Muslims/Muslimahs Day of the Dead Help.?

Hello brothers and sisters. I have a question. I have recently converted to Islam. I am Mexican and in our culture we have this holiday that is callled Day of the Dead. It is when we pray for the sake of our dead, also we arrange food on the table, flowers and candles, then we eat the next night. Is this something that I can still do? I mean I will be praying to Allah for my beloved dead.

Muslims/Muslimahs Day of the Dead Help.?
u can pray for them all the year around, but without previous intention of specifying a specific day. similar idea, mother's day 21 March, we obey mother all the year not only in this specific day (means this DATE has no islamic origin).


u r welcome to islam :)
Reply:as-salaam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,





Mabrook (congratulations) on becoming Muslim sister!





like most everyone is saying, this holiday is one you cannot celebrate anymore now that you are Muslim. I do know that depending on the region you are from, it is either just a day of families gathering and enjoying lots of food and time together, and in other places, it is a very religious celebration. But, the origins of this holiday was religious and today it is now mixed with the Catholic holiday of Día de Todos Santos.





We can keep cultural practices as long as they do not go against Islam, and unfortunately, Dios de los Muertos was and still is a non-Muslim religious celebration so it goes against Islam.





I totally know how hard it is to have to stop when it is all around you and you have been doing it for so many years... I am half Japanese and the Japanese have a celebration to honor the dead called O-bon or Bon Festival. It is a Buddhist celebration although even non-Buddhist families in Japan celebrate it as well. Families get together and go to clean and decorate graves and make prayers for them. Then there is also a dance festival that is celebrated for the dead called Bon Odori.





It is soooo fun but I had to stop celebrating it too. You may have some family who will get offended if you don't celebrate it. They won't understand why you won't and will tell you it is no big deal for you to celebrate it with them(even some of my family just don't understand why I can't celebrate it anymore).





inshallah you will have an easy time breaking away from this cultural practice sis. It was not too hard for me, but even after 5 years of being a Muslim I do miss all of the fun dancing and celebrations.





May Allah replace this with something better for you!
Reply:no sister , that is n't allowed in Islam.





what we ppl who still alive could pray for the dead at any time doing charities to their souls ..and they should be Muslims too sister.





the reason i told u that isn't right cuz that is cultural and not from religion besides , that is called bedaa i donnu what does it mean in english but it is when u do something and introduce it to the religion and it isn't from it although it is similar !also we aren't ordered honey to follow non Muslims , especially in the religious rituals and stuff, Islam has its unique features and Muslims has his own unique character.





wish i 've made it clear.





may Allah have mercy on all the dead and guide us to his straight path.





peace and happy Ramadan.
Reply:well sure u can pray for ur dad, but the flowers, and the table part, wont be allowed, u can pray to Allah s.w.t anytime u want and it will be answered





Hola! lolz
Reply:Fourteenth of Sha'baan, the month before the month of fasting is usually dedicated for people to pray for the dead and ask for forgiveness for their sins. Symbolically you are praying for them, but it also helps yourself to avoid committing sins that keep you from reaching your goals of spirituality.





Do not forget to ask the Holy One for your own salvation and to make you get closer to Him Almighty. As close as possible to His Divine presence that you are capable of reaching.
Reply:It's best to keep the Du'aa for those you love during the whole year, because God's mercy is not limited to just one Single Day. But if you go on this specific day and Make Du'aa and Prayer for them then that is still acceptable, just keep in mind that THIS specific day has no advantage on any other, because God's forgivness is present at all times, everyday...





Peace and have a blessed Ramadan
Reply:No you're not allowed to be celebrating any other holiday besides the 2 Eids. If you want to pray for the Dead you can make dua for them.
Reply:No, I'm pretty sure thats not allowed.
Reply:Not sure please ask the scholars at www.sunnipath.com
Reply:it is bidah, and the prophet prohibitied females visiting the graves. refrain from this act.
Reply:all I know is that prophet Muhammad didn't do that if you want to pray for the dead you can do it any other day Allah is always here why choose this day this is something you did when you weren't Muslim now you are and you know that you can pray anytime you want.


there is no such thing as the day of dead in Islam so be careful


may Allah guide you to the right path and forgive your sin and all Muslims
Reply:Yeah sure, I don't see why it would be a problem.





Wow, that's pretty amazing...you're Mexican and you converted to Islam!!!! God has truly lead you to the straight path, sister =)





Ramadhan Mubarak!!!
Reply:GOD knows what is truly in your heart.Mexicans have a culture and tradition that is part of who they are too.


Let your heart be your guide and let it be true.


By the way Mexicans are some of the most humble people on the planet . Welcome.
Reply:Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim





Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah





May Allah bless you and keep you on the Straight Path. I don't know all the details of this holiday, but I know it does have some parts which are really pagan in nature. I would advise you to refrain from participating as much as possible. Instead, concentrate on the fasting month of Ramadan and ask Allah to guide those of your relatives who are still living. Concentrate on learning as much as you can about your religion so that you can serve as a positive role model for them.





Definitely stay away from any ceremonies that involve a parade with statues, or ceremonies with statues that are supposedly of Jesus or Mary, since this is not permissible in Islam. Stay away from where people are praying in Jesus' name as you now know that Allah is the only One to whom we should direct our prayers.





May Allah help you to practice your Islam in peace.





Fi Aman Allah,





Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid
Reply:I think you could still visit the graves as long as you don't go decorate them or anything. I starred this for you.
Reply:I would place your prayers with a different Allah, and change the name of your holiday to living.

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Cryptic Chocolate quiz, what is the name of the chocolate bar from the clue given?

ie Sly giggles is Snickers


High class thoroughfare


Money making royalty


Dark occult


Mother's local


Clever folk


Various black items


Sport for Princes


Frankie Vaughan wanted it


Good children get these


Feline equipment


Garden flowers


Assorted girls


Dairy holder


Arrange marriage partners


Edible fasteners


Wobbly infants


Talk quietly


Big bus


Gem orchard


Spin around


Capital granite


Lorry driver's snack


100% Au


Istanbul harem


Up out there


Even more up out there


Big cat's pub


Noisy insect


One who wanders


Musical bard


It's a party


Outside meal


Easily blown


Locals from Malta


Reward


Ten cent pub


Toothless drink


Lost them…..?


Sweet tooth


Pub pins


I know I'm cheating ,but thanks for your help

Cryptic Chocolate quiz, what is the name of the chocolate bar from the clue given?
Quality Street


Mint Imperials


Black Magic


Mars Bar


Smarties


Liquorice Allsorts


Polo


Moonlight


Treats


Kit Kat


Roses


Dolly Mixtures


Milk Tray


Match Makers


Chocolate Buttons


Jelly Babies


Wispa


Double Decker


Opal fruits


Twirl


Edinburgh Rock


Yorkie


All Gold


Turkish Delight


Milky Way


Galaxy


Lion Bar


Humbug


Drifter


Minstrels


Celebration


Picnic


Fuse


Maltesers


Bounty


Dime Bar


Wine Gums


Marble


Candy Floss


Skittles
Reply:High clas thoruoghfare - Quality Street


Garden Flowers = Roses


Lorry Drivers Snack - Yorkie


Outside Meal - Picnic


Locals from Malta - Maltesers


Ten Cent Pub - Dime Bar


Istnbul harem - Tukish Delight


100% Au - All Gold


Talk Quietly - Whisper


Arrange Marriage Partners - Matchmakers


Clever Folk - Smarties


One who wanders - Drifter
Reply:Dark Occult - black magic


sport for princes - polos


garden flowers - roses


assorted girls - dolly mixtures


edible fastners -chocolate buttons


wobbly infants - jelly babies


talk quietly - wispa


big bus - double decker


spin around - twirl


capital granite - edinburgh rock


lorry drivers snack - yorkie


100% au - all gold


istanbul harem - turkish delight


even more up out there - galaxy


big cats pub - lion bar


outside meal - picnic


ten cent pub - dime bar


locals from malta - malteasers


pub pins - skittles





sorry can't work out the rest
Reply:Quality street,mint viscount,black magic,mars bar,smarties, ,aero, ,treats,kitkat,roses, ,milk tray,


matchmakers,chocolate buttons,jelly babies,whisper,double decker, ,twirl, ,trucker,all gold,turkish delight,galaxy,milky way,lion bar, , , ,celebrations,picnic, ,maltesers, ,dime bar,


gum drops, , ,skittles
Reply:Big bus = double decker


Spin around = twirl


Talk quietly - whisper


edible fasteners = buttons


wobbly infants = jelly babies


100% au = all gold


istanbul harem = turkish delight


outside meal = picnic





cant give them all now can i that would be cheating
Reply:mothers local, milky bar
Reply:edible fastners.... buttons


spin around.... twirl


istanbul harem... turkish delight


locals from malta... maltesers


wobbly infants.... jelly tots or jelly babies


feline equipment... kit kat


toothless drink... wine gums


easliy blown... aero bubbles
Reply:High class thoroughfare - Quality Street


Dark Occult - Black Magic


Various black items - Liquorice Allsorts


Sport for Princes - Polo


Garden flowers - Roses


Big bus - Double Decker


Wobbly infants - Jelly Babies


Big cat's pub - Lion bar


Istanbul Harem - Turkish Delight


Outside meal - Picnic


Locals from Malta - Maltesers


10 cent pub - Dime bar


Assorted girls - Dolly Mixture
Reply:Snickers - yummy peanuts and chocolate!!
Reply:Lost them…..? - Marbles? (Cadbury's did a 'Marble' bar)


Various black items - Liquorice allsorts


Noisy insect - Humbug


Gem orchard - Opal fruits?


Mother's local - Milky bar?


Good children get these – Treats


Sweet tooth - Sugar fangs/ fizzy fangs? Not sure about this one!


Hope it helps! I could have got the other ones too, but came along too late!
Reply:garden flowers=roses


lorry drivers snack=yorkie


istanbul harem=turkish delight


toothless drink=winegums


spin around=twister


100%au=terrys all gold


wobbly infants=jelly babies


assorted girls=dolly mixtures


up out there=mars bar
Reply:talk quietly wispa
Reply:Big Cats Pub = Lion Bar


Talk quietly = wispa


Dark Occult = Black Magic


Lorry drivers snack = Yorkie??


Pub pins = Skittles


Ten Cent Pub = Dime Bar
Reply:Locals from Malta - Maltesers.


Talk quietly - Whisper


Outside meal - Picnic


Edible fasteners - Buttons


Big Bus - Double Decker


Spin around - Twirl


Dairy holder - Milk Bottles


Up out there - Milky Way
Reply:High class thoroughfare – Quality Street


Money making royalty – Mint Imperials


Dark occult – Black Magic


Clever folk - Smarties


Sport for Princes - Polos


Frankie Vaughan wanted it – Moonlight


Feline equipment – Tiger nuts NO not really its Kit Kat


Garden flowers - Roses


Assorted girls – Dolly Mixtures


Dairy holder – Milk Tray


Arrange marriage partners - Matchmakers


Edible fasteners – Chocolate Buttons


Wobbly infants – jelly tots or babies


Talk quietly - Wispa


Big bus – Double Decker


Spin around - Twirl


Capital granite – Edinburgh Rock


Lorry driver's snack – possibly a Yorkie


100% Au – All Gold


Istanbul harem – Turkish delight


Up out there – Milky way


Even more up out there - Galaxy


Big cat's pub – Lion Bar


One who wanders - Drifter


Musical bard - Minstrels


It's a party - Celebrations


Outside meal - Picnic


Easily blown – Aero Bubbles


Locals from Malta - Maltesers


Reward - Bounty


Ten cent pub – Dime Bar or Daime Bar depending on where you buy it


Toothless drink – wine gums


Pub pins - Skittles





Still can’t get these


Lost them…..?


Sweet tooth


Noisy insect


Gem orchard


Mother's local


Various black items


Good children get these – not sure but could be Rewards or Treats





Will ask my daughter she's an expert on any advertising (consumer)
Reply:Money making Royalty: Mint


Dark occult: Dark Magic


Dairy holder: Milk Chocolate


Wobbly infants: Jelly Babies


Sport for Princes: Polo


Big cats pub: Lion bar

Wedding flowers?

i'm planning my wedding. when you got married, did you go to a florist and have them do everything, or did you buy your flowers wholesale? if so, who created your bouquet and arrangements? i really want irises and either white roses or calla lilies, but i dont know where to start on finding them (i havent gone to any florists yet). i've just been looking online, and i found lots of wholesalers where i can get each flower at about $1.25 (give or take) a stem, so for like 225 flowers it would only cost around $300. i can arange them myself (i think), but i dont know how to make the bouquet. but i dont know what a florist would charge to get the flowers and do all the arrangments herself.just thought i'd get some ideas for you guys. my wedding isnt until may 2009, so its not a rush kinda thing. for valentines day, my fiance and i each got eachother irises, both arranged by ourselves cause they just came as buds in a box and came out great so i dont think that parts an issue

Wedding flowers?
my mom is a florist and did all of my flowers, we did mostly silk so that the week before the wedding wasn't overwhelming. you can easily make hand tied bouquets but realize that's one more thing you need to do the week before the wedding and that week goes fast. as for the flowers you mentioned, i don't think calli lillies are that price whole sale but you should still be able to find them cheaper than at a florist. if you have a family member that is willing to help that would make a difference, if not you may want to spend the extra cash and have a florist do it for you.
Reply:when I got married, I had Loblaws create a bouquet of Casa Blanca Lillies...they were absolutley stunning...and very reasonable.





check out places like Wallmart, Loblaws,...etc...they're very reasonable, and really nice arrangements.





(remember after the day,...they don't last very long,.....put your money towards something else).....





also...keep the arrangement very simple..less is best
Reply:When I got married, I bought all of my flowers wholesale and my Mom did all of my bouquets... They turned out beautiful and have much more meaning to me than if I had just hired someone to do them. Silk flowers may be an option (that is what I used) they look real and keep forever. As far as making a bouquet, they can be as simple or elaborate as you want them. Flowers in weddings have become so versatile that you can go from one simple long stem to a bouquet the size of a basketball... that is really personal preference.
Reply:I made my own and used fresh flowers. I was able to buy tulips online and they were packed well and were in excellent condition despite the hard texas july heat (and tuplis are a spring cool temp flower). I had them delivered Friday morning and my wedding was Saturday. My moh, my mother and a family friend put them together the night before the wedding. They turned out great. You need to be able to keep them in the fridge though, so make sure you have room and dont have them shipped too far in advance. You're taking a change that they might not arrive, so I was very nervous, but it turned out fine. I had a back up plan to go buy silk flowers at the last minute just in case but I did not need to. I found a lot of help on making the arrangements and getting ideas from www.bhg.com.
Reply:I went with a florist - and a wedding planner. She's taking care of about 90% of everything - right down to making hotel/limo/dinner/makeup/hair reservations... cake... you name it, she's taking care of it for me. Even is finding a place to have my gown/veil steamed before the wedding.





Gotta love it!





I'm doing a destination/elopement wedding on the other side of the country. So she's been a great help!





Good luck and Congratulations!!!
Reply:I don't recommend doing flowers yourself. I almost never do. Florists know how to process the flowers etc from beginning to end. Wedding flowers are a lot more involved than people really know. Wholesalers usually only sell to floral shops. Unless you have a flower market near you that would work. Keep in mind the price of flowers fluctuates. Prices go up and down depending upon the harshness of the season, oil prices(to heat greenhouses , shipping etc.) supply and demand of certain fad flowers and colors.


I advise having a consultation with a floral designer. I am one and I never charge for the first meeting. Make sure before you call for the appointment you have all of the dresses picked out, swatches are helpful too. Be prepared. Have a list of everything you need. The less you have to go back to the designer the less your flowers are. Pick up your bouquets and boutonnieres instead of having them dropped off if that is all the flowers you are buying. Good luck :)


By the way Iris are lovely and especially at that time of year!
Reply:i had my florist do it all. i told her what i wanted and she more than came through. i would hire a florist you do not want to stress out about how your flowers look and how many boquets you do. can you be sure that you can have all the bridesmaids look equal?

Appropriate gift for conductor?

What is an appropriate gift for a conductor, a soloist (soprano) and the orchestra. I thought a donation to the travel fund and flowers for the soprano and conductor. Does that seem appropriate?





It's a high school performance and the premier of an original song. I feel like I should do something for the lady who arranged it, too...the least of which would be file the paperwork and pay the fee to have it copyrighted.

Appropriate gift for conductor?
What is your role here? Your suggestions sound like something that will be appreciated. One caveat--if the conductor (or anyone else) is a public school employee, the school system might have a gift policy. If so, keep it in mind, so you don't inadvertently put them in an awkward spot. One way to get around that might be to make the donation to the "band boosters" or whatever the orchestra parents' group is called, if there's not an officially-sanctioned travel fund.

Flowers after a second date?

Met a girl and have been on two dates which went well and have arranged a third. Am thinking of sending her flowers when she's at work but don't know if this is a good idea or is it too early to be doing stuff like this.

Flowers after a second date?
Brilliant :). You sound like a clever boy. She's very lucky.
Reply:Personally I think it's a lovely idea! Romancing is definitely a dying art and something I constantly hear girls talking about. I think she would be really flattered. My boyfriend buys me flowers every month and I LOVE IT. I don't know any girls who don't like them. I think it would be better to give them to her face to face rather than at work though to avoid a public display as you are feeling unsure and don't want to embarrass her. Good luck and I hope you do send flowers!
Reply:I would send a small boquet with a note saying something like you look forward to seeing her on (the day). Otherwise, if you aren't sure about sending them to work, then bring her a boquet when you pick her up for date.


Trust me don't go big, but this will really set the tone that you want to romance her. I think most girls would be highly flattered. Why not go with something like tulips due to the season?
Reply:As long as shes not elergic to flowers she will love them,


we all love flowers. when i first went out with my now hubby i was only 15 and every time i seen him he brought me flowers i loved the idea of regfular flowers, 20+ years later i still get flowers although not everyday now.








♥Midnight~Angel♥
Reply:depend on what kind of girl she is, if she will be like whats he sucking up for then no no no. but if she the sucker for anything sweet then yes, but maybe not go all out and spend like 60 bucks maybe just a rose sent to her house or something, not a yellow one thats something you give to your sick grandma.
Reply:Nope, infact its a great idea.. 3rd date is perfect! The 1st %26amp; 2nd way to early, they might think your just a pushoever.... BUT 3rd date... good idea!


P.S You start doing this now... you will have to continue doing spontaneous things for ever.... thats not a bad thing right?
Reply:Good idea! Just don't go overboard with it. Send a mixed arrangement with a card that isn't too mushy. Like saying I am looking forward to our next date or something like that. Do NOT send roses - it will send the wrong signal. Good luck!
Reply:It's definitely a good idea, I was with someone for 3 years and after about 4 dates I bought her 2 tickets to court no 1 at Wimbledon and looking back now I went over the top so flowers are a good idea.
Reply:Go for it you must be a real gentleman to even be thinking like that!! You must do what you feel is right and show your own personality.
Reply:Go for it. Just don't spend too much, coz she might be two-timing you and that would be a waste of money.





Also, don't put anything sexual on the note card.
Reply:said it with flowers as simple as that. She will be happy to date you again.
Reply:Bring her one single rose when you pick her up and then after that send flowers if all goes good..GoodLuck!!
Reply:she will think thats sweet


good idea


go for it
Reply:its a bit too early for it
Reply:she will think there a sweet and romatic thing
Reply:i think that is nice.

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A poem called Forbidden?

Forbidden


Written by Semper Fi Reborn





She seemed to rise


From the surface and sprout flowers


A bouquet of pleasant petals


Arranged to please the eyes


Her branches


Flowed out from her sides


Then slightly upward


Toward the sky


In a serene dance with the wind.


The sun shined on her


Happily


Braggingly


Pleased with this ability to


Caress her


Hold her in the light


Of a bright morn


She was created to stand there


In the center of the garden


Unscathed


Untouched


Purely tempting


For her fruit was forbidden.

A poem called Forbidden?
wow..........wow.


I absolutely love it.


Thank you sooo much:)
Reply:I do have a little problem with the 'she' of it all, but what the heck, I'm not gonna let a gender issue stop me from saying


TERRIFIC


It's a beautiful day when I


Stay out of the way of


The Tree Of Knowledge Of Good And Evil


:)
Reply:You had me right up until the last line.





5.0/10 The picture is a little fuzzy.
Reply:Do you publish your poems? This one is really beautiful and to the point!





You do have a bit of a stumble in the second line that you may want to fine tune.
Reply:Beautiful.


As usual Semper, your gift shines!


God Bless your day!
Reply:this is one of your best one's yet!!!
Reply:I have entered my poems into a contest and i am a published author and I'm only in Gr. 8. I really think you should consider sharing them with the world. Your poems are beautiful and truly from the heart. If you want some contests feel free to ask!
Reply:Wonderful, Semp. The description of the Tree of Life is remarkable,and such a message. There are somethings in this world that we,as human beings, and most importantly children of God,are not to interfere with. There are things to admire in nature,but unfortunately,as with Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden,we still meddle with balance of nature that God created. This should be a wake-up call to leave well enough alone,and once again,bless you Semp for some eloquent,thought provoking word.

Tips for Homecoming if You Can't Stand Your Date?

I am going to homecoming tonight, and i need a few tips. My date is hard to be around. He is loud, immature, and has never had a date before (something which i found out after he asked). I had known him for a week and a half before he asked me and i thought he was a nice normal guy. A week after this he changed dramatcally. I now can't even stand to be in the same room with him, much less dance with him. I found out last night that he is bringing me flowers, he is picking me up (i already arranged a ride), and his parents want to meet my parents. I have told him we are just going as friends. He can meet me at my friend's house for pictures, go to dinner, and the dance. I can take myself. I have told him it's ok for me to take myself, he doesnt have too. How do i handle this? This is his first date, so i think he is tryign to make it sometihng like in the movies in the 50's. I have had numerous dates, and i dont feel tha comfortable getting treated like a flower! i am independent! Help!

Tips for Homecoming if You Can't Stand Your Date?
Smile your way through the evening. Make sure you dance with him at least once. Spend as much time with your friends as you can. Try and talk your friends into sitting with you.





Make sure he has a good experience with his first date. You will be free of him soon enough, but his memory of the first date will live with him forever.





Remember that what he says or does is not a reflection on you. You are not responsible for his actions no matter how dumb they may seem. Just shrug your shoulders and look at the other people. They will understand.





Make sure he takes you home right after the dance. Go straight home and refuse any offer to go out for a party or food. Get home as soon as possible and don't go out with him again.
Reply:I would cancel the date and tell him exactly what you just told us.

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Who gets flowers?

I've got to start interviewing florists soon, and I'm trying to make a list of the flowers I'll need for our wedding. I've got the centerpieces and the bouquets down, but I'm not sure who all is supposed to get a boutineer or corsage. Obviously the groomsmen get boutineers and the mothers get corsages, but who else? I want to have an accurate count so I can figure out my floral budget. Thanks! Oh, and what other arranged bouquets will I need as well? I know I'll need a couple of arrangements for the altar, but what else?

Who gets flowers?
Okay!! Other than your bouquet and the centerpieces on the dinner tables, make sure you have other tables counted as well- if you are doing anything for the buffet table (if you are having one), gift table (ditto), guest book table, etc.





A few arrangements at the altar are nice, also decide if you want to have anything at the end of the pews and if so, are they going to be floral?





Dont'd forget flower petals - for the flower girls (if theyre allowed to drop them), as well as possibly having guests throw them on you (instead of rice, etc.), and possibly decorating tables with them.





For boutonnieres, corsages, and bouquets, you have obviously the bride and groom, then the groomsmen and bridesmaids, and then mothers and fathers. Some people also choose to honor grandparents with corsages/boutonnieres, or any other guests you want to distinguish, such as godparents. It is also very nice to have anyone who is doing something for you in the ceremony, like reading or singing, to have one.





Also decide on if you want flowers or some other topper on your cake.





Oh and if your flower girls arent or cant drop petals, make sure you have something for them - a mini-bouquet or a pomander ball, or something.





And decide if you are planning to throw the bouquet-you may want a smaller, less expensive "tossing" bouquet instead of using your real one if you want to keep/preserve your own.





All of this is optional-you can stick to the bare bones (wedding party and parents) or flesh it out the the rest of this, but there shouldnt be anything I didnt put on the list that is usually done. Don't forget if you want to save money or do things a little differently, you can use silk flowers instead of real ones, you can choose what types of flowers you use-different ones cost A LOT differently, you can have bridesmaids carry candles or flower girls ring bells, etc. You can also get bouquets and boutonnieres made out of swarovski crystals which are really pretty, or you could do non-floral centerpieces (like floating candles, etc). Just some ideas; good luck!!!
Reply:Don't forget the ushers. And congratulations!!!
Reply:You'd be just as married if you had no flowers at all, so the answer is "anyone you'd to whom you'd care to make a gift of flowers." Generally the bride has some sort of bouquet (to later throw) and the groom has some sort of buttonhole blossom. Everything beyond that is really just icing on the cake. If your florist tries to tell you otherwise, tell your florist that Miss Manners says and that he/she is just trying to pad the bill.
Reply:Some brides include the grandparents as well. I think it's a nice gesture.





Good luck
Reply:We did-


Great Aunt (because my grandmothers are passed), his 5 sisters who are not in the wedding, sister's husband not in the wedding, fathers, mothers and the groomsmen and bridesmaids and of coarse us.


Extra- Church flowers- talk to the church about what you need.
Reply:The fathers should get boutineers as well. Otherwise, I think you've got it covered.
Reply:Fathers of the bride and groom should get boutonnieres.





You may want to give boutonnieres and corsages to the grandparents of the bride and groom.





If you or your groom-to-be have godparents you may want to consider giving them boutonnieres and corsages too.
Reply:the florist knows.
Reply:Your bridesmaids, groomsman, the groom and the bride. Then the parents get one, perhaps the grandparents. Don't worry about anyone else.





As far as decorative flowers, I suggest ditching anything that isn't for your reception tables. Flowers are by far one of the biggest wedding rip offs. They cost a lot of money and die. Depending on your church/ceremony site, you may not need additional decor. BTW, I used ProFlowers.com, and they were great.
Reply:The flower girl needs petals. Get a buttonhole for the ring bearer. And the bridesmaids get bouquets.
Reply:A lot of the time bridesmaids get flowers as well. and any other who are in the wedding party like sisters brothers in laws and so forth you really need to know who is going to be part of the ceremony and what not cause they should have flowers and yes your grandparents should have one as well nieces and nephew don't really need then only if they are old enough to have one or ware one


you should also find pictures of flowers and arrangements that you like so you can show the florist what you would like to have


hope this helps and good luck
Reply:A good loving heart is all you need.


Best Wishes


P.S If he comes in late from work and says he had a business meeting.


Make him do 50 push ups and yell out "Yes MAaam" I will obey"

Looking for Water Lilies or lotus?

I am desperate looking for "Nymphaea" AKA watter lilies, i would even set up for lotus.





I need to find a florist that can arrange a bouquete of this flowers, and ship it to manhattan, kansas i will pay anything for it. i have being trough several sites but i have only found dead ends. please help me.

Looking for Water Lilies or lotus?
http://www.nesteggfarms.com/
Reply:why is this in this catagory??

Do these flowers look good to you?

I'm thinking white Narcissus and Blue Larkspurs. I'm still uncertain about how the florist should arrange them.

Do these flowers look good to you?
very pretty! if it were me i would have the white flowers with a few blues mixed in as the center of your bouquet with all blue surrounding them! [it will stand out much nicer against your gown].


your attendants bouquets could be the same or have the flowers mixed together for another pretty look!


however you choose to mix them i think your flower choices are lovely! happy wedding!
Reply:Personally I don't like the combination, but I guess it also depends on the occasion - what do you want to use these flowers for?
Reply:Have a bunch of blue Larkspurs in the center and on the outside white Narcissus, then intertwine/ woven white, butter cream, and royal blue satin trailing down the bouquet.
Reply:I'd say for those flowers have like 3 or 4 blue ones in the center then have some white ones surronding them. It will look very nice.
Reply:They're nice. maybe put the blue ones in a group, like around the tables? and then white around the blue. so it'll contrast
Reply:HI! I found the following pictures by typing them into an image search engine. So, if they are the correct flowers, they're beautiful! Personally, i would do a rounded bouquet of the white flowers with blue flowers put into the white bouquet in a messy organized way. The third link is a picture similar to what I'm talking about, the main color with the second color spread throughout. No matter which way you had them arranged, these beautiful flowers will look great together. Congrats on your upcoming wedding. And good luck!





http://www.calflora.net/bloomingplants/i...





http://plants.thompson-morgan.com/pix/m/...





http://www.blossomsweddingflowers.com/im...
Reply:i would put the blue flowers in a heart design and put the white flowers in the center it will look very eligant
Reply:Hey hon, its just a weeding its not really about the flowers or what other people like its about how to make your day YOURS. So if you want those flowers get them.

How much SHOULD I be earning an hour?

I work as a Professional Floral Designer. I have a degree in Horticulture and 10+ years work experience. My work experience includes but is not limited to:(this is what I do every day) Designing/arranging fresh cut and silk flowers per customer order; answering phones; waiting on customers; plant care (watering etc); processing fresh cuts when they first come in, cleaning and basic shop up-keep; occasional delivery, some basic computer work; ordering some product from wholesalers (not too often though..) and managing the shop when the boss isn't here...which seems like most of the time......I am her only employee and get $8.10/ hour...am I getting screwed or what? If she gives me a raise, she cuts back the number of hours I work.





Oh, I live in Central NY State....not near the city

How much SHOULD I be earning an hour?
Sounds like you need to find someone else to work for.
Reply:Check around with other local companies and see what the average rate is. Pay rates have an extremly wide range throughout the US and sometimes even inside the states so asking on here will probably not help you all too much. In my opinion it sounds like you should be making more though.
Reply:Sounds like you need to ask for a raise or get a better paying job!
Reply:I wonder why with a college degree and 10 year experience you are only working for $8 an hour. You obviously have the talent, the experience and the knowledge. Why don't you start your own flower business? Yes it will require a lot of hard work and sacrifice. However, do you want to depend on someone else the rest of your life to determine your fate and how much you get paid. I also realize that business start up costs are very expensive, and getting a business loan also requires great credit and collateral.


However, if running your own business is not for you, then you should be the one managing a flower shop. Yes, I agree that you are getting screwed, but you are the one allowing it to happen. Don't blame your boss, because she is simply following labor laws and is more concerned about your paying customers. Take charge of your life and vision yourself being successful. I wish you great success.
Reply:Your degree has nothing to do with your job, you know that right. Our floral shops hire people off the street and then train them. I would say that is good amount of money for someone that works in a retail flower shop.

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Does anyone know where I can get these cheaper?

I am ordering flowers wholesale and having a friend arrange them for us. We have a pretty good idea of what we are doing, but I would love to do some tall centerpieces, I found these:





http://www.save-on-crafts.com/silvervase...





But I was curious if anyone knew where to find them cheaper, I don't really need silver plated ones, aluminum or even plastic ones could work, I just want the silver look.





Any help would be great! Thanks!

Does anyone know where I can get these cheaper?
Have you tried Wal Mart or local craft shops? Maybe even eBay, depending on how many you need to buy.





Good luck!
Reply:This is a whole sale place for tower vases and other vases. Unbelievable prices:





Here you go:





http://www.towervase.com/pages-main/inde...





Good luck
Reply:you can try www.orientaltraiding.com


they have lots of wedding supplies and comes in quantities and very cheap!


For an example... wedding bubbles, $6.95 for 24
Reply:you may have to go for glass or clear plastic, check out some craft stores. also some rental places rent alot of wedding stuff and they may have something like them, some florist may also have something they would rent. you could maybe even make something like them with some stuff from home depot and paint. look around, look around i'm sure you can find a less expensive alternative that gives the same look
Reply:don't know where to find those exact ones cheaper, but you could substitute a glass vase and spray paint it silver if that would do the trick for you
Reply:Hmmm...That is the website I would normally recommend as they have good prices. If you aren't wedded to the silver idea, they have clear glass ones for about 4-5/vase. You could wrap a piece of fabric or tie a ribbon around it to give more color (check out marthastewartweddings.com for a video about this).





If you must have silver, check out your local craft store, Michael's, Ben Franklin, or Hobby Lobby. If there is a Hobby Lobby near you, keep an eye out for sales (which they have frequently) and 40% off coupons (available on their website--www.hobbylobby.com--you can keep an eye on sales at that site too). You can only use one coupon at a time, but you can go through the line as many times as you want and you can take a friend....





good luck!
Reply:If you have a Michael's craft store around, they have something very similar. Also, have you tried to find somewhere that will rent them? Good Luck!
Reply:If the tall vases are for your guests tables at the reception, I wouldn't do it. They won't be able to see each other to talk because of the centerpiece. If they are for the buffet tables or the head table or cake table or the ceremony, that's fine. I would look at Walmart, Target and Flower Factory if you are a member. You should be able to find something that you like at a place like those.

Am I over-reacting here ?

I feel really angry and hurt. My Grandpa died suddenly just over 4 weeks ago. I started working for a company 4.5 months ago. I didnt tell many ppl at work what had happened I was upset and didnt want to get upset at work. For the last 4 months, a colleagues mother in law has had a stroke then got cancer and now has died. The colleague is on holiday. We all share a room at work and the other colleages arranged a card and flowers whereas I got nothing. I feel like they dont like me and have forgotten about my loss. I was asked for money towards flowers and although I like the person I felt so hurt that I said we should all be treated the same and was told that this was different by a colleague who then didnt even ask me to sign the card so when this lady comes back to work she'll think I am a horrible person for not signing her card !!!





I am very angry with this person at work who didnt even ask me to sign the card and told me "you do whatever the hell you like!"

Am I over-reacting here ?
that's the problem with privacy, you usually get it.


then realize it's not what you wanted at all.





yes, you are over reacting, but i can relate to it. it's not the end of the world. he didn't ask you to sign the card because of the way you reacted when he asked for money, so you can't be too mad at that.





situation solved: buy a card yourself and leave it on her desk. not everyone can donate money anyway, times are tough, but we can always afford a card.
Reply:I think there's a combination of things going on.


- People don't know you very well, and they know this other person better.


- You only told a few people and probably made it clear that you didn't want the whole office to know because you didn't want to be upset. They probably (and rightly) felt that having the office at large present you with a card would be hurtful and uncomfortable for you. That IS what you seem to have indicated. Seems to me you should appreciate the fact that these few honored your wishes on the matter, and kept your private stuff private.





I wonder how they feel about that NOW?


Probably back-stabbed.


Maybe you should look into that, and try to mend any offenses, since these few people sound like friends worth having.





- The other is a death at the end of long illness, which everyone probably knew about as well. Of COURSE they would get a card!





I suggest that if you want all your colleagues to recognise your personal issues, you tell them all about the things that go on with you; and if you keep stuff private, be glad those few you tell are also keeping your private stuff private.





I suggest that you get a card for the lady, and if you want you can explain how you understand since you also had a recent loss.





If you do talk to her, DO NOT minimize her loss by up-playing your own! This current thing is about HER loss.





You wished to keep yours private.





The person you are angry with is probably irritated about your flip-flop on what you want private and what you don't, and doesn't know what the hell you want from her.


She probably didn't ask you to sign the card due to your reaction to being asked for money for flowers. You made it all about YOU.





You need to make up your mind what you want here.


Do you want your private stuff private, or do you want everyone to know so they can sympathize?





Make up your mind and then go mend bridges.
Reply:I can understand your hurt, but you said that you did not tell many people. Maybe the one or two people you told did not tell anyone and you did say your grandfather died suddenly. The other colleague's mother-in-law has been battling cancer for awhile, so that is forefront in the minds of everyone.





Maybe if it is to late to sign the card, you could get one of your own.
Reply:yes
Reply:No, I don't think you are over reacting to this. Everyone would liked to be acknowledged for the loss you suffered. It was very rude and thoughtless of the your co-workers to not have treated you as kindly. They should be the ones embarrassed by their behavior. I myself am very sorry for you loss.
Reply:You didn't tell people about your loss... How do you expect them to show sympathy?


And, you like the woman, but let your petty little self pity take over and cause you to hurt someone who did nothing wrong.


No, you were not allowed to sign the card because you didn't contribute to the effort. Why should you be allowed to take credit for everyone else's donation?


Now, you cannot expect to be treated the same as someone who has been there longer than you. And, frankly, from your post, I feel pretty confident in saying that as jealous as you are, you won't EVER be treated as a friend in that office.


Grow up.


**Ok.. so for 19 years you choose to stay away. Yes, he could have contacted you, but that road runs both ways.


Bottom line, it's not the fault of the people in the office that you didn't choose to share with them. It IS, however, your fault that you choose to act like a petty child.
Reply:The squeaky wheel gets all the oil! Perhaps this one person does not like you - so what? You are being jealous of the attention this vacationing women is getting. Stop that! Jealousy is a worm that eats a hole in your heart. Think about it. Are you looking for attention for your sorrow? Your relationship/sorrow with your G.P. belongs to you and really doesn't need attention, except by YOU. In the mean time....don't let other's inconsiderations control your emotions. Some people's intelligence (or lack thereof) is just not worth acknowledging! I am sorry for your loss and if I was in your office, you bet you'd get cards and flowers! Blessed Be
Reply:yes you are overreacting. you choose a month ago not to have people know so they could not have helped you or comfort you so it is not their fault someone else is reaching out and they are comforting them but if you want to sign the card you should . you choose to keep your personal life quiet but that doesnot mean you don't care about others. buck up quit the sorry for me thing; sign the card and go on!!
Reply:Well, it seems to me that you're co-workers just didn't realize how much of a huge loss your grandfather was.





I suspect the problem was two-fold A) not many people knew about his tragic death and B) not many people in your office know you very well.





When this other person comes back, have a little talk about her, tell her about your grandfather, and then you can use each other for mutual support.





For this person you are angry at, I say "forgive and forget" seems like this person is not worth getting worked up for.
Reply:You have the right to feel how-ever you want to feel,but it more sounds like you want people to feel sorry for you.And when they don't, you get up-set.Sounds a little immature to me.All you are saying is they like him better than me.How long has he worked there?4 months or 10 years.There is a difference.And besides why care?

Muslims/Muslimahs Day of the Dead Help.?

I know this is not about Ramadan, but this date is coming, it is Oct 1 to 3. And I know that this part of the yahoo answers is visited mostly by muslims.


Hello brothers and sisters. I have a question. I have recently converted to Islam. I am Mexican and in our culture we have this holiday that is callled Day of the Dead. It is when we pray for the sake of our dead, also we arrange food on the table, flowers and candles, then we eat the next night. Is this something that I can still do? I mean I will be praying to Allah for my beloved dead.


Saalam.

Muslims/Muslimahs Day of the Dead Help.?
Assalam Alikum w/r w/b, Sister.





Well first off, hats off to you for converting to Islam. Islam is truly a very peaceful and beautiful religion, and i am very sure that you won't regret your decision.





I have heard of Day of the Dead, although not too knowledgeable, but I have heard of the Holiday.





As long as you pray and dua to ALLAH, asking him to save the deceased from the fire of hell, i think it will be ok.





As long as you don't participate in anything that is against Islam, such as polytheistic rituals, and as long as you don't believe anything that is not written or preached in Islam, i think you will be fine..





From personal experience, I would like to add, that mixing culture with faith can be a very hard task, because depending on where you are from, traditions can vary, but ultimately, Paradise is our main goal, and in order to get to Paradise, we need to follow Islam...





May Allah (swt) keep you on the straight path inshallah leading up to Jannat.





Hope i helped and RAMADAN MUBARAK!!





Allah Hafiz
Reply:as-salaam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,





(I answered on your other question too but I will put my response here as well)





Mabrook (congratulations) on becoming Muslim sister!





like most everyone is saying, this holiday is one you cannot celebrate anymore now that you are Muslim. I do know that depending on the region you are from, it is either just a day of families gathering and enjoying lots of food and time together, and in other places, it is a very religious celebration. But, the origins of this holiday was religious and today it is now mixed with the Catholic holiday of Día de Todos Santos.





We can keep cultural practices as long as they do not go against Islam, and unfortunately, Dios de los Muertos was and still is a non-Muslim religious celebration so it goes against Islam.





I totally know how hard it is to have to stop when it is all around you and you have been doing it for so many years... I am half Japanese and the Japanese have a celebration to honor the dead called O-bon or Bon Festival. It is a Buddhist celebration although even non-Buddhist families in Japan celebrate it as well. Families get together and go to clean and decorate graves and make prayers for them. Then there is also a dance festival that is celebrated for the dead called Bon Odori.





It is soooo fun but I had to stop celebrating it too. You may have some family who will get offended if you don't celebrate it. They won't understand why you won't and will tell you it is no big deal for you to celebrate it with them(even some of my family just don't understand why I can't celebrate it anymore).





inshallah you will have an easy time breaking away from this cultural practice sis. It was not too hard for me, but even after 5 years of being a Muslim I do miss all of the fun dancing and celebrations.





May Allah replace this with something better for you!
Reply:The Day of the Dead is more of a cultural practice then a religious one, but it's mostly practiced by those of the Catholic faith, mainly in Mexico.





In Islam, you can pray for the dead that they will enter Jinah after Judgement Day, Allah has nothing against that, but the foundation of Islam is against idol worship, didn't Moses come down to the people and find them worshiping the Golden Calf and tell them to turn away from it and follow the One God?





I personally, this shouldn't affect your belief but, I see the Day of the Dead as practically praying to your dead in hopes that they will give you protection and watch over you. This seems really close to Idol worship, but in your heart, if you believe in Allah alone and know that no one can take his place, then I do not see a problem with it in the cultural aspect.
Reply:i know that those of the jewish faith practice something similar but i don't know about muslims. i don't see why you can't honor the dead anyway. the tradition you're speaking of is a mexican one, not a catholic one. it has nothing to do with religion really. it's more of a cultural custom.
Reply:of course you can keep on doing this if you like it.Muslim is a great religion that lets you to do anything unless it hurts you or somebody.
Reply:WaSalaam, no you dont want to do that, that was your old religion now you have found the true one.


Salaam

Home delivered orchid stems?

I'm just wondering if anyone out there has had any success with having orchid stems delivered to your house and could recommend someone.





I'm in the UK and want them for my wedding bouquet (for someone to then arrange them) but I am worried about the reliability of them because I don't want to be doing a last minute run to Tesco's for some flowers the day before my wedding!

Home delivered orchid stems?
I used http://www.growersbox.com for dendrobium orchids. I'm in the US and am not sure if they ship to the UK.





I can say that they orchids showed up in great shape and they were very easy to work with.





I have also used http://www.flowerbud.com and http://www.pacificcallas.com. They don't have dendrobium orchids, but they have cymbidium orchids.
Reply:try putting this question in home %26amp; garden
Reply:I had orchids from Hawaii delivered to Michigan in the U.S. They arrived in perfect condition, and were exactly as I hoped. Orchids are pretty hardy and can handle shipping. I also did all the arrangements by myself. I don't know if the place I used ships to the UK. They are also a non-profit that does mentally-handicapped job-training.


http://www.punakamaliiflowers.com/online...


Also, they just changed their website; it's not as user-friendly but you can call and find out their bulk-shipping prices. They were able to ship me large groups of sprays of specific colors (and types).

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Looking for fresh flowers-by-the-stem in Singapore?

Looking for a good large flower market or wholesaler in Singapore who can sell flowers by the stem or bunch (ie. NOT pre-arranged or in a bouquet / gift pacakge). All the flower stores in the main retail areas sell silk flowers by the stem, but fresh flowers only as arrangements and charge a fortune.





Can anyone recommend a large fresh flower market in Singapore where I can buy fresh flowers by the stem or by the bunch? In partiuclar, I am looking for Tuberoses (Xin Xiao / Bunga Dedap Malam), but any large flower markets would be a good start!





Thanks.

Looking for fresh flowers-by-the-stem in Singapore?
Hope that both links will satisfy your needs:





http://www.floristsearch.net/c_singapore...





http://www.business.com/search/rslt_defa...

Is it stupid to plant flowers like this?

I just planted flowers in my flower bed. It was an empty bed so I had to start from scratch. I layed down several bags of topsoil and planted three full flats of 24 flowers each.





I wasn't sure how to arrange them, so I just spaced them about 6 inches apart all the way down in a row. I did like 6 rows of this pattern and alternated flowers. Was I supposed to plant them in clusters or anything? I just don't want to look silly... people were watching.





Another question- should I water them daily until the roots devlop into the soil? It's been raining at night every day since I planted them, should I keep the soil moist? Thanks!

Is it stupid to plant flowers like this?
I think you did okay. Planting in clusters would have given it a different look, but rows will work. Not knowing what types of flowers you planted, 6 inches apart may be good or it may be too close. Did you look at the tags in the flats? They usually have suggestions on spacing, how to plant, where to plant, etc. As far as watering, some plants do well with the soil constantly moist and some do better with the soil drying out and then a good drenching. Again, the flat tags will tell you that. Don't over water....that can cause root rot. The rain at night is probably enough to keep them happy. If you don't have the tags, look the individual flowers up on the internet. Just type the name of the flower in your search and see what pops up. I didn't know how to plant flowers when I first started either and it was trial and error until I got the hang of it.
Reply:If you have that much rain no don't water .You can plant them any way you like they are your flowers.You didn't say what kind they are some look better bunched but they should grow in and look fine.It will be colorful!
Reply:Evenly spaced rows are okay. You can transplant them later if you think a different arrangement will look better. You don't need to water them if it rains every day.
Reply:Plant them any way you like.. it is your garden
Reply:It's no wrong or right way to design a garden.


Formal gardens are like you planted consist of straight rows and geometric patterns and shapes.


Informal is more lose and plants are in clusters and not in a particular pattern like in nature.


Here's a garden site that helps you indentify flowers and plants. Make sure however you plant the taller ones in back and the shorter ones up front. The height is listed on the tag of the plant you got them if it's there. lol Also you can plant more vigourous ones in the back to and ferny,cloudy ones in scattered locations if you like.


Water your garden less as the plants get more rooted to not at all unless you experience a drought. Less than once or twice a week when there is no rain.


Water more if your soil is sandy and rocky and less if it is clay.


Clay soil acts like play dough in you hands it gets soggy fast!


Loam the good crumbly spongy soil needs water moderately.


Late in the season july to frost you shouldn't have water at all.

Give in to bridesmaid or be a bridezilla?

My fiance's sister will be a bridesmaid in our wedding. I've decided on a pale pink, green and ivory color theme. (inspired by pink tulip, green viburnum and ivory rose bouquet) My close friend, also a bridesmaid, has vetoed pink as a bridesmaid dress color, and I'm sympathetic to that. Pink is a tricky color. Not all women are pink kind of women. Green seems pretty innocuous though; I'm not talking candy apple or easter egg green, more of a muted, sophisticated one. Fiance recently conveys to me that his sister cannot stand the thought of a green dress, never wears green, would look awful etc.-the last part isn't true, well, except in her own head, she's a very pretty young woman with black hair and a nice tan in all seasons. We're not close (she's nearly ten years younger) and she hasn't brought this up with me herself. So, what do you think. Do I give in to her and re-arrange the color theme I've enamored with (found but not purchased flowers, coordinating invites etc.) or not?

Give in to bridesmaid or be a bridezilla?
You could just find the dress available in multiple colors. Put the close friend in green, his sister in pink or cream and so on and so on. They don't have to be in identical outfits and it might solve your issue without making you alter your color scheme.
Reply:I don't understand why people feel if they don't like how your wedding is, that they should be able to change it according to their likes.





This is not your bridesmaid's wedding.





If they don't like the color choices you made, then they have their own weddings to choose their own colors.





It be extremly silly and dumb if they don't want to attend a wedding over some darn colors you like!





Stay with the colors you want for the wedding.





No, that doesn't make you a bridezilla to have the wedding you want. Not have the wedding they want.
Reply:I don't see why you gave in with your other friend. Bridesmaids don't get to "veto" colors. They should both respect your color scheme, shut up, and wear the dresses. When people agree to be bridesmaids, they know that they might end up wearing something they don't want to wear. It's rude for them to expect you to change what you want for your special day because boohoo, they don't like the colors. Don't change your color scheme on their account, or you will likely be unhappy and wish you'd gone with what you wanted.





Maybe you could choose the color, and let them pick the styles, if that would make them happier... But really, I don't think it's bridezilla to ask them to wear dresses that you pick out, unless they're hideously expensive or something. It's what's expected.
Reply:You are not going to be able to make everyone happy all of the time. Once she tries some green dresses on she might change her mind anyway. Just be considerate of her when making the final decision. Maybe start asking for her opinion every chance you get so that she has a chance to give her 2 cents. That way no one can claim you are a bridezilla, you asked and she will tell you if she has a major problem.
Reply:If you're not close to her, why is she a bridesmaid? I didn't have my husband's sisters as bridesmaids when I got married, I barely knew them at the time. You're not required to have her, unless you've already asked her, then you're stuck.





I'd say leave your color scheme alone, if you've already done enough work that it's set, then it's set. Everyone has bridesmaids dresses sitting in their closet that they wore once, and will never again in their lives wear again, it's part of it. Also, if she can't be man enough (pardon the expression) to come to you HERSELF and tell you she doesn't like the color, then I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to accommodate her.





And there's a way to handle this with her without being a bridezilla. Actually, there's a couple of ways. You can let your bridesmaids choose either a pink or green dress, so that they're wearing the same dress, just in different colors. Or, you can show them the color swatches, and have them pick out any dress, just as long as it's one of the 2 colors. Make sure you place all orders at the same time to get the same color lot. Wedding parties are totally getting away from the matchy-matchy bridesmaid look, and I personally think it's high time. Not everyone looks their best in the same thing.





You can also politely tell her to simply wait until she sees the dress on--many times people think they look horrible in something, until they physically try it on. Sure, wearing a green color may be a little outside of her comfort zone, but she may find a new favorite color! If this fails, then politely remind her that it is your wedding, and you're making the decisions, and have already made decisions based on a color scheme. Politely tell her if she doesn't like it, she can not be in the bridal party, and wear whatever color she would like. Also, your finance should back you up on this, not take his sister's side. If he does, that's a HUGE red flag for you.





Good luck!
Reply:I agree with the first poster that the first girl can wear green, and the second girl pink, but WARNING - you can't please everyone.
Reply:don't change your color scheme for other people!


I think it might be nice if you had some girls in pink and some girls in green so you have both colors up there.


if you don't want both colors then you could get the girls together and have a vote, if most people descide on green the other girl should understand that this is what the majority picked and be ok with it. don't give in to her but don't be a bridezilla, just make it look like they choose the color of the dresses so noone gets blamed for having to wear whatever color. win-win don't ya think?!
Reply:Hey, it's your wedding! If you like it, have it!
Reply:I agree with the other posters, do not change your colors for any of your attendants. If those are the colors you want, then they will need to live with them. I think it is rude of either of them to even say anything!





Being a bridesmaid is not about looking good in the dress, it is about supporting your friends, sister, sister inlaw to be etc. Whether you are close to your sister in law to be or not she should still support you out of respect for her brother.





I would ignore their petty comments and choose the colors you want!





Good luck!
Reply:You gave right in to your fiend's wishes...what makes her wishes any less deserving of consideration?
Reply:Do not give IN!! It is YOUR wedding.... Your sister-in-law is abviously an attetion craver and right now the spotlight is on you and she is not happy about it... I repeat again .. Do not give in...Just a heads up after the color issue is resolved, I am sure there will be another issue that comes up that she is not happy about , just to draw attention to herself... Good Luck... And you will NOT be a bridezilla my having the color YOU want...
Reply:So then find dresses that match and make the first girl wear green and your sister in law wear the pink its your wedding and anyways they should wear what you want its only for a couple hours and they are supposed to be there to help you plan your wedding not plan it for you Oh ya thats not being a bridezilla trust me k
Reply:It is YOUR wedding and not theirs. Remember that. They should respect your wishes. If I were you I would not re-arrange the color theme. I don't think you will be a bridezilla by doing that. I agree that green will look better than pink. If you really want to make everybody happy then the only person who won't be happy is YOU. How about if put green and pink together. More in green and a bit of pink.
Reply:This is YOUR wedding!


Don't you dare give in to her! You don't change a thing!


The wedding is the bride %26amp; groom. You picked those as YOUR colors so those are YOUR colors.


She can wear %26amp; pick out whatever color scheme she wants for HER wedding!





"Not all women are pink kind of women"


I have been goth pretty much all my life %26amp; for my friends wedding I wore the pinkest damn girlie dress, had my hair all done up looking like little miss prom queen and these silver strappy high heels that looked like they belonged to a pole dancer....


She can manage.


If it's gonna be that much of a problem for her, she doesn't need to be in the wedding.
Reply:its your day and if she doesnt want to wear the dress then you can find someone that will


id choose bridezilla
Reply:First of all, I love your wedding colors because I chose the same ones! Anyway for your bridesmaid, if you were sensitive about one bridesmaid and her dislike for wearing pink, then you should be just as sensitive to the other bridesmaid that doesn't want to wear green. You can still have your colors, but maybe add another one in that would look nice, like lavender, or blue, or a second shade of pink, or something like that. If you don't want to add another color then if your close friend is the matron of honor then maybe have her in green and the other bridesmaids in pink. Or have a combination. It's your wedding so ultimately it is your decision, but I think if you gave the choice to one bridesmaid to opt out of pink, then you should give the choice to this bridesmaid to opt out of green. Green sometimes is a tricky color too, even though it's more universal than pink, depending on the shade some girls don't look good in green. Also you want your bridesmaids to feel comfortable and even if she didn't aproach you directly she probably feels better aproaching her brother because she doesn't want to upset you but for some reason she doesn't like green and I don't think you should force her into wearing green if she has to pay for the dress. If you decide to pay for her dress then she can wear whatever color you want. Just my opinion but I hope it helps and best of luck!
Reply:I would go to a universal color like violet,or purple. It has been my experience by having a wedding and attending them that these colors bring such a calm aura and a beautiful flare to the bridesmaid attire.
Reply:I think you should stay with your first choice. When I was about 16 my brother fiance choose the most awful dress ever it was like a red-purple dress short but with a long skirt open in the front attached. I hated the dress and the color, but I wear anyway because she was the bride and if she likes it why I am going to ruin her day saying something like I hate the dress I can't wear it. I think that would be selfish. Is your day she should use the dress and if she hate it so much she can change her clothe after the ceremony.
Reply:Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Isn't the bride supposed to be the most gorgeous person at the wedding? That is the whole idea. I just went to the wedding of a friend and she was lovely. Please keep your colors! It's YOUR dream day as it is for most women since they were little girls. It is a nice choice of colors by the way. I made style accomodations for my maid of honor whose slight pear shape didn't look good in the exact style I wanted but I liked the dress she spotted even better with ruching around the bust and it was a little more modest. It is an honor to be asked to be a part of someones wedding, even if you wear a hideous strawberry shortcake dress or have to make drastic alterations to get it to fit. If you don't get to have your colors, you will have started off on a bad foot having the grooms family dictate your life. I would discuss it more with your fiance and say that it is very important to you and that the bridesmaids are supposed to be supportive of you, not the other way around. Best wishes and I hope your wedding is everything you dreamed it would be.
Reply:It's YOUR wedding............you don't have to be a bridzilla to confront her on this.


IF she is so insistant on not wearing green then graciously excuse her form the wedding party and select another friend or relative.





You should never feel bad or have your mind changed on YOUR wedding things! It's YOUR day, it's been YOUR dream sense a small girl!


Tell her to put up and shut up or take the exit!!
Reply:Forget the sister and forget the other friend who spoke up about pink. You choose. It's your wedding. You will never please everyone. If you give on the color then there will be a lot more problems with the style, neckline, length, shoes etc. They will never stop trying to "negotiate" with you.
Reply:Maybe you and your bridesmaids could go shopping together for dresses, and say "These are the colors of the wedding, so we'll have to go with (give choice of colors), and find something you all can agree on.
Reply:You can state that you want your bridesmaids to wear green (sage is a good one...) without having to resort to becoming bridezilla. It's your wedding and you have a right to have it your way and if your future SIL doesn't like it, she can certainly step aside and not be a bridesmaid. You sound pretty fair and I give you credit for not forcing your girls to wear pink. That being said, if green is what you want, just say so and politely imply that if anyone should disagree, you would be more than happy to find something else for them to do at the wedding (do a reading, hand out programs, whatever.)
Reply:Your wedding, your colors, when they get married they can choose their colors. This is your day, YOU are going to be the one that has to look at the pictures for the rest of your life, and live with the memories. It's your day, you colors. Good luck! :o)
Reply:Nah, you go with the colours you want. It is your wedding.


She can wear it graciously, or bow out and let you find someone more appreciative and with better manners.


I was bridesmaid for a friend once. The dress was so ugly, big poofy sleeves and powder blue waterweave satin...ugh!!!


But I POLITELY chose to shut up and just wear the ugly dress. I felt like a frump but it was her wedding.
Reply:I say if she wishes to be in the wedding and has any kind of complaints she should be grown enough to to come to you woman to woman and tell you of her dislike for the color. You can relay the message to her personally on that one. And if she still chooses to be against the idea after talking it over with you, tell her the only other option is pink. So if she can't deal with pink either. Then she can be out of the wedding because you have already decided on your colors. She will just have to learn to deal with it.
Reply:i say it's your wedding, so as long as the dreses are nice, then she should be happy to wear it. that said, in Scotland, the bride traditionally pays for the bridesmaid dresses so the bridesmaid doesn't really have any say!
Reply:One thing I did for my wedding was have the bridesmaids wear different colors. My maid of honor wore a lilac gown to match the color beading on my dress. My other bridesmaids wore different shades of blue. I made sure that they all looked good together.


Since you have pink, green, and ivory, why not allow your bridesmaids to choose the color they want out of those 3? You approve the dress and the look. I would not recommend being a bridezilla and forcing anyone to wear something they aren't comfortable in. It would show in pictures that you will see years after. Don't you want to have happier memories? I'm very happy with what I did and I love the look in the pictures with the 3 different bridesmaids looks.
Reply:DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE TO SUIT HER TASTES!


You are not being a bridezilla by choosing your own colors for your own wedding and sticking to them.





Here's what you do. Pick out the dresses with the close friend whose judgement you trust.





Then, go to the sister and say this,


"I've chosen the bridesmaid dress, and it is green after all. I just love it! It's exactly what I've been dreaming of! John mentioned you don't like green though, so if you really feel strongly enough about it to not want to be a bridesmaid, I will understand. Maybe you could do the guest book instead?"





This lets her know several important things:


1. You have wanted this color scheme for awhile %26amp; love it.


2. You will not be moved on this issue no matter how she whines.


3. You are willing to let her participate in another way and you are not angry about her not being a bridesmaid.





You can never please everyone! She will either do it or not.


After getting her answer, move on to other plans and don't let her dampen your wedding spirits!

How can i become a florist?

I'm going to school at Keene State in NH, but nothing seems to interest me for majors.


Its taken me a long time to figure it out, but i really want to become a florist. At my grandmother's house she always gives me bowls of fruits and vases of flowers or baskets to arrange. And i absolutely love to do it.





So how do I become a florist? I need to go to college because I really don't want to let my mom down-my big brother didn't go and plus that's too much pressure on my little brother for him to be the only one to go to college. So I'm staying in school, but i just don't know what to study?? Some things I thought of were botany, horticulture, and graphic arts. or maybe a small business major...


man, I'm just stuck.





and can anyone offer any schools in like NH or Maine that are good for making me a florist? hehe

How can i become a florist?
You want a business degree. You want to study accounting, finance, management, human resources, e-business, logistics, business law, insurance, stuff like that.





In the meantime find a good florist that will give you some hours. Start at the bottom and try to do every job they have. If you want to own a flower shop you WILL be doing the bottom jobs ALL THE TIME.





Owning a flower shop is about arranging flowers, but it's more about payroll, working with suppliers, planning, cutting up boxes, scooping up huge piles of vegetative waste five times a day and paying your huge energy bill in the middle of august when nobody has come in all week.





Owning a flower shop is real business and it is not easy to be successful. You have huge competitors (Wal-Mart for example) and an extremely perishable product. Most small/family owned florists win by providing excellent customer service and an outstanding product that exceeds the customers expectations. If you can't pull off both of those things all the time you'll fail.





That being said, owning a flower shop is a fun an offbeat career path that allows for creativity on many levels. Good luck.
Reply:Talk to one of the floral shops in your area for advice.
Reply:Here is what the Department of Labor says:





http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos292.htm

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Should i contact her after a slighlty akward valentines day?

basically i had arranged dinner plans with this girl i am dating...and she warned me she could not go cause she wassnt feelign well which was true...but i kinda said to her that may not be the only reason (hinting that she didt want ot go with me) she does like me....and doing dinner and flowers may have been to foward for her...should i say hi to her? text her? lasy phone convo was kinda forced and akward

Should i contact her after a slighlty akward valentines day?
just give her space, then talk to her in a few days
Reply:Text her!

Four of the five answers listed below are characteristic of monocots. Select the exception.?

a. flower parts in threes or multiples of three





b. pollen grains with one pore





c. one cotyledon in the seed





d. vascular tissue in the stems arranged in a ring





e. parallel veins in the leaf

Four of the five answers listed below are characteristic of monocots. Select the exception.?
d. vascular tissue is arranged in scattered bundles.
Reply:i think it is "B"

Do chicks still dig funky moves and sweet afros?

I have this girlfriend right, well, things are getting pretty serious right now. I mean, we chat online for, like, two hours every day so I guess you could say things are getting pretty serious.


We have arranged to meet up, how can I woo her? I'm pretty new on the dating scene.


I figured I would buy her some flowers and maybe a voucher for a glamour photoshoot? girls like that kind of thing right?

Do chicks still dig funky moves and sweet afros?
its easy


just give her your tots...gosh
Reply:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQKKgNC5E...
Reply:you betcha, and a gift certificate from victoria's secret...and wear your leopard skin thong the first time you meet her in person.
Reply:I always bring them a USB port storage device... they love that... *snort*
Reply:LOL WOW U CRACK ME UP!!!!!!!!!!! ummm I personally don't dig the fros but funky dance moves are good!!!!!!!

Well part two of previous question lets see have arranged private lunch at work for her &flowers?

all kinds of different things but yet no drive / but acts jelous/ but wont talk either

Well part two of previous question lets see have arranged private lunch at work for her %26amp;flowers?
Talk to her, right her a letter, sometimes the drive just isn't there or maybe she's depressed? After awhile things start to get kind boring, so trying something new might help. Is she on any meds. that can sometimes affect drive. Most important thing is foreplay!!!!!!!!

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Your house is on fire and you run out of the house in your underwear. When you get to the sidewalk you...?????

Secretly hope that cute neighbor sees you.


Notice that your cute neighbor sees you, and start dancing for him/her.


Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your research notes about the dangers of housefires.


Start ranting about the lack of fire sprinklers in residential buildings.


Calm down, talk to a flower, and whistle country music.


Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your computers.


Call your mother to tell her.


Wonder if there is a chatroom for victims of housefires.


Blame yourself for the fire.


Sigh, hug your pets, and yell for a neighbor to call the fire department.


Decide to write a haiku about the experience.


Call your agent and arrange for a photo op.


Call the local media.


Take issue with the type of firehose the firemen are using.


Decide to write a non-fiction book about victims of housefires.


Others.....say it

Your house is on fire and you run out of the house in your underwear. When you get to the sidewalk you...?????
I don't wear underwear, guess I'd hope the neighbor had some hanging on the clothes line!
Reply:oh god i am so stupid...all the time a was reading it i thought it said HORSE instead of HOUSE!!
Reply:get dressed, of course!
Reply:id run inside and grab my bag of marshmellow (i have PLENTY of them stashed all around the house)





and i would grab a stick, sit by the sidewalk, and make the most of the moment, because NOTHING you do can help you now...


Oh and maybe id ask that cutie froom next door to join me!
Reply:see the cute neighbor and decide to be heroic...you run inside to save the desperate souls trapped inside....when you realise there was no-one....
Reply:Fall over from exhaustion. I live in the country. The closest side walk is 15 miles away.
Reply:Be grateful that my family is OK and say to myself..


Well, I am looking for a new house anyway, so now I can use my insurance money to help pay for my new house and don't have to worry about finding a buyer for mine. Then smack myself in the forehead becuase it was all a dream, cause I am never going to get out of here. LOL.
Reply:Start screaming, yelling and jumping till you have a heart


attack and drop dead as the local firemen won't be there


to dose the fire till you're dead.
Reply:KEEP RUNNING SCREAMING I'M ON FIRE
Reply:call for help and wait for the firemen to come and ask my neighbor for something to cover up in
Reply:call for help... who cares you're just wearing an underwear, what's with that?
Reply:I would worry about if my kids were out 1st off


2nd grab a phone on my way out so I could call mom and tell her


3rd I would careless what I was wearing I live out in the middle of nowhere's. Nobody would see me but the fire dept. and they would give me a blanket.


I would just try to forget about it afterwards. But talk about it all the time to family and friends.
Reply:Put out the fire myself because I can.


And public servants generally move in slow motion.


I'd like to save more than the foundation.
Reply:take off the underwear due to heat being so hot.
Reply:Try to stop anyone from preventing the house from burning down
Reply:Get my pets out, and try to get some clothes in the way out
Reply:I have never had a day that bad, and I hope I never will
Reply:What is your question?
Reply:Smack yourself on the forehead, run back in and start saving your computers.
Reply:Smack myself on the forehead, run back in and start saving my computers. And anythin else that i can really. I´d save my Cat first though.
Reply:start laughing at yourself.
Reply:I would run around screaming in my underwear. then I would go and take a big s hit on my neighbors porch. Actually all of my neighbors porches.
Reply:Turn to our lord and meditate on the sidewalk naked


and hope the neibor sees your winker
Reply:If it's your good underwear....pose.flaunt and flirt. If it's your tatty stuff....hide in a bush
Reply:Start dancing for the neighbors. (Maybe you'll make some money.)

I want to buy flowers online do you know.........?

A good place that I can get a cheap package deal for already put together arrangements I have a few places I can get bulk flowers but I want them to be arranged already.





THANKS

I want to buy flowers online do you know.........?
Have a look at costco.com.


http://www.costco.com/Common/Category.as...
Reply:I'm getting my flowers from Proflowers weddings. We're eloping on July 10th so it was really important to find an online vendor that could ship our flowers to our destination on short notice.


They have a lot of different packages. The only downside is that they don't sell things a la carte. All I really needed was a bouquet. Their prices are very reasonable and their packages are great!


http://weddings.proflowers.com/?pagespli...
Reply:I don't know of any fresh flower sources that have prearranged flowers, but I did find this site with silk flowers: http://www.weddingsandflowers.com/.





Also, check Ebay for silk flower decorations.





Congrats and good luck!
Reply:http://www.growersbox.com/catalog/wholes...

My 1st year anniversary?

So far heres what I have planned....





We will go to a nice, fancy restaurant for dinner all dressed up(obviously, I will pay for it all). While we are at dinner, her brother will set up things I have bought for her room for a suprise(she has no idea). There will be scented candles places around the room, rose petals thrown all over the bed and room, a CD playing meaningful music to us and special songs, and massage oil which I will use to give her the massage of her life. While eating a wonderful dinner, a waiter will bring some meaningful flowers I have arranged to be delivered by suprise. We will come home to see her will decorated room where I will look into her eyes and read a meaningful card I have written for her, telling her how much I love her with many different personal things I have written inside of it. While the music plays, I will ask her to close her eyes, as I place a beautiful ring on her finger and kiss her than tell her to open her eyes. It becomes more intimate...

My 1st year anniversary?
Aww. That's sweet. My one year's in two months : )
Reply:Here's something creative that will be appreciated and you will have fun doing:





Make up a crossword puzzle and have all the hints be personal inside moments and jokes that only you two would know about. Put it on a poster board and add some clipart and some pictures to it!





The crossword puzzle could be time consuming and a bit frustrating ... you could do the same idea with a WORDSEARCH or WORDFIND puzzle.





Put your computer skills to work! Use Excel, get clipart from Yahoo Images Search, copy them, and reformat them, use a gluestick to put on posterboard.





Use graph paper, and pictures from magazines if you are not as good on the computer, and it will give it a homemade feeling.
Reply:wow thats so nice i think i will have my husband read this hes not romantic at all maybe he can take some hints from you.
Reply:That is sweet you are right on track

(another one of these) Will you read/criticize my college application essay?

I'm applying to Oberlin, Smith, Dickinson, Bryn Mawr, Occidental, and Grinnell, and my essay needs work. Will you proofread it for me?





email me at naybubs3@yahoo.com





Here's the first bit of it (arg. embarrassing)





I had waited impatiently for nearly an hour while the thick, warm aroma saturated the air. Finally it was done. The heat from the oven escaped, and I was able to retrieve the hot crumpled aluminum. I heard the faint sizzling inside and unwrapped the package carefully, barely touching it, my fingertips jumping away so as not to get burned. The cloves of garlic, arranged like a flower, were perfect: brown in places, and glistening yellow with olive oil. I pulled out a soft, mushy clove with a fork, and mashed it onto a piece of a baguette. It was sweet, mellow, rich, and satisfying. I became absorbed in the food, and had finished savoring the entire clove within a few minutes. It was worth the wait.


I have always been happy in the kitchen.

(another one of these) Will you read/criticize my college application essay?
I am a philosophy major, and believe me when I say I write alot of papers, and notice how much "I" am using I. Try to write an interesting paper that is not littered with "I's" email me at perfectworlddistorted@yahoo.com with anything you want me to proofread.





Philo = love of


Sophia = wisdom





PHILOSOPHIA = love of wisdom
Reply:A hair bit too many drescriptions but I would only omit two or three adjectives. but other than that, beautiful. I was completely encaptured in it. Keep Writing! We need more of you great writers!
Reply:First what's the topic? you give great description but you have some minor grammatical errors that need fixing. you shouldn't be embarrassed by your writing at all. would love to see more.





future english teacher here
Reply:EXCELLENT intro it gets reader attentition as to what is you are talking about. Good details,-%26gt;glistening yellow with olive oil.... cupcake364@hotmail.com
Reply:Are you writing a story or a college level essay? What is the topic supposed to be? For an essay, your last sentence should be your first.
Reply:That reads pretty good, wish there was more.
Reply:I had waited impatiently for nearly an hour while the thick, warm aroma saturated the air. Finally %26lt;use a comma after introductory elements, transitional expressions, and independent comments-items that come before the subject and verb of the main clause. %26gt;[Finally] %26gt; %26lt;%26lt;Add a comma here%26lt;%26lt; it [it] Avoid vague pronoun references. Pronouns should refer to one specific element in the sentence (the antecedent) and not be confused with another element—was done. The heat from the oven escaped, and I was able to retrieve the hot crumpled aluminum. I heard the faint sizzling inside and unwrapped the package carefully, barely touching it, my fingertips jumping [Check your facts/logic here; from this reader’s limited knowledge, this seems unbelievable. Aim for clarity and exact simplicity.] away so as not to get [get] eliminate forms of get in academic writing--strive for conciseness burned%26lt;vague, missing/wrong word[s], or awkward phrasing—please read the sentence aloud and rewrite for greater clarity. . The cloves of garlic, arranged like %26lt;%26lt;[like]--is a preposition, so it cannot introduce a full clause. Instead, use [that], [as], [as if], or [, such as]. --Make certain that the words are precise in meaning a flower, were perfect: brown in places, %26lt;Remove the comma%26lt;here, what precedes the comma is not a series of three or more AND what follows the conjunction is not a complete sentence [subject and verb]. Use a comma before a conjunction in a series of three or more items or when a conjunction separates two independent clauses. and glistening yellow with olive oil. I pulled out a soft, mushy clove with a fork, %26lt;%26lt;Eliminate commas where they are not specifically required. and mashed it onto a piece of a baguette. It [It%26lt;%26lt;Avoid vague pronoun references that cause the reader/grader to backtrack for understanding--add the actual subject for clarity%26lt;] was sweet, mellow, rich, and satisfying. I became absorbed %26lt;%26lt;[Check usage of this word or phrase. Did you use it correctly, or is there another formal word or phrase that you can use instead? in the food, %26lt;%26lt;Eliminate commas where they are not specifically required. and had finished savoring the entire clove within a few minutes. It [It%26lt;%26lt;Avoid vague pronoun references that cause the reader/grader to backtrack for understanding--add the actual subject for clarity%26lt;] was worth the wait.


I have always been happy in the kitchen. Beware of overly long or overly short paragraphs. An effective paragraph develops one central idea.
Reply:It was lovely! Flawless!

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