how your wedding is, that they should be able to change it according to their likes.





This is not your bridesmaid's wedding.





If they don't like the color choices you made, then they have their own weddings to choose their own colors.





It be extremly silly and dumb if they don't want to attend a wedding over some darn colors you like!





Stay with the colors you want for the wedding.





No, that doesn't make you a bridezilla to have the wedding you want. Not have the wedding they want.
Reply:I don't see why you gave in with your other friend. Bridesmaids don't get to "veto" colors. They should both respect your color scheme, shut up, and wear the dresses. When people agree to be bridesmaids, they know that they might end up wearing something they don't want to wear. It's rude for them to expect you to change what you want for your special day because boohoo, they don't like the colors. Don't change your color scheme on their account, or you will likely be unhappy and wish you'd gone with what you wanted.





Maybe you could choose the color, and let them pick the styles, if that would make them happier... But really, I don't think it's bridezilla to ask them to wear dresses that you pick out, unless they're hideously expensive or something. It's what's expected.
Reply:You are not going to be able to make everyone happy all of the time. Once she tries some green dresses on she might change her mind anyway. Just be considerate of her when making the final decision. Maybe start asking for her opinion every chance you get so that she has a chance to give her 2 cents. That way no one can claim you are a bridezilla, you asked and she will tell you if she has a major problem.
Reply:If you're not close to her, why is she a bridesmaid? I didn't have my husband's sisters as bridesmaids when I got married, I barely knew them at the time. You're not required to have her, unless you've already asked her, then you're stuck.





I'd say leave your color scheme alone, if you've already done enough work that it's set, then it's set. Everyone has bridesmaids dresses sitting in their closet that they wore once, and will never again in their lives wear again, it's part of it. Also, if she can't be man enough (pardon the expression) to come to you HERSELF and tell you she doesn't like the color, then I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to accommodate her.





And there's a way to handle this with her without being a bridezilla. Actually, there's a couple of ways. You can let your bridesmaids choose either a pink or green dress, so that they're wearing the same dress, just in different colors. Or, you can show them the color swatches, and have them pick out any dress, just as long as it's one of the 2 colors. Make sure you place all orders at the same time to get the same color lot. Wedding parties are totally getting away from the matchy-matchy bridesmaid look, and I personally think it's high time. Not everyone looks their best in the same thing.





You can also politely tell her to simply wait until she sees the dress on--many times people think they look horrible in something, until they physically try it on. Sure, wearing a green color may be a little outside of her comfort zone, but she may find a new favorite color! If this fails, then politely remind her that it is your wedding, and you're making the decisions, and have already made decisions based on a color scheme. Politely tell her if she doesn't like it, she can not be in the bridal party, and wear whatever color she would like. Also, your finance should back you up on this, not take his sister's side. If he does, that's a HUGE red flag for you.





Good luck!
Reply:I agree with the first poster that the first girl can wear green, and the second girl pink, but WARNING - you can't please everyone.
Reply:don't change your color scheme for other people!


I think it might be nice if you had some girls in pink and some girls in green so you have both colors up there.


if you don't want both colors then you could get the girls together and have a vote, if most people descide on green the other girl should understand that this is what the majority picked and be ok with it. don't give in to her but don't be a bridezilla, just make it look like they choose the color of the dresses so noone gets blamed for having to wear whatever color. win-win don't ya think?!
Reply:Hey, it's your wedding! If you like it, have it!
Reply:I agree with the other posters, do not change your colors for any of your attendants. If those are the colors you want, then they will need to live with them. I think it is rude of either of them to even say anything!





Being a bridesmaid is not about looking good in the dress, it is about supporting your friends, sister, sister inlaw to be etc. Whether you are close to your sister in law to be or not she should still support you out of respect for her brother.





I would ignore their petty comments and choose the colors you want!





Good luck!
Reply:You gave right in to your fiend's wishes...what makes her wishes any less deserving of consideration?
Reply:Do not give IN!! It is YOUR wedding.... Your sister-in-law is abviously an attetion craver and right now the spotlight is on you and she is not happy about it... I repeat again .. Do not give in...Just a heads up after the color issue is resolved, I am sure there will be another issue that comes up that she is not happy about , just to draw attention to herself... Good Luck... And you will NOT be a bridezilla my having the color YOU want...
Reply:So then find dresses that match and make the first girl wear green and your sister in law wear the pink its your wedding and anyways they should wear what you want its only for a couple hours and they are supposed to be there to help you plan your wedding not plan it for you Oh ya thats not being a bridezilla trust me k
Reply:It is YOUR wedding and not theirs. Remember that. They should respect your wishes. If I were you I would not re-arrange the color theme. I don't think you will be a bridezilla by doing that. I agree that green will look better than pink. If you really want to make everybody happy then the only person who won't be happy is YOU. How about if put green and pink together. More in green and a bit of pink.
Reply:This is YOUR wedding!


Don't you dare give in to her! You don't change a thing!


The wedding is the bride %26amp; groom. You picked those as YOUR colors so those are YOUR colors.


She can wear %26amp; pick out whatever color scheme she wants for HER wedding!





"Not all women are pink kind of women"


I have been goth pretty much all my life %26amp; for my friends wedding I wore the pinkest damn girlie dress, had my hair all done up looking like little miss prom queen and these silver strappy high heels that looked like they belonged to a pole dancer....


She can manage.


If it's gonna be that much of a problem for her, she doesn't need to be in the wedding.
Reply:its your day and if she doesnt want to wear the dress then you can find someone that will


id choose bridezilla
Reply:First of all, I love your wedding colors because I chose the same ones! Anyway for your bridesmaid, if you were sensitive about one bridesmaid and her dislike for wearing pink, then you should be just as sensitive to the other bridesmaid that doesn't want to wear green. You can still have your colors, but maybe add another one in that would look nice, like lavender, or blue, or a second shade of pink, or something like that. If you don't want to add another color then if your close friend is the matron of honor then maybe have her in green and the other bridesmaids in pink. Or have a combination. It's your wedding so ultimately it is your decision, but I think if you gave the choice to one bridesmaid to opt out of pink, then you should give the choice to this bridesmaid to opt out of green. Green sometimes is a tricky color too, even though it's more universal than pink, depending on the shade some girls don't look good in green. Also you want your bridesmaids to feel comfortable and even if she didn't aproach you directly she probably feels better aproaching her brother because she doesn't want to upset you but for some reason she doesn't like green and I don't think you should force her into wearing green if she has to pay for the dress. If you decide to pay for her dress then she can wear whatever color you want. Just my opinion but I hope it helps and best of luck!
Reply:I would go to a universal color like violet,or purple. It has been my experience by having a wedding and attending them that these colors bring such a calm aura and a beautiful flare to the bridesmaid attire.
Reply:I think you should stay with your first choice. When I was about 16 my brother fiance choose the most awful dress ever it was like a red-purple dress short but with a long skirt open in the front attached. I hated the dress and the color, but I wear anyway because she was the bride and if she likes it why I am going to ruin her day saying something like I hate the dress I can't wear it. I think that would be selfish. Is your day she should use the dress and if she hate it so much she can change her clothe after the ceremony.
Reply:Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Isn't the bride supposed to be the most gorgeous person at the wedding? That is the whole idea. I just went to the wedding of a friend and she was lovely. Please keep your colors! It's YOUR dream day as it is for most women since they were little girls. It is a nice choice of colors by the way. I made style accomodations for my maid of honor whose slight pear shape didn't look good in the exact style I wanted but I liked the dress she spotted even better with ruching around the bust and it was a little more modest. It is an honor to be asked to be a part of someones wedding, even if you wear a hideous strawberry shortcake dress or have to make drastic alterations to get it to fit. If you don't get to have your colors, you will have started off on a bad foot having the grooms family dictate your life. I would discuss it more with your fiance and say that it is very important to you and that the bridesmaids are supposed to be supportive of you, not the other way around. Best wishes and I hope your wedding is everything you dreamed it would be.
Reply:It's YOUR wedding............you don't have to be a bridzilla to confront her on this.


IF she is so insistant on not wearing green then graciously excuse her form the wedding party and select another friend or relative.





You should never feel bad or have your mind changed on YOUR wedding things! It's YOUR day, it's been YOUR dream sense a small girl!


Tell her to put up and shut up or take the exit!!
Reply:Forget the sister and forget the other friend who spoke up about pink. You choose. It's your wedding. You will never please everyone. If you give on the color then there will be a lot more problems with the style, neckline, length, shoes etc. They will never stop trying to "negotiate" with you.
Reply:Maybe you and your bridesmaids could go shopping together for dresses, and say "These are the colors of the wedding, so we'll have to go with (give choice of colors), and find something you all can agree on.
Reply:You can state that you want your bridesmaids to wear green (sage is a good one...) without having to resort to becoming bridezilla. It's your wedding and you have a right to have it your way and if your future SIL doesn't like it, she can certainly step aside and not be a bridesmaid. You sound pretty fair and I give you credit for not forcing your girls to wear pink. That being said, if green is what you want, just say so and politely imply that if anyone should disagree, you would be more than happy to find something else for them to do at the wedding (do a reading, hand out programs, whatever.)
Reply:Your wedding, your colors, when they get married they can choose their colors. This is your day, YOU are going to be the one that has to look at the pictures for the rest of your life, and live with the memories. It's your day, you colors. Good luck! :o)
Reply:Nah, you go with the colours you want. It is your wedding.


She can wear it graciously, or bow out and let you find someone more appreciative and with better manners.


I was bridesmaid for a friend once. The dress was so ugly, big poofy sleeves and powder blue waterweave satin...ugh!!!


But I POLITELY chose to shut up and just wear the ugly dress. I felt like a frump but it was her wedding.
Reply:I say if she wishes to be in the wedding and has any kind of complaints she should be grown enough to to come to you woman to woman and tell you of her dislike for the color. You can relay the message to her personally on that one. And if she still chooses to be against the idea after talking it over with you, tell her the only other option is pink. So if she can't deal with pink either. Then she can be out of the wedding because you have already decided on your colors. She will just have to learn to deal with it.
Reply:i say it's your wedding, so as long as the dreses are nice, then she should be happy to wear it. that said, in Scotland, the bride traditionally pays for the bridesmaid dresses so the bridesmaid doesn't really have any say!
Reply:One thing I did for my wedding was have the bridesmaids wear different colors. My maid of honor wore a lilac gown to match the color beading on my dress. My other bridesmaids wore different shades of blue. I made sure that they all looked good together.


Since you have pink, green, and ivory, why not allow your bridesmaids to choose the color they want out of those 3? You approve the dress and the look. I would not recommend being a bridezilla and forcing anyone to wear something they aren't comfortable in. It would show in pictures that you will see years after. Don't you want to have happier memories? I'm very happy with what I did and I love the look in the pictures with the 3 different bridesmaids looks.
Reply:DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE TO SUIT HER TASTES!


You are not being a bridezilla by choosing your own colors for your own wedding and sticking to them.





Here's what you do. Pick out the dresses with the close friend whose judgement you trust.





Then, go to the sister and say this,


"I've chosen the bridesmaid dress, and it is green after all. I just love it! It's exactly what I've been dreaming of! John mentioned you don't like green though, so if you really feel strongly enough about it to not want to be a bridesmaid, I will understand. Maybe you could do the guest book instead?"





This lets her know several important things:


1. You have wanted this color scheme for awhile %26amp; love it.


2. You will not be moved on this issue no matter how she whines.


3. You are willing to let her participate in another way and you are not angry about her not being a bridesmaid.





You can never please everyone! She will either do it or not.


After getting her answer, move on to other plans and don't let her dampen your wedding spirits!

How can i become a florist?

I'm going to school at Keene State in NH, but nothing seems to interest me for majors.


Its taken me a long time to figure it out, but i really want to become a florist. At my grandmother's house she always gives me bowls of fruits and vases of flowers or baskets to arrange. And i absolutely love to do it.





So how do I become a florist? I need to go to college because I really don't want to let my mom down-my big brother didn't go and plus that's too much pressure on my little brother for him to be the only one to go to college. So I'm staying in school, but i just don't know what to study?? Some things I thought of were botany, horticulture, and graphic arts. or maybe a small business major...


man, I'm just stuck.





and can anyone offer any schools in like NH or Maine that are good for making me a florist? hehe

How can i become a florist?
You want a business degree. You want to study accounting, finance, management, human resources, e-business, logistics, business law, insurance, stuff like that.





In the meantime find a good florist that will give you some hours. Start at the bottom and try to do every job they have. If you want to own a flower shop you WILL be doing the bottom jobs ALL THE TIME.





Owning a flower shop is about arranging flowers, but it's more about payroll, working with suppliers, planning, cutting up boxes, scooping up huge piles of vegetative waste five times a day and paying your huge energy bill in the middle of august when nobody has come in all week.





Owning a flower shop is real business and it is not easy to be successful. You have huge competitors (Wal-Mart for example) and an extremely perishable product. Most small/family owned florists win by providing excellent customer service and an outstanding product that exceeds the customers expectations. If you can't pull off both of those things all the time you'll fail.





That being said, owning a flower shop is a fun an offbeat career path that allows for creativity on many levels. Good luck.
Reply:Talk to one of the floral shops in your area for advice.
Reply:Here is what the Department of Labor says:





http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos292.htm

choosing ice skates

Should i contact her after a slighlty akward valentines day?

basically i had arranged dinner plans with this girl i am dating...and she warned me she could not go cause she wassnt feelign well which was true...but i kinda said to her that may not be the only reason (hinting that she didt want ot go with me) she does like me....and doing dinner and flowers may have been to foward for her...should i say hi to her? text her? lasy phone convo was kinda forced and akward

Should i contact her after a slighlty akward valentines day?
just give her space, then talk to her in a few days
Reply:Text her!

Four of the five answers listed below are characteristic of monocots. Select the exception.?

a. flower parts in threes or multiples of three





b. pollen grains with one pore





c. one cotyledon in the seed





d. vascular tissue in the stems arranged in a ring





e. parallel veins in the leaf

Four of the five answers listed below are characteristic of monocots. Select the exception.?
d. vascular tissue is arranged in scattered bundles.
Reply:i think it is "B"

Do chicks still dig funky moves and sweet afros?

I have this girlfriend right, well, things are getting pretty serious right now. I mean, we chat online for, like, two hours every day so I guess you could say things are getting pretty serious.


We have arranged to meet up, how can I woo her? I'm pretty new on the dating scene.


I figured I would buy her some flowers and maybe a voucher for a glamour photoshoot? girls like that kind of thing right?

Do chicks still dig funky moves and sweet afros?
its easy


just give her your tots...gosh
Reply:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQKKgNC5E...
Reply:you betcha, and a gift certificate from victoria's secret...and wear your leopard skin thong the first time you meet her in person.
Reply:I always bring them a USB port storage device... they love that... *snort*
Reply:LOL WOW U CRACK ME UP!!!!!!!!!!! ummm I personally don't dig the fros but funky dance moves are good!!!!!!!

Well part two of previous question lets see have arranged private lunch at work for her &flowers?

all kinds of different things but yet no drive / but acts jelous/ but wont talk either

Well part two of previous question lets see have arranged private lunch at work for her %26amp;flowers?
Talk to her, right her a letter, sometimes the drive just isn't there or maybe she's depressed? After awhile things start to get kind boring, so trying something new might help. Is she on any meds. that can sometimes affect drive. Most important thing is foreplay!!!!!!!!

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Your house is on fire and you run out of the house in your underwear. When you get to the sidewalk you...?????

Secretly hope that cute neighbor sees you.


Notice that your cute neighbor sees you, and start dancing for him/her.


Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your research notes about the dangers of housefires.


Start ranting about the lack of fire sprinklers in residential buildings.


Calm down, talk to a flower, and whistle country music.


Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your computers.


Call your mother to tell her.


Wonder if there is a chatroom for victims of housefires.


Blame yourself for the fire.


Sigh, hug your pets, and yell for a neighbor to call the fire department.


Decide to write a haiku about the experience.


Call your agent and arrange for a photo op.


Call the local media.


Take issue with the type of firehose the firemen are using.


Decide to write a non-fiction book about victims of housefires.


Others.....say it

Your house is on fire and you run out of the house in your underwear. When you get to the sidewalk you...?????
I don't wear underwear, guess I'd hope the neighbor had some hanging on the clothes line!
Reply:oh god i am so stupid...all the time a was reading it i thought it said HORSE instead of HOUSE!!
Reply:get dressed, of course!
Reply:id run inside and grab my bag of marshmellow (i have PLENTY of them stashed all around the house)





and i would grab a stick, sit by the sidewalk, and make the most of the moment, because NOTHING you do can help you now...


Oh and maybe id ask that cutie froom next door to join me!
Reply:see the cute neighbor and decide to be heroic...you run inside to save the desperate souls trapped inside....when you realise there was no-one....
Reply:Fall over from exhaustion. I live in the country. The closest side walk is 15 miles away.
Reply:Be grateful that my family is OK and say to myself..


Well, I am looking for a new house anyway, so now I can use my insurance money to help pay for my new house and don't have to worry about finding a buyer for mine. Then smack myself in the forehead becuase it was all a dream, cause I am never going to get out of here. LOL.
Reply:Start screaming, yelling and jumping till you have a heart


attack and drop dead as the local firemen won't be there


to dose the fire till you're dead.
Reply:KEEP RUNNING SCREAMING I'M ON FIRE
Reply:call for help and wait for the firemen to come and ask my neighbor for something to cover up in
Reply:call for help... who cares you're just wearing an underwear, what's with that?
Reply:I would worry about if my kids were out 1st off


2nd grab a phone on my way out so I could call mom and tell her


3rd I would careless what I was wearing I live out in the middle of nowhere's. Nobody would see me but the fire dept. and they would give me a blanket.


I would just try to forget about it afterwards. But talk about it all the time to family and friends.
Reply:Put out the fire myself because I can.


And public servants generally move in slow motion.


I'd like to save more than the foundation.
Reply:take off the underwear due to heat being so hot.
Reply:Try to stop anyone from preventing the house from burning down
Reply:Get my pets out, and try to get some clothes in the way out
Reply:I have never had a day that bad, and I hope I never will
Reply:What is your question?
Reply:Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your computers.
Reply:Smack myself on the forehead, run back in and start saving my computers. And anythin else that i can really. I´d save my Cat first though.
Reply:start laughing at yourself.
Reply:I would run around screaming in my underwear. then I would go and take a big s hit on my neighbors porch. Actually all of my neighbors porches.
Reply:Turn to our lord and meditate on the sidewalk naked


and hope the neibor sees your winker
Reply:If it's your good underwear....pose.flaunt and flirt. If it's your tatty stuff....hide in a bush
Reply:Start dancing for the neighbors. (Maybe you'll make some money.)