I NEED HELP!!!! :-) My Fiance and I are planning on getting married this year (Maby next year depending on how these plans go!) I am the only one who is planning this whole thing. All of my Family and Friends who are going to be there live at least 150 miles away. And His mom doesnt want to get involved because she thinks she is going to be to pushy and make me think that I have to do things that I dont want to do. I appriciate her wanting to avoid being pushy but I NEED HELP!!!
Alright so here are the plans so far!
- I am starting to buy things NOW that way we dont ahve the DEBT of the whole thing at one time
- I am buying alot of the stuff we need from Ebay to save $$
- One of his Aunts used to make wedding cakes so we are going to have her do that for us.
- His other Aunt used to be a Florist so we just have to give her the $$ and she will buy and arrange the flowers for us
I Am Planning My Wedding By My Self For About 100 People..........?
First of all... Congratulations! Don't worry so much, I too had 100 people at my wedding and I planned (and paid for ) the whole thing by myself. And, it already seems like you have a lot of your ducks in a row...
Ebay is key! I got a ton of stuff from ebay too. Just shop around and you can find a lot of good stuff there.
Keep your "favors" to a minimum. No one cares if you give them a picture frame, or other stuff. I actually made my own by hand. I got some black card stock, and made paper cones with red ribbons and white martha stewart "rub off decals" I put white cotton candy in it and it was a huge success. Everyone was amazed that I had made them myself.
I think if you really need someone to help you do things, you should ask your bridesmaids, or friends who are local. Get a bottle of wine, and all your crafting stuff out, and make a girls night of it. I had many of these nights.
Don't forget, your fiance can help too! Not just his mom. It's his wedding also. Put him to work! My husband had to make the calls about the cake, and I put him to work on cutting ribbon one night. He was actually really great about helping. I think guys only say they don't want to get involved because they dont' want to step on our toes. But they want to be a part of the planning too.
Martha Stewart wedding magazines have a TON of do it yourself ideas. I got my place card idea from one issue. And I figured out how to make it, and they turned out great, but most importantly, cheap.
Reply:probably should be thinking about a photographer, and a pastor if you are doing a church wedding. I am getting married at the end of August and we are just now getting our photographer, cake, pastor, cater arranged and or invitations ordered next week.
Reply:Sign up with theknot.com. It'll give you all the schedules and planning stuff and budget sheets that you need.
Reply:what i did was i made all my decorations for the hall and made all the flowers for the hole wedding party and the church and i made all the gifts by hand my self and i made all dresses and vail and place setting and music and photo album and candel holders and center pieces and i only spent 2 thousand and i had 200 people
Reply:you're doing great. make a checklist that you revise as you add things to keep track of who's doing what and what you're spending. be sure to get the invitations out in time. you don't say whether you're getting married in a church or where the reception will be. It's the reception that will eat up the big bucks: hall, catered meal, etc, etc.
It's very good that his mom acknowledges that she can be pushy, but if you want her to help, ask her to do so under your guidance. It is your wedding, after all.
Good luck.
Reply:congradzs!since your getting married!I think you should plan the way you dream of personally I would h ave pink,red,and purple flowers every where for decoration and on tables. Also I Wedding cake.Balloons,and white chairs and with purple ribbion tied to each. With fancy cups,and white plates...
and yes i know that costs ALOT,but weddings only happen once and i would want mine special.
to save money you should spend less money on stuff like extra clothing,junkfood,expensive stuff.
hope this is the forever marriage!
p.s. oh and i forgot a wedding dress too. pure white kinda tank top ,but like shirt really the (where u put your arms!) and then white gloves ,with on the head white headband that goes stright down in kind of netting exept it's for marriage ,its white, and wearable!.....
Oh and I would want a little cousin or niece to be the flower girl and ring boy and 2 girls to hold my long dress and i want white or glass shoes and a red cloth going all the way from the beginning of where i step to where i will get married.
YES and i do know that all that is alot ,but I belive a forever marriage can only happen once not twice or ...... and sounds to me you guys are very close and won't be seperated and you would probley want a forever marriage so make it special so if your child or grandchild ever asks you have a story to tell of your wedding.
Hope you don't boo me or give me a thumbs down because it took me some time to type this.
and i know you need to orginize so you should make a planner or go on google calenders.
Reply:What exactly is your problem? I planned a wedding for over 100 people with just my husband's help. It's not hard to do. Get a wedding planning book or use theknot.com to keep track of everything. All of the bridal magazines have planning guides. You know who is doing the cake and flowers that's a big part. Get a hall, a caterer, a dj, a photographer and you're good to go.
Reply:Brides.com should also be helpful. Look on the bright side, it sounds like you are getting a wonderful MIL.
Congrats
Reply:tell your fiances mother that it doesnt matter if shes going to be pushy or not shes going to be your mother inlaw so you should bothe get used to it now and tell her that u rwally need the help and you should tell your fiance to get off his *** and help because its his wedding to and he should be there to help
good luck with the wedding and congragulations!!!!
p.s. use craigs list to they have alot of stuff that would be useful and cheap
Reply:theknot.com has checklists, ideas, pictures, budget planners, links, etc, etc. It's a great wealth of information.
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
You are well underway with your plans. Good for you! It's sounds like you will be having an outdoor, casual reception? I am assuming this because of the BBQ and the uncle doing the cooking. That sounds fun!
Invites, RSVP's, programs - check
Flowers - check
Cake - check
Photography - check???
~ You MAY want to check into hiring a professional for a few hours. I LOVE to help people organize their wedding on a budget, but this is one area where I say not to scrimp. You will never be able to capture those memories again, if you don't get them on that day! All photographers have different packages. If you can't afford one of the packages, just hire him/her for a few hours. Don't leave it to amateurs OR kids.
~ Dress: David's Bridal, JCPenney and Alfred Angelo all have inexpensive gowns. Of course, this is a personal choice. Also....EBAY! There are many, many NEW gowns on Ebay.
~ Centerpieces: If this is outside then you have a number of inexpensive options.
~ Vases of wildflowers?
~ Small potted plants (available at home center stores, Walmart, etc.) Wrap them in colorful paper.
~ Float 1 (one) fresh rose in a small "ivy bowl" - available at Michael's, Walmart and Dollar Stores. This is very inexpensive and looks really nice.
~ Another way to save is to have a small bridal party (1 or 2 attendants each). This saves on gifts for the attendants and also on the rehearsal dinner.
~ If you are having kids at your reception...make up a kids table. Cover it with a paper (or plastic) tablecloth and put out crayons, coloring books, etc. Buy some small toys (everything from a dollar store)....hoola hoops, bubbles, etc.
Good luck!
Reply:relax! you sound as though you have everything under control. just remember this sweetie, all you truly need is the bride and groom, the preacher, a couple of wedding bands and a marriage licence.. everything else is just icing on the cake!
instead of passing your camera around, [its probably quite a good one], what about picking up some of those disposable cameras and put one on every table, you would get lots of really great shots from all angles.
or, what we did for one daughter's wedding was hire the photographer to come and do the church shots, and then he went with the bridal party to the park and took their posed photographs there. and left. that gave us approximately a dozen lovely portraits to choose from and cost us under $200. we had the disposables on the reception tables and had lots of good photos from those.
don't forget big box stores like costco for bulk goods like good quality paper tablecloths, napkins, disposable glasses etc. they are quite reasonably priced and the quality is very good! don't worry about favors, they really are a waste of money and time, just another gimmick dreamt up by the wedding retailers of the world. put your money towards something useful for your home!
whatever you do, however you choose to do it, i wish you a happy wedding and a good strong marriage!
Reply:you are going to need a dress. you can look for a 2nd had one on ebay that is close to your size and have it altered to fit. much cheaper than new.
Reply:hit bridal shows they will give you a ton of ideas. even if your friends are far away i bet they will love to help you over the phone or on the net. try to do as much as you can on your own and it sounds like you have a lot of help form your aunt. remember have fun with it.
Reply:Limit your menu, people are coming for the wedding not a buffet. You can limit drinks to just a few choices like lemonade tea and water. Buying a huge variety adds up. Do you have any friends in a band? If so, they probably have access to a PA system, and you might be able to avoid paying a DJ. You'll need to find a friend that doesn't mind the spotlight to act as "master of ceremonies" so to speak, that is the most valuable thing a DJ will do for you. If you are doing wedding favors, make them yourself or skip them all together. A wedding photographer is an area I wouldn't skimp on, but if you are getting a basic package you can supplement his pictures by getting disposable camera's and leaving one on each table. You will get some stuff that way that the photographer will miss, especially candid photos. Someone else mentioned Craigslist, and I agree completely. I bought a lot of wedding stuff from Craigslist and after the wedding sold it on Craigslist and got almost all of my money back for it.
Reply:i have to tell you i am proud that you want to do this yourself but you do need help. the ones who live far away can help by finding websites for you so that you can give each other ideas . maybe they can order things for you if you tell them what you like and how much. see if the can order your wedding book, pen and maybe your wedding favors for you. and some decorations. ask his mom to call places for you even if it to get prices for things. sometimes those small things help too. ask your friends to do your hair, take oics. do crafts and such. my sister has a two weddings this yr. first her daughter in June and than my sister herself on July 4th my sisters second wedding but the guy she is marrying was never married before they are also having around 40 for my niece and 100 for her. the cake is being made by someone she knows and people are bring food to the picnic type reception so that helps. anything anyone does is fine as long as they help. also ask Friends or even his mom to write the address for the invites for you. all small things add up.
Reply:www.houseofbrides.com
www.davidsbridal.com
they have some cheep stuff there, you can also go to michaels craft stores to make your own things for the wedding, or joann fabrics, any kind of craft stores have a lot you can put teogther for a wedding ...
Reply:theknot.com has alot of budgeting tips.
i work in a restaurant and bridal shop and weddings are cheaper on fri and sun than on sat!(almost half the price)
and
if you are an"average size girl you can get a good deal on a sample or discontinued gown.
and then have it taylored to fit you perfect!
most bridal shops get all dresses in 10s or 12s so unfortunalty if you are any size bigger this is not a bargining tool.
dont be afraid to get a couple estimates for everything. and ask for throw ins . mention that a couple of your girls or guests are engaged or might be getting engaged soon!
sounds tacky but saves money and buisness like the referals
happy planning
Reply:I'm doing the same thing. Planning the whole thing. My soon to be husband and I are the ones paying for the major part of it so I feel for you. I went to a book store and bought a wedding planner/checklist. I got my invites from Micheals craft store. Register at all the craft stores you can, they send you coupons all the time for fabric, and craft supplies when you do that. I hit all the stores the day after Christmas and bought all our lights when they were 50%-75% off. Borrow, Borrow, Borrow from anyone you know that has gotten married recently. I've gotten two arches that way. You are definetly doing the right thing by buying stuff now. But most importantly set a budget and try to stick to it. Once you have your budget set, see how much from each pay check you can buy stuff with and save. You sound like you have the bases covered for the most part. Just make checklists and use your friends and wedding party as much as possible if the family doesn't want to help much that's what they are there for. My family is all 200-300 miles away and I told them which towns are the best to fly into and to stay in and have someone do some calling around and spread the word to others, cause they might want to travel together or stay at the same hotel for group rate discounts.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Will this look good? Pink, turquoise and brown??
I'm decorating my room. It's pretty small, a rectangular shape. It has a built in wardrobe in it. I was thinking of a colour scheme of fushcia/very deep pink, turquoise and dark brown/chocolate, will this look good? I'm thinking of keeping the walls and ceiling cream and white and the floor will have laminate flooring so the shell of the room will be pretty neutral. I'm not sure whether I should paint the wardrobe doors brown or not? I'm thinking of doing it 50-40-10 (pink-turqouise-brown) so would it look nice if the wardrobe doors were block brown with pink and turquoise flowers/butterflies stenciled on them? I want a chic yet girly look to the room? Any suggestions? How should I arrange the room?
Will this look good? Pink, turquoise and brown??
make sure the 10% is the brown, as it makes the room look smaller.....that sounds like a lovley scheme though.
Reply:Maybe pink, light blue and brown? Although, turquoise may look OK too.....
Reply:Sounds disgusting
Reply:You have the proportions correct.A room should have 2 prominant colours and an accent colour which you have chosen as the brown.Make sure the brown just highlights small areas around the room.With the background cream it sounds chic enough to me and girly without being over done.Use the brown on a picture frame .candle,cushion or beaded tie backs on the curtains.A good tip is to buy 2 cheap necklaces to use as tie backs.A small cream and brown rug would be nice but just make sure the room looks balanced and not too fussy and you can't go wrong.
Reply:I think that sounds quite nice actually. You can always paint over it if you hate it. Go for it!
Reply:i have seen that before and it looks nice.
Reply:Since the shell of the room will be neutral, I think the turquoise and brown will definitely work. I don't know about the fushcia though. Personally, I think it wouldn't contrast well with the brown. You may want to try a paler pink instead. I love the idea for your wardrobe doors. I imagine it will look beautiful. Good luck!
Reply:Of course! Pink makes everything all better!
Reply:The secret to the is to accent not block colour.As these are strong colours, I would leave the door white and use a few pink and turquoise butterflies (actually I wouldn't not my kind of thing) then use the same colours in the details, lampshades curtains cream with a pink or turquoise border or transfer the butterfly motifs. bed linen pink pillow cases turquoise or vice versa. The chocolate brown should be used very sparingly if its a small room as you risk it feeling cramped.
Reply:1 word.......................NOPE
Will this look good? Pink, turquoise and brown??
make sure the 10% is the brown, as it makes the room look smaller.....that sounds like a lovley scheme though.
Reply:Maybe pink, light blue and brown? Although, turquoise may look OK too.....
Reply:Sounds disgusting
Reply:You have the proportions correct.A room should have 2 prominant colours and an accent colour which you have chosen as the brown.Make sure the brown just highlights small areas around the room.With the background cream it sounds chic enough to me and girly without being over done.Use the brown on a picture frame .candle,cushion or beaded tie backs on the curtains.A good tip is to buy 2 cheap necklaces to use as tie backs.A small cream and brown rug would be nice but just make sure the room looks balanced and not too fussy and you can't go wrong.
Reply:I think that sounds quite nice actually. You can always paint over it if you hate it. Go for it!
Reply:i have seen that before and it looks nice.
Reply:Since the shell of the room will be neutral, I think the turquoise and brown will definitely work. I don't know about the fushcia though. Personally, I think it wouldn't contrast well with the brown. You may want to try a paler pink instead. I love the idea for your wardrobe doors. I imagine it will look beautiful. Good luck!
Reply:Of course! Pink makes everything all better!
Reply:The secret to the is to accent not block colour.As these are strong colours, I would leave the door white and use a few pink and turquoise butterflies (actually I wouldn't not my kind of thing) then use the same colours in the details, lampshades curtains cream with a pink or turquoise border or transfer the butterfly motifs. bed linen pink pillow cases turquoise or vice versa. The chocolate brown should be used very sparingly if its a small room as you risk it feeling cramped.
Reply:1 word.......................NOPE
Wedding flowers?
I have decided to use calla lilys in my wedding. What other kinds of flowers look good with them? I still have not decided on colors yet. But my mom is going to be the one making the bouquets for everyone and we will be using fake flowers so we can keep them. Mom wants me to find other flowers so she can start planning how she will arrange them. Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks!!
Wedding flowers?
Try some green foliage to take up the space. Calla Lilly's are beautiful on their own.
Reply:I loved Calla Lilies! They are what I used for my own bouquet. But it wasn't the traditional hand carried kind. Mine was an arm bouquet, long stems green foiliage and 6 of the most beautiful Calla Lilies. My bridesmaids carried dried wildflowers and that was all we used for flowers. I went cheap and easy for those, they weren't as important as mine. My bouquet was the only one that mattered to me so I didn't want to take away from its beauty. It was simple and I got more compliments on that one single decision than I can count. I Love the idea! Just try to remain calm, Calla Lilies are graceful, elegant flowers that don't need alot of dressing up. Simple is always best with this flower.
Reply:roses and hygrangeas look very pretty with calla lillies, and all come in a variety of colors.
I don't know if you need it or not, but I have had great luck with www.save-on-crafts.com They have HIGH quality realistic silk flowers for WAY less $$$! I had fresh bouquets, but made my centerpeices (they were topiary balls covered in silk gerbera daisies) and people had no clue they werent real till they were RIGHT on top of them. I ordered about 400 gerbera daisies and they costed me around .49 cents each with shipping. GREAT bulk rates and since you will need lots I'm sure, I highly reccomend it!
This site is a a link to about a gazillion floral sites featuring wedding bouquets and other decorations, you may get some ideas of what to put with your calla lillies there, it really helped me before I went and talked to my florist!
http://www.yourweddingcompany.com/index....
Reply:any floweres with pink collor
Reply:Aww, dont use fake flowers they really take away from the beauty of the cala lillies.
i had a bouquet at my work desk that was white cala lillies, deep red roses, babys breath, and fur tree. it was beautiful. i think i have pictures.
Reply:I also used fake flowers but I had an outside sunset ceramony so I had battery operated lights in mine and after 7yrs I still have em and the lights still work.Green is all you need for calla lillies. Good luck!
Reply:i'm using white callas by themselves for my bouquet, and white callas mixed with white tulips for the bridesmaids...
they look very simple and classy put together :)
Reply:arum lilies or the other white lilies look very weddingy (and you get them very real looking in plastic), also some gebras, those look very feminine. If you want ideas, id be only too happy to provide a picture taken at 'a' wedding. Although those are fresh flowers.
Reply:I too am using the same flowers, I added some spongey type spring color roses into mine, I'm making my own also.
when is the big day?
Reply:Hey I am using fake flowers as well. Someone gave me this website and the woman specializes in fake calla lilly wedding bouquets. I am not using callas but these are stunning and very real looking. It doesn't show price though.
www.simplyclassiccreations.com
Reply:First Congrats on your wedding! By the way my wedding's flower is also the white calla lilly. I'm actually sticking to a white theme. So any flowers that are white will go with my bouquet. However if you want to add a touch of color, make sure the colors are soft and NOT strong and bright, other wise your focus will be on the bright colored flowers and not your calla lillies.
Reply:Hydrangeas look great with calla lillies. that's what i am using for my wedding. Periwinkle calla lillies and some hydrangeas are the colors i am using in my bouquets.
Reply:I would actually stick with lilies. Lilies have such a variety, unlike roses where it's really just the color that makes a difference.
Reply:congrats!!!! i just got married in dec.07... so looked through so many wedding magazines and lots of different flowers!!!! I think colored calla lillies,... like orange/red calla lillies with deep red roses look great! also hot red/pink and red roses look great too ...try colored calla lillies for something different. i hope i helped
Reply:Don't use fake flowers. They will gather dust and in the end they will be thrown away. Either way the flowers will be thrown away. Use freesias.
Reply:Use flowers that are the color of your wedding scheme. I think silk flowers are the way to go because like you said you get to keep them and it is so expensive to have real flowers processed for keepsakes (they usually use a silking process anyway) plus they are a lot less expensive. Make sure to have your mom fix a smaller bouquet that matches your for the bouquet toss at the reception.. Congrats.
Reply:If you wanna make a real wedding, you can try a garden party. And of course, no fake flowers. It's really looks beautiful and realistic. And, red rose is better because it's have their own speciality. And, you also can take a flower or two and put at your hair. It's beautiful. I knew it because i ever look it before.
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Wedding flowers?
Try some green foliage to take up the space. Calla Lilly's are beautiful on their own.
Reply:I loved Calla Lilies! They are what I used for my own bouquet. But it wasn't the traditional hand carried kind. Mine was an arm bouquet, long stems green foiliage and 6 of the most beautiful Calla Lilies. My bridesmaids carried dried wildflowers and that was all we used for flowers. I went cheap and easy for those, they weren't as important as mine. My bouquet was the only one that mattered to me so I didn't want to take away from its beauty. It was simple and I got more compliments on that one single decision than I can count. I Love the idea! Just try to remain calm, Calla Lilies are graceful, elegant flowers that don't need alot of dressing up. Simple is always best with this flower.
Reply:roses and hygrangeas look very pretty with calla lillies, and all come in a variety of colors.
I don't know if you need it or not, but I have had great luck with www.save-on-crafts.com They have HIGH quality realistic silk flowers for WAY less $$$! I had fresh bouquets, but made my centerpeices (they were topiary balls covered in silk gerbera daisies) and people had no clue they werent real till they were RIGHT on top of them. I ordered about 400 gerbera daisies and they costed me around .49 cents each with shipping. GREAT bulk rates and since you will need lots I'm sure, I highly reccomend it!
This site is a a link to about a gazillion floral sites featuring wedding bouquets and other decorations, you may get some ideas of what to put with your calla lillies there, it really helped me before I went and talked to my florist!
http://www.yourweddingcompany.com/index....
Reply:any floweres with pink collor
Reply:Aww, dont use fake flowers they really take away from the beauty of the cala lillies.
i had a bouquet at my work desk that was white cala lillies, deep red roses, babys breath, and fur tree. it was beautiful. i think i have pictures.
Reply:I also used fake flowers but I had an outside sunset ceramony so I had battery operated lights in mine and after 7yrs I still have em and the lights still work.Green is all you need for calla lillies. Good luck!
Reply:i'm using white callas by themselves for my bouquet, and white callas mixed with white tulips for the bridesmaids...
they look very simple and classy put together :)
Reply:arum lilies or the other white lilies look very weddingy (and you get them very real looking in plastic), also some gebras, those look very feminine. If you want ideas, id be only too happy to provide a picture taken at 'a' wedding. Although those are fresh flowers.
Reply:I too am using the same flowers, I added some spongey type spring color roses into mine, I'm making my own also.
when is the big day?
Reply:Hey I am using fake flowers as well. Someone gave me this website and the woman specializes in fake calla lilly wedding bouquets. I am not using callas but these are stunning and very real looking. It doesn't show price though.
www.simplyclassiccreations.com
Reply:First Congrats on your wedding! By the way my wedding's flower is also the white calla lilly. I'm actually sticking to a white theme. So any flowers that are white will go with my bouquet. However if you want to add a touch of color, make sure the colors are soft and NOT strong and bright, other wise your focus will be on the bright colored flowers and not your calla lillies.
Reply:Hydrangeas look great with calla lillies. that's what i am using for my wedding. Periwinkle calla lillies and some hydrangeas are the colors i am using in my bouquets.
Reply:I would actually stick with lilies. Lilies have such a variety, unlike roses where it's really just the color that makes a difference.
Reply:congrats!!!! i just got married in dec.07... so looked through so many wedding magazines and lots of different flowers!!!! I think colored calla lillies,... like orange/red calla lillies with deep red roses look great! also hot red/pink and red roses look great too ...try colored calla lillies for something different. i hope i helped
Reply:Don't use fake flowers. They will gather dust and in the end they will be thrown away. Either way the flowers will be thrown away. Use freesias.
Reply:Use flowers that are the color of your wedding scheme. I think silk flowers are the way to go because like you said you get to keep them and it is so expensive to have real flowers processed for keepsakes (they usually use a silking process anyway) plus they are a lot less expensive. Make sure to have your mom fix a smaller bouquet that matches your for the bouquet toss at the reception.. Congrats.
Reply:If you wanna make a real wedding, you can try a garden party. And of course, no fake flowers. It's really looks beautiful and realistic. And, red rose is better because it's have their own speciality. And, you also can take a flower or two and put at your hair. It's beautiful. I knew it because i ever look it before.
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Cake flowers question?
My daughter has purchased silk roses (singles) for her wedding cake. HOW the heck do I arrange these so that they are ready to go on the cake? I would just rather purchase them already made! Does anyone have a website that has directions to do this? Or even a place or website I can buy them? All the previous question here talked about using silk flowers but not how to arrange them! thanks all!
Cake flowers question?
Are you having the cake made through a bakery? If so, then you should be able to give the silk flowers to them so that they arrange them on the cake. If not then you could cut of the stem of the flowers and simply place them on top of the cake like a bouquet. A florist would also be able to help out with this.
Reply:You can go to michaels.com it have every thing you need.Mary Carter paint store have everything you need and can give you some guidance on your wedding cake and silk flowers. My name is Kerri I'm a cake decorator . I can give you some pointers. kerri.smith48@yahoo.com
Reply:You can put them on, it is very easy.
Just make a mound of frosting and stick the stem in that and arrange the leaves so that it covers the mound. The small arrangement...make a small mound.
Reply:Find a picture of a cake you like and then arrange them that way. Here's an idea. I don't know how many you bought but you can cut the stems down to very short. Pile them on top and arrange them cascading down the side of the cake. You can also put them in between the layers if you have raised platforms.
Reply:Here is an idea that I always thought was pretty...
If you have a 2 or more layer cake, place the roses in between each layer, on its own platform,but you would need alot of roses to do this.
Good luck!
Cake flowers question?
Are you having the cake made through a bakery? If so, then you should be able to give the silk flowers to them so that they arrange them on the cake. If not then you could cut of the stem of the flowers and simply place them on top of the cake like a bouquet. A florist would also be able to help out with this.
Reply:You can go to michaels.com it have every thing you need.Mary Carter paint store have everything you need and can give you some guidance on your wedding cake and silk flowers. My name is Kerri I'm a cake decorator . I can give you some pointers. kerri.smith48@yahoo.com
Reply:You can put them on, it is very easy.
Just make a mound of frosting and stick the stem in that and arrange the leaves so that it covers the mound. The small arrangement...make a small mound.
Reply:Find a picture of a cake you like and then arrange them that way. Here's an idea. I don't know how many you bought but you can cut the stems down to very short. Pile them on top and arrange them cascading down the side of the cake. You can also put them in between the layers if you have raised platforms.
Reply:Here is an idea that I always thought was pretty...
If you have a 2 or more layer cake, place the roses in between each layer, on its own platform,but you would need alot of roses to do this.
Good luck!
Did i do the right thing with this woman im intersted in?
there is this woman i work with who technically still has a boy friend but they are having thier problems and she has said that she wants to move on. she has shown a little interst in me. this is a woman im highly interetsedted in. sooo i went to the floral shop and arranged for flowers to be sent to work on thursday during her shift. just to get her attention.
i ordered a dozen pink roses (because pink is the color of admeration) with a card that said "just to get your attention %26amp; show my intentions. if your intersted call me if not just look at this as a friendly gesture. with great admiration, my name"
now im wondering if maybe i orderd these inappropriatley. i mean she does still have a boy friend.
what do you guys think? serious answerd only please.
Did i do the right thing with this woman im intersted in?
impressive, she'll love that, what really impressed me was the way you said it.
Reply:I really like it. Class act.
Reply:till the boyfriend is out of her life you might.want. to wait if she didnt want him he wouldnt still be with her would he women like attion from men wait till he.s no longer with her then make your move. in my opion?
Reply:If she is having problems and wants to move on, then I say you did the right thing. You probaly just gave her hope knowing that there is a good replacement waiting in the wings.
Reply:Not at all, this I definitely don't think was in any way inappropriate. I mean you explained yourself on the card. If she is having trouble already with this current boy friend of hers, chances are they probably would have broken up in the near future without you entering the picture. Plus, this is impressive, that you like a woman and took a step to show your feelings, unlike many men...If anything she'll be happy. And even if this doesn't go as you planned, you have nothing to lose, right? Thus, don't be nervous about this.
Reply:I think a dozen roses will catch her attention..... although wondering now is rather mote. The deed is done. I think it a bit extreme.
Reply:I don't think that it was a bad idea because you made a point that if it were to much to take it as friendly gesture and that was good. Now it is up to her to figure out what to do about her boyfriend and what to do about you. You should let her know that you can't get to invovled until the coast is clear but she needs to let you know exactly how she feels about you. I know this may sound a little to forward but try this. Take her out somewhere nice but not like dating nice, and ask her how she feels about you as a friend and as a person of interest. Once you get your answer you will know how to approach the situation and how to react then. Also let her know how you've been feeling and that if she wants to be with her boyfriend then thats fine as long as the confrontation of you and him don't interfer at your work place.
Reply:I think it is a good gesture, but you probably should have waited until she called it quits with her current boyfriend. You also don't want to find yourself being the re-bound guy either - which could be the case if she calls it off with her boyfriend. I guess you will now just have to see how everything turns out.
i ordered a dozen pink roses (because pink is the color of admeration) with a card that said "just to get your attention %26amp; show my intentions. if your intersted call me if not just look at this as a friendly gesture. with great admiration, my name"
now im wondering if maybe i orderd these inappropriatley. i mean she does still have a boy friend.
what do you guys think? serious answerd only please.
Did i do the right thing with this woman im intersted in?
impressive, she'll love that, what really impressed me was the way you said it.
Reply:I really like it. Class act.
Reply:till the boyfriend is out of her life you might.want. to wait if she didnt want him he wouldnt still be with her would he women like attion from men wait till he.s no longer with her then make your move. in my opion?
Reply:If she is having problems and wants to move on, then I say you did the right thing. You probaly just gave her hope knowing that there is a good replacement waiting in the wings.
Reply:Not at all, this I definitely don't think was in any way inappropriate. I mean you explained yourself on the card. If she is having trouble already with this current boy friend of hers, chances are they probably would have broken up in the near future without you entering the picture. Plus, this is impressive, that you like a woman and took a step to show your feelings, unlike many men...If anything she'll be happy. And even if this doesn't go as you planned, you have nothing to lose, right? Thus, don't be nervous about this.
Reply:I think a dozen roses will catch her attention..... although wondering now is rather mote. The deed is done. I think it a bit extreme.
Reply:I don't think that it was a bad idea because you made a point that if it were to much to take it as friendly gesture and that was good. Now it is up to her to figure out what to do about her boyfriend and what to do about you. You should let her know that you can't get to invovled until the coast is clear but she needs to let you know exactly how she feels about you. I know this may sound a little to forward but try this. Take her out somewhere nice but not like dating nice, and ask her how she feels about you as a friend and as a person of interest. Once you get your answer you will know how to approach the situation and how to react then. Also let her know how you've been feeling and that if she wants to be with her boyfriend then thats fine as long as the confrontation of you and him don't interfer at your work place.
Reply:I think it is a good gesture, but you probably should have waited until she called it quits with her current boyfriend. You also don't want to find yourself being the re-bound guy either - which could be the case if she calls it off with her boyfriend. I guess you will now just have to see how everything turns out.
Should I still buy a gift?
My sister is getting married at the end of this month. I have paid for airline tickets to fly there for the wedding. I have also arranged all of the flowers and paid for them.
Am I still required to buy them a wedding "gift" since I have been out so much expense already?
- as an additional note, my sister has lived with her fiancee for 7 years and they have two children together. She has not registered for gifts anywhere.
I would just like some advice on what the proper protocal would be for this.
Should I still buy a gift?
Since you took care of the flowers (which are quite expensive), I would just get her a card and maybe a small, inexpensive gift. After all, she is your sister. If it were a friend or other "non-blood acquaintance), I would say that the flowers were enough.
Reply:keep it small..i would take a great picture of the two of you....get it developed and put it in a great fram that you decorate the outside with the color of her wedding or with some dried flowers..i did this for my friend who got married and i was in her wedding and spent alot of money on the dress and shower and other planning...she loved it...she said it was the sweetest thing she had gotton...cost me about 5 bucks..
Reply:The flowers are fantastic. A card just expressing how happy you are for her, or maybe if you have a picture of the four of them, you could frame that or something small. But you've done enough!
Reply:No. I think that the flowers are your gift and the expense of your airline tickets are enough. I believe the best gift you are giving to your sister is being there for her and the time you took to arrange her flowers will be the best gift you could give her and she will know this. Have a great trip.
Reply:I think you've done enough and I can't imagine your sister would expect more. If I was her, I would consider the flowers your "wedding gift" to me and I'd just be thrilled that you'd bought the tickets to be there for my special day. My sister (although nearby)was in similar circumstances, I paid for her veil, shoes and the cake and she was thrilled with that. If it still worries you could you ask a parent what they think?
Reply:I think what you've done is gift enough. I'm sure she understands and doesn't expect anything else.
Reply:The fact that you had to buy an airline ticket is irrelevant. The fact that she lived with her finace is irrelevant. That they have two children is irrelevant. That she is not registered for gifts is irrelevant.
The only relevant thing is that you are attending, which means you should get them something. But I don't see why the flowers can't be your gift. However, for the flowers to be your gift, you should present the idea from the outset that way: "Linda, I would love, as a wedding gift for you and Greg, to provide and arrange your flowers."
Reply:hmm. well since shes your sister i would say deffinatly to get her a present
Reply:The airline tickets really shouldn't be considered, but arranging and paying for all the flowers is a major gift. A lovely card would be the only other thing you should give. (what a nice sister you are!!!)
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Reply:I agree that a heartfelt gift that is not too expensive would be nice. Someone framed my sister's wedding invitation and she loved it. Maybe you could do something similar - if not the invitation/announcement, then a nice picture of the new Mr. and Mrs.
I would also give her a card and write some well wishes in it. I treasure cards with messages on them - so few people take the time to write (we all email now) it would be something I bet she'd appreciate.
Have a great time at the wedding -
Reply:i don't think the airline tickets count. but certainly providing the flowers is gift enough. of course, still give a card, if you feel awkward not giving anything, you might mention that you hope the flowers were what she wished for. this will let her know that you consider those the gift
Reply:It all depend on how much you love your sister
Reply:Is probably not required on this case, but as you have a close relationship with the bride, it will be a good idea to give her a gift, after all is your sister and it will mean a lot if you give her something, don't necessaryly a expensive or typical weding gift, you can try a nice neclace for her to wear on her "special day" or something like that that she could keep and remember as a gift of her sister. Yes, is true that you are paying a lot already, but if she is getting married after all this time, is probably because still this weeding mean a lot to her, otherwise why to do it now.
Am I still required to buy them a wedding "gift" since I have been out so much expense already?
- as an additional note, my sister has lived with her fiancee for 7 years and they have two children together. She has not registered for gifts anywhere.
I would just like some advice on what the proper protocal would be for this.
Should I still buy a gift?
Since you took care of the flowers (which are quite expensive), I would just get her a card and maybe a small, inexpensive gift. After all, she is your sister. If it were a friend or other "non-blood acquaintance), I would say that the flowers were enough.
Reply:keep it small..i would take a great picture of the two of you....get it developed and put it in a great fram that you decorate the outside with the color of her wedding or with some dried flowers..i did this for my friend who got married and i was in her wedding and spent alot of money on the dress and shower and other planning...she loved it...she said it was the sweetest thing she had gotton...cost me about 5 bucks..
Reply:The flowers are fantastic. A card just expressing how happy you are for her, or maybe if you have a picture of the four of them, you could frame that or something small. But you've done enough!
Reply:No. I think that the flowers are your gift and the expense of your airline tickets are enough. I believe the best gift you are giving to your sister is being there for her and the time you took to arrange her flowers will be the best gift you could give her and she will know this. Have a great trip.
Reply:I think you've done enough and I can't imagine your sister would expect more. If I was her, I would consider the flowers your "wedding gift" to me and I'd just be thrilled that you'd bought the tickets to be there for my special day. My sister (although nearby)was in similar circumstances, I paid for her veil, shoes and the cake and she was thrilled with that. If it still worries you could you ask a parent what they think?
Reply:I think what you've done is gift enough. I'm sure she understands and doesn't expect anything else.
Reply:The fact that you had to buy an airline ticket is irrelevant. The fact that she lived with her finace is irrelevant. That they have two children is irrelevant. That she is not registered for gifts is irrelevant.
The only relevant thing is that you are attending, which means you should get them something. But I don't see why the flowers can't be your gift. However, for the flowers to be your gift, you should present the idea from the outset that way: "Linda, I would love, as a wedding gift for you and Greg, to provide and arrange your flowers."
Reply:hmm. well since shes your sister i would say deffinatly to get her a present
Reply:The airline tickets really shouldn't be considered, but arranging and paying for all the flowers is a major gift. A lovely card would be the only other thing you should give. (what a nice sister you are!!!)
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Reply:I agree that a heartfelt gift that is not too expensive would be nice. Someone framed my sister's wedding invitation and she loved it. Maybe you could do something similar - if not the invitation/announcement, then a nice picture of the new Mr. and Mrs.
I would also give her a card and write some well wishes in it. I treasure cards with messages on them - so few people take the time to write (we all email now) it would be something I bet she'd appreciate.
Have a great time at the wedding -
Reply:i don't think the airline tickets count. but certainly providing the flowers is gift enough. of course, still give a card, if you feel awkward not giving anything, you might mention that you hope the flowers were what she wished for. this will let her know that you consider those the gift
Reply:It all depend on how much you love your sister
Reply:Is probably not required on this case, but as you have a close relationship with the bride, it will be a good idea to give her a gift, after all is your sister and it will mean a lot if you give her something, don't necessaryly a expensive or typical weding gift, you can try a nice neclace for her to wear on her "special day" or something like that that she could keep and remember as a gift of her sister. Yes, is true that you are paying a lot already, but if she is getting married after all this time, is probably because still this weeding mean a lot to her, otherwise why to do it now.
Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
I have the flowers but I need make the base to arrange them in.
Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
Go to a craft store, they have a green substance called oasis.You can soak the green stuff with water, which will help keep the flowers for the services.Then put the arrangement in a basket,vase or other ascetically pleasing container to hide the green stuff and your good.
Reply:put them in a vase.
Reply:Hold them with caution and attention so as to avoid damage or potential problems.
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Re: how to arrange a funeral spray? Actually how do you hold the flowers together? to make the spray.?
Go to a craft store, they have a green substance called oasis.You can soak the green stuff with water, which will help keep the flowers for the services.Then put the arrangement in a basket,vase or other ascetically pleasing container to hide the green stuff and your good.
Reply:put them in a vase.
Reply:Hold them with caution and attention so as to avoid damage or potential problems.
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Ok then what about this outfit?
The jean skirt a little below the knee with the black lace top and those clear looking shoes.The ones with the diamonds across them.They are diamonds arranged in the shapes of flowers across the top.Yes real diamonds.SO how about those?
Ok then what about this outfit?
THATS DEAD CUTE!!
Reply:I hate to be a hater but one, I think jean skirts are tacky. Two, if the lace is see-through, that's tacky too. And if it's a camisole, even if it's not see through, it'll look like lingerie, therefore, tacky. Three, clear shoes are... TACKY. I think shoes with actual diamonds on them do exist but they sure as **** aren't made of clear vinyl. What you're talking about, dear, are rhinestones.
Reply:Ok, those shoes, I have a pair of see through shoes too, they make your feet really hot and itchy! Ok, I seriously doubt you have real diamonds on your shoes...if they we over $700, maybe!
Reply:that skirt sounds really long; for a denim skirt i mean. i'm not sure about the shoes, they may have diamonds, but do you mean heels or just like clear shoes?
Reply:wtf? you have shoes with real diamonds on them?! i still think you should go with the black.
Reply:that's oh so cute.
Reply:i would get a shorter skirt, and i would wear flip flops instead.
Ok then what about this outfit?
THATS DEAD CUTE!!
Reply:I hate to be a hater but one, I think jean skirts are tacky. Two, if the lace is see-through, that's tacky too. And if it's a camisole, even if it's not see through, it'll look like lingerie, therefore, tacky. Three, clear shoes are... TACKY. I think shoes with actual diamonds on them do exist but they sure as **** aren't made of clear vinyl. What you're talking about, dear, are rhinestones.
Reply:Ok, those shoes, I have a pair of see through shoes too, they make your feet really hot and itchy! Ok, I seriously doubt you have real diamonds on your shoes...if they we over $700, maybe!
Reply:that skirt sounds really long; for a denim skirt i mean. i'm not sure about the shoes, they may have diamonds, but do you mean heels or just like clear shoes?
Reply:wtf? you have shoes with real diamonds on them?! i still think you should go with the black.
Reply:that's oh so cute.
Reply:i would get a shorter skirt, and i would wear flip flops instead.
Nice surprise for partners far away?
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My partner is far away for Xmas and hard to communicate with. I arranged for flowers and send ecards, any other suggestions? Thought of "kinky pics" etc.....
Nice surprise for partners far away?
send her a fish in a brown bag. she'll think it's the mafia saying she'll be next.
Reply:will be nice if u can fly to be with her for the holidays. LOL.
Reply:don't do the pics anybody can get ahold of them
My partner is far away for Xmas and hard to communicate with. I arranged for flowers and send ecards, any other suggestions? Thought of "kinky pics" etc.....
Nice surprise for partners far away?
send her a fish in a brown bag. she'll think it's the mafia saying she'll be next.
Reply:will be nice if u can fly to be with her for the holidays. LOL.
Reply:don't do the pics anybody can get ahold of them
Best (and cheapest way) to fill a room with roses?
Looking to get a head start on my Valentine's day planning.
I've never done something like this before so I'm looking for suggestions.
The room in question is a living room in a small apartment. I don't have the exact measurements (working on it).
Is it easier to buy the roses and arrange them myself, or should I just leave it up to the experts? It doesn't have to necessarily be all roses....I guess any (mix of) flowers would do the trick...
Any/all help is appreciated. Thanks.
Best (and cheapest way) to fill a room with roses?
since money is obviously an issue why not go with lots of candles instead and have one beautiful display of roses and scatter rose petals all around, a roomful of roses will cost thousands especially at that time of year, have you seen the fabric rose petals used at weddings, huge box very cheaply, this would maybe be a more cost effective but still as romantic way to go
Reply:filling a room with roses just screams "desperate"
Get a SINGLE rose. it will mean much more.
Reply:Here is a list of wholesale flower websites. You may have to trim them yourself, but you can get ALOT of roses for no where near as much money as a florist will charge.
theflowerexchange.com
onlinewholesaleflowers.com
growersbox.com
rosesource.com
sommerflowers.com
flowerbud.com
mr-roses.com
nusabana.com
fiftyflowers.com
bigrose.com
flowersandfreshness.com
sunkingwholesale.com
amazoniaflowers.com
rose911.com
farmstogo.com
fwxflowers.com
agrotropical.andes.com
costco.com
americanfloraldistributors.com
cutflower.com
flowersgrowers.com
myflowerbuyer.com
bloomsxpress.com
samsclub.com
Reply:plant flowers. the seeds are cheaper than the flowers.
Reply:BUY SILK ROSE PETALS, TRY RED OR PINK, AND THROW THEM ALL OVER THE PLACE..LOL..CHECK OUT
http://www.wpetals.com/default.aspx FOR CHEAP PETALS..CLICK ON BLOWOUT SALE! HAVE FUN!
Reply:start buying them a year in advance
I've never done something like this before so I'm looking for suggestions.
The room in question is a living room in a small apartment. I don't have the exact measurements (working on it).
Is it easier to buy the roses and arrange them myself, or should I just leave it up to the experts? It doesn't have to necessarily be all roses....I guess any (mix of) flowers would do the trick...
Any/all help is appreciated. Thanks.
Best (and cheapest way) to fill a room with roses?
since money is obviously an issue why not go with lots of candles instead and have one beautiful display of roses and scatter rose petals all around, a roomful of roses will cost thousands especially at that time of year, have you seen the fabric rose petals used at weddings, huge box very cheaply, this would maybe be a more cost effective but still as romantic way to go
Reply:filling a room with roses just screams "desperate"
Get a SINGLE rose. it will mean much more.
Reply:Here is a list of wholesale flower websites. You may have to trim them yourself, but you can get ALOT of roses for no where near as much money as a florist will charge.
theflowerexchange.com
onlinewholesaleflowers.com
growersbox.com
rosesource.com
sommerflowers.com
flowerbud.com
mr-roses.com
nusabana.com
fiftyflowers.com
bigrose.com
flowersandfreshness.com
sunkingwholesale.com
amazoniaflowers.com
rose911.com
farmstogo.com
fwxflowers.com
agrotropical.andes.com
costco.com
americanfloraldistributors.com
cutflower.com
flowersgrowers.com
myflowerbuyer.com
bloomsxpress.com
samsclub.com
Reply:plant flowers. the seeds are cheaper than the flowers.
Reply:BUY SILK ROSE PETALS, TRY RED OR PINK, AND THROW THEM ALL OVER THE PLACE..LOL..CHECK OUT
http://www.wpetals.com/default.aspx FOR CHEAP PETALS..CLICK ON BLOWOUT SALE! HAVE FUN!
Reply:start buying them a year in advance
How can I tell my mom nicely not to inter fear with my wedding plans?
I am an asian womon in my 30's %26amp; my mom is still controlling me. In my culture we have arranged marriages. For the past 10 years my mom has tried to force me to marry men whom I hardly even knew. Some had really bad habbits %26amp; my mom said that they would change after I marry them. One guy freaked out because she even tried to fix my wedding date %26amp; where %26amp; when I should marry him even before met the guy. I was so disapointed with everything %26amp; gave up on finding a man. But out of the blue I met a wonderful man on my own %26amp; fell in love. Now we are engaged to be married %26amp; mom still is trying to interfear in our wedding plans. She even told me who should be my briedsmaid, what color of flower I should have in my cake, who should be my witness, how many should attend my wedding. My fiance %26amp; I are paying for our own wedding %26amp; planning it too. She got pretty upset with me last week about my wedding. Now we are ok. She wants a ring bearer when we said the best man will hand out the ring.
How can I tell my mom nicely not to inter fear with my wedding plans?
First of all congratulations on your engagement. You are about to embark on a whole new chapter in your life.
Be very open and honest with your mom. Tell her how you feel in a civil manner.
She loves and cares and wants the best for you that is why she is dong this (believe me I did not understand this until after I got married and had 2 children).
Take her to lunch and buy her something nice and then let her know. This will show that you care for her and you want to keep the lines of communication open. Let her know that this is your wedding day and you do want her to be a part of it.
Hope all works out for you.
God Bless....
Reply:I absolutely agree with the answer you chose - just have one quick thing to add. Ring bearers are cute and play a part in the ceremony, but are very rarely allowed to even touch the rings. Either the best man or the officiant handles this, even when you have an RB! Report It
Reply:Your mom really wants to be a part of your wedding. I personally would tell her "Mom, I love you and all of your ideas are great, however, we have already chosen to do this differently" Then I would give her a small task to do since she would be so gung-ho about the whole deal, like centerpieces- i would let her make them or choose them.
That way she will still feel like her opinions are wanted and accepted, and she will still have a part that she can dictate.
Reply:It's hard for you coming from an Asian background where some still adhere to the ritual of arranged courtships and marriages, but sounds like you're doing the right thing for you. It's not easy to tell your mother what you don't want since she came from a time where it was tradition to have your courtships and marriages arranged to people picked out by your parents or family members. Your mom sounds like a control freak. I asked my pen pal who was from Greece if they still did arranged marriages and she told me that you're free to marry who you want. It's amazing how your mother is hell bent on trying to pair you up with men who you never met. I mean come on I understand with keeping with tradition, but it sounds like your mom's trying to control every aspect of your life including how to plan and pay for your own wedding.
If you and your fiance are paying for the wedding then she's got no reason to give her input unless you ask for it and it didnt seem as if you asked for it. Stand your ground, but don't allow your mom to overstep her bounds because you're getting married she should be happy you found someone you actually want to make a life with.
Reply:Just sit down with your mom and tell her this wedding is going to be different then tradition. She must understand that you chose your own husband, you are paying for your own wedding, and you want to have it as you want it. That you are sorry that it breaks the tradition, but you want happiness to be remembered. You want to start your own tradition to carry on. I hope this helps. Tell her you appreciate all the help she has given and offered but you would like to make the decisions with your soon to be husband.
Reply:Your mother sounds like she really wants to be involved and doesn't know when to quit. It sounds like it's a bit of a cultural thing but interfering mothers are common to everyone. You can stop talking to her about your wedding or you can smile and nod at everything she suggests and thank her sweetly for her input. Let her suggestions go and do what you want to do. You could ask her for a list of important symbols that she feels should be incorporated into your wedding and then try to use as many as possible. I know that planning for a wedding is stressful enough without overly helpful family members but try to just smile and nod when you're given opinions or suggestions - most are worth exactly what you paid for them - nothing.
Reply:Try this, Mom I love you but if you dont leave me alone with all of these plans im gonna shoot you. (jokingly)
Reply:Tell her your a grown woman and you want more than any thing to plan your wedding on your own.
Reply:sit your mom down and talk to her nicely, say something like mom i love you but you don't haft to stress about the wedding Ive got every thing under control you just sit back and relax, you don't want wrinkles and Grey hair for our wedding portraits. OR just put your mom in charge of something to keep her out of your hair. Or just say mom your great but i want us all to be free so i hired a wedding planner.
Reply:No easy way but be assertive without being unkind. You owe it to your spouse to be. That is the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with so get started off on the right foot.
Reply:just tell her
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How can I tell my mom nicely not to inter fear with my wedding plans?
First of all congratulations on your engagement. You are about to embark on a whole new chapter in your life.
Be very open and honest with your mom. Tell her how you feel in a civil manner.
She loves and cares and wants the best for you that is why she is dong this (believe me I did not understand this until after I got married and had 2 children).
Take her to lunch and buy her something nice and then let her know. This will show that you care for her and you want to keep the lines of communication open. Let her know that this is your wedding day and you do want her to be a part of it.
Hope all works out for you.
God Bless....
Reply:I absolutely agree with the answer you chose - just have one quick thing to add. Ring bearers are cute and play a part in the ceremony, but are very rarely allowed to even touch the rings. Either the best man or the officiant handles this, even when you have an RB! Report It
Reply:Your mom really wants to be a part of your wedding. I personally would tell her "Mom, I love you and all of your ideas are great, however, we have already chosen to do this differently" Then I would give her a small task to do since she would be so gung-ho about the whole deal, like centerpieces- i would let her make them or choose them.
That way she will still feel like her opinions are wanted and accepted, and she will still have a part that she can dictate.
Reply:It's hard for you coming from an Asian background where some still adhere to the ritual of arranged courtships and marriages, but sounds like you're doing the right thing for you. It's not easy to tell your mother what you don't want since she came from a time where it was tradition to have your courtships and marriages arranged to people picked out by your parents or family members. Your mom sounds like a control freak. I asked my pen pal who was from Greece if they still did arranged marriages and she told me that you're free to marry who you want. It's amazing how your mother is hell bent on trying to pair you up with men who you never met. I mean come on I understand with keeping with tradition, but it sounds like your mom's trying to control every aspect of your life including how to plan and pay for your own wedding.
If you and your fiance are paying for the wedding then she's got no reason to give her input unless you ask for it and it didnt seem as if you asked for it. Stand your ground, but don't allow your mom to overstep her bounds because you're getting married she should be happy you found someone you actually want to make a life with.
Reply:Just sit down with your mom and tell her this wedding is going to be different then tradition. She must understand that you chose your own husband, you are paying for your own wedding, and you want to have it as you want it. That you are sorry that it breaks the tradition, but you want happiness to be remembered. You want to start your own tradition to carry on. I hope this helps. Tell her you appreciate all the help she has given and offered but you would like to make the decisions with your soon to be husband.
Reply:Your mother sounds like she really wants to be involved and doesn't know when to quit. It sounds like it's a bit of a cultural thing but interfering mothers are common to everyone. You can stop talking to her about your wedding or you can smile and nod at everything she suggests and thank her sweetly for her input. Let her suggestions go and do what you want to do. You could ask her for a list of important symbols that she feels should be incorporated into your wedding and then try to use as many as possible. I know that planning for a wedding is stressful enough without overly helpful family members but try to just smile and nod when you're given opinions or suggestions - most are worth exactly what you paid for them - nothing.
Reply:Try this, Mom I love you but if you dont leave me alone with all of these plans im gonna shoot you. (jokingly)
Reply:Tell her your a grown woman and you want more than any thing to plan your wedding on your own.
Reply:sit your mom down and talk to her nicely, say something like mom i love you but you don't haft to stress about the wedding Ive got every thing under control you just sit back and relax, you don't want wrinkles and Grey hair for our wedding portraits. OR just put your mom in charge of something to keep her out of your hair. Or just say mom your great but i want us all to be free so i hired a wedding planner.
Reply:No easy way but be assertive without being unkind. You owe it to your spouse to be. That is the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with so get started off on the right foot.
Reply:just tell her
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Grammar Help?
Identify the adjective clause in this sentence.
Nobody knew if it was she who had placed first in the race on Sunday.
A. Nobody knew
B. if it was
C. who had placed first in the race on Sunday
D. on Sunday
Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
A. My great-great grandparents had an arranged marriage
B. The party planner was arranging a large wedding
C. We arranged the books alphabetically by author
D. Alyson enjoys arranging cut flowers.
Grammar Help?
Nobody knew if it was she who had placed first in the race on Sunday.
C. who had placed first in the race on Sunday
Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
A. My great-great grandparents had an arranged marriage
Reply:I would answer D and A.
I was wondering if 'who had placed first in the race on Sunday' was the adjective. If so then what does it modify? She? Can a nominative pronoun be modified?
I think 'on Sunday' modifies the noun 'the race' so it is difinitely an adjective. But strictly speaking, 'on Sunday' is not a clause but a phrase.
Reply:C is the answer to the first question; D is the answer to the second
Reply:C.
A.
Reply:C.
A.
:)
Nobody knew if it was she who had placed first in the race on Sunday.
A. Nobody knew
B. if it was
C. who had placed first in the race on Sunday
D. on Sunday
Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
A. My great-great grandparents had an arranged marriage
B. The party planner was arranging a large wedding
C. We arranged the books alphabetically by author
D. Alyson enjoys arranging cut flowers.
Grammar Help?
Nobody knew if it was she who had placed first in the race on Sunday.
C. who had placed first in the race on Sunday
Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
A. My great-great grandparents had an arranged marriage
Reply:I would answer D and A.
I was wondering if 'who had placed first in the race on Sunday' was the adjective. If so then what does it modify? She? Can a nominative pronoun be modified?
I think 'on Sunday' modifies the noun 'the race' so it is difinitely an adjective. But strictly speaking, 'on Sunday' is not a clause but a phrase.
Reply:C is the answer to the first question; D is the answer to the second
Reply:C.
A.
Reply:C.
A.
:)
What should I do? Craft Ideas?
I have a project due on tuesday in school. We are making "state floats" and mine is about New York. (You know with the shoebox projects) All I have done is make the Statue of Liberty out of clay. What else should I do. I am covering the box with the state colors, flag, flower, motto ext. But I mean, lik how I should arrange it, and put it together. Also feel free to add thing on what I should add on. Please, no "comments" on how old you think I am. I don't like it when people think that I am younger than I am.
What should I do? Craft Ideas?
sounds like you have it covered..New York has so much...New Year's Eve bulb, Radio City, United Nations,
I find less is more. Also a hockey team. Good luck
Reply:Ignore the idiots.
the statue is from France, is made of copper which is shinny when new and pale green when it oxidizes.
Place the things old to new.
make the statue shinny and show the French lag, the immigrants, the us flag. Then make the statue green and show in context of todays world.
nice... a time-line in a project.
sure to get an A,
Reply:Take the box, punch large holes in it, tape some airplanes flying into it, then write "BUSH WAS HERE!!!" on it.
[Reference to 9/11]
What should I do? Craft Ideas?
sounds like you have it covered..New York has so much...New Year's Eve bulb, Radio City, United Nations,
I find less is more. Also a hockey team. Good luck
Reply:Ignore the idiots.
the statue is from France, is made of copper which is shinny when new and pale green when it oxidizes.
Place the things old to new.
make the statue shinny and show the French lag, the immigrants, the us flag. Then make the statue green and show in context of todays world.
nice... a time-line in a project.
sure to get an A,
Reply:Take the box, punch large holes in it, tape some airplanes flying into it, then write "BUSH WAS HERE!!!" on it.
[Reference to 9/11]
Isn't this kind of morbid? A young girl was killed in a 4wheeler accident near my house about 4 yrs ago.?
Her family has set up an extensive memorial (stuffed animals, plaques, crosses, flowers, stones arranged in a heart, pictures) at the tree she hit, that they visit regularly(many times a week). I'm sympathetic that they lost a daughter tragically, but i can't understand why they would visit the site she was killed instead of where she's laid to rest. Is this a proper way to grieve and don't you think they need closure?
Isn't this kind of morbid? A young girl was killed in a 4wheeler accident near my house about 4 yrs ago.?
I agree with you. Nothing wrong with initially making a memorial at the tree, or with leaving ONE cross as a reminder to others. But four years and an extensive memorial shrine is a bit much. Grieving at the grave site is more appropriate and beneficial. It's time to put closure to it...true, it takes some people longer than others...but they can't move forward if they are constantly reminded of and living in the past. Part could be the guilt they feel for letting it happen. But it serves no purpose there...just a sad memory. The little girl wouldn't want it. Did they ever seek grief counseling?
Let's see...'four years x many times a week to the site' vs. 'nine years to the grave site' (and truly sorry for your loss) and 'once a year to another site'...I really see no comparison and still believe this family needs more counseling to put closure to this obsession. It's not a healthy one.
Reply:There is no "proper" way to grieve, If visiting the site helps comfort the family, I see no harm in it.
Reply:After four years, I'd kind of wonder about that, too.
Reply:Why does it matter to you what these people do to remember their child? I have lost a child and continue to visit her grave-its been nine years. I have a friend who was killed in a train accident and we go to the site once a year to remember her. There is nothing wrong with what anybody does to grieve. If they choose to visit this spot, maybe it helps them. Its not morbid. Its what these people want to do to remember their child.
Reply:Maybe they think that her spirit is at the spot where she was killed, and that was the place that she left this earth, rather than the grave site. People grieve in different ways, don't they?
Reply:I think it is a little morbid and that they are having a difficult time letting go. I think there are just some people who do that. I don't know if it is a cultural thing or what. Here where I live there are places along the roads like that....flowers etc at places where people died in accidents. Personally I would never do that. I would think about my loved one who died everytime I passes that spot but I wouldn't put up any kind of memorial or anything at the spot.
Reply:personally, i agree with you. i would think that visiting the accident site would be keeping the wound open. i can't imagine any closure coming from this. but i suppose everyone grieves differently.
Reply:The most difficult thing in life would have to be losing a child. And yes, I would agree that this might not seem like the place to grieve but, different people grieve in different ways.
Maybe they feel closer to her there. I do not know.
Isn't this kind of morbid? A young girl was killed in a 4wheeler accident near my house about 4 yrs ago.?
I agree with you. Nothing wrong with initially making a memorial at the tree, or with leaving ONE cross as a reminder to others. But four years and an extensive memorial shrine is a bit much. Grieving at the grave site is more appropriate and beneficial. It's time to put closure to it...true, it takes some people longer than others...but they can't move forward if they are constantly reminded of and living in the past. Part could be the guilt they feel for letting it happen. But it serves no purpose there...just a sad memory. The little girl wouldn't want it. Did they ever seek grief counseling?
Let's see...'four years x many times a week to the site' vs. 'nine years to the grave site' (and truly sorry for your loss) and 'once a year to another site'...I really see no comparison and still believe this family needs more counseling to put closure to this obsession. It's not a healthy one.
Reply:There is no "proper" way to grieve, If visiting the site helps comfort the family, I see no harm in it.
Reply:After four years, I'd kind of wonder about that, too.
Reply:Why does it matter to you what these people do to remember their child? I have lost a child and continue to visit her grave-its been nine years. I have a friend who was killed in a train accident and we go to the site once a year to remember her. There is nothing wrong with what anybody does to grieve. If they choose to visit this spot, maybe it helps them. Its not morbid. Its what these people want to do to remember their child.
Reply:Maybe they think that her spirit is at the spot where she was killed, and that was the place that she left this earth, rather than the grave site. People grieve in different ways, don't they?
Reply:I think it is a little morbid and that they are having a difficult time letting go. I think there are just some people who do that. I don't know if it is a cultural thing or what. Here where I live there are places along the roads like that....flowers etc at places where people died in accidents. Personally I would never do that. I would think about my loved one who died everytime I passes that spot but I wouldn't put up any kind of memorial or anything at the spot.
Reply:personally, i agree with you. i would think that visiting the accident site would be keeping the wound open. i can't imagine any closure coming from this. but i suppose everyone grieves differently.
Reply:The most difficult thing in life would have to be losing a child. And yes, I would agree that this might not seem like the place to grieve but, different people grieve in different ways.
Maybe they feel closer to her there. I do not know.
Participle as an adjective?
i need help on my study sheet:
36. Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
My great-great grandparents has an arranged marriage.
The party planner was arranging a large wedding.
We arranged the books alphabetically by author.
Alyson enjoys arranging cut flowers.
Can someone please help me?
Participle as an adjective?
In the first sentence "arranged" is a participle used as an adjective.
family nanny
36. Which sentence uses a participle as an adjective?
My great-great grandparents has an arranged marriage.
The party planner was arranging a large wedding.
We arranged the books alphabetically by author.
Alyson enjoys arranging cut flowers.
Can someone please help me?
Participle as an adjective?
In the first sentence "arranged" is a participle used as an adjective.
family nanny
Where can I buy silk flowers online?
I want them to be single stem not already arranged. Not sure exactly what flowers I want yet just looking for some ideas on where I can go to buy them....Thanks
Where can I buy silk flowers online?
http://www.silkflowers.com/listproducts....
http://www.silkflowersexpress.com/
http://www.petals.com/
http://ww11.1800flowers.com/dataset.do?d...
http://www.silkflowersplus.com/
http://www.silkfever.com/index.asp?PageA...
http://fastsilkflowers.com/
Reply:Is there a reason you are looking to purchase them online?
There are quite a few places you can search online, but you may want to look locally, even if it is a short drive away, so that you can see what the flowers really look like.
Reply:silk flowers - http://www.wherecanbuycheaponline.com/sh...
Reply:Check out www.afloral.com! There are hundreds of flowers to browse through!
Where can I buy silk flowers online?
http://www.silkflowers.com/listproducts....
http://www.silkflowersexpress.com/
http://www.petals.com/
http://ww11.1800flowers.com/dataset.do?d...
http://www.silkflowersplus.com/
http://www.silkfever.com/index.asp?PageA...
http://fastsilkflowers.com/
Reply:Is there a reason you are looking to purchase them online?
There are quite a few places you can search online, but you may want to look locally, even if it is a short drive away, so that you can see what the flowers really look like.
Reply:silk flowers - http://www.wherecanbuycheaponline.com/sh...
Reply:Check out www.afloral.com! There are hundreds of flowers to browse through!
What will be the generalized form of the question given below, if i'll change no.of temples?
There are three temples and 3 wells arranged in an order of 1 well, 1 temple and so on.
The wells doubles the number of flowers when you wash flowers in them and after that you offer some flowers to the gods in the temple. Assuming you offer the same number of flowers in each temple, how many flowers should you start with that you are left with no flowers after you offer them at the last temple.
Answer:
You start with 7 flowers, double them and make them 14. Offer 8 in the first temple and go ahead with 6. Double them and make them 12. Offer 8 again and go ahead with 4.
Double of 4 would be 8 that you would offer in the third temple.
What will be the generalized form of the question given below, if i'll change no.of temples?
assume that you start with 'x' flowers .after the first wash the no: of flowers become 2x.assume that you place 'y' flowers in the temple.the total no: of flowers become 2x-y.when you wash them in the second well they become 4x-2y,placing y flowers again you have,4x-3y flowers remaining,after washing in the third well you will have 8x-6y flowers,after placing y flowers you have 8x-7y flowers,which are ultimately equal to 0
8x-7y=0
8x=7y
least common multiple of 8 and 7 is 56.
therefore x=7
y=8
multiples of 7 and 8 can also take the values of x%26amp;y respectively.you can observe the following pattern
for three temples you require to take 7 flowers and place 8 flowers after doubling.
similarly you have to take 14 flowers for four temples and have to place 16 flowers after doubling.henceforth we can observe that
no: of flowers temples
7 3
14 4
..
.
.
.
. .
7(n-2) (n-2)
7n+12 n
therefore for n temples you need to take 7n+12 flowers and have to offer 8n+16 flowers to god.
Reply:Let n = number of temples (and wells)
then 2^n is the number of flowers to offer at each, and 2^n - 1 is the number of flowers to start with.
Reply:The way to solve this is to work backwards:
Let x = no. of flowers that you give each temple.
So, ((x/2 + x)/2 + x)/2 = 7x/8 = number of flowers at beginning
Since we're dealing with integers only, x can be any multiple of 8, and no. of flowers we start with corresponds to 7x/8.
So there are infinite solutions:
7,8
14,16
21,24
etc.
The wells doubles the number of flowers when you wash flowers in them and after that you offer some flowers to the gods in the temple. Assuming you offer the same number of flowers in each temple, how many flowers should you start with that you are left with no flowers after you offer them at the last temple.
Answer:
You start with 7 flowers, double them and make them 14. Offer 8 in the first temple and go ahead with 6. Double them and make them 12. Offer 8 again and go ahead with 4.
Double of 4 would be 8 that you would offer in the third temple.
What will be the generalized form of the question given below, if i'll change no.of temples?
assume that you start with 'x' flowers .after the first wash the no: of flowers become 2x.assume that you place 'y' flowers in the temple.the total no: of flowers become 2x-y.when you wash them in the second well they become 4x-2y,placing y flowers again you have,4x-3y flowers remaining,after washing in the third well you will have 8x-6y flowers,after placing y flowers you have 8x-7y flowers,which are ultimately equal to 0
8x-7y=0
8x=7y
least common multiple of 8 and 7 is 56.
therefore x=7
y=8
multiples of 7 and 8 can also take the values of x%26amp;y respectively.you can observe the following pattern
for three temples you require to take 7 flowers and place 8 flowers after doubling.
similarly you have to take 14 flowers for four temples and have to place 16 flowers after doubling.henceforth we can observe that
no: of flowers temples
7 3
14 4
..
.
.
.
. .
7(n-2) (n-2)
7n+12 n
therefore for n temples you need to take 7n+12 flowers and have to offer 8n+16 flowers to god.
Reply:Let n = number of temples (and wells)
then 2^n is the number of flowers to offer at each, and 2^n - 1 is the number of flowers to start with.
Reply:The way to solve this is to work backwards:
Let x = no. of flowers that you give each temple.
So, ((x/2 + x)/2 + x)/2 = 7x/8 = number of flowers at beginning
Since we're dealing with integers only, x can be any multiple of 8, and no. of flowers we start with corresponds to 7x/8.
So there are infinite solutions:
7,8
14,16
21,24
etc.
Looking for Water Lilies or lotus?
I am desperate looking for "Nymphaea" AKA watter lilies, i would even set up for lotus.
I need to find a florist that can arrange a bouquete of this flowers, and ship it to manhattan, kansas i will pay anything for it. i have being trough several sites but i have only found dead ends. please help me.
Looking for Water Lilies or lotus?
I have some in my mobile !
Or visit http://net-new.blogspot.com and
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I need to find a florist that can arrange a bouquete of this flowers, and ship it to manhattan, kansas i will pay anything for it. i have being trough several sites but i have only found dead ends. please help me.
Looking for Water Lilies or lotus?
I have some in my mobile !
Or visit http://net-new.blogspot.com and
also to visit http://netnew.spaces.live.com/ and search for
June flowers for wedding bouquets?
We set a date! June 19, 2010!! I'm so excited! I was wondering though, what kinds of flowers bloom in June? I'm going to have my brother make all of the corsages and bouts and bouquets (he took courses to do this when he was in high school, and he's really amazing at it!) He's also going to arrange all the flowers for my wedding (which will be potted flowers that we will ask our parents to plant in their yards after the wedding). So, I was wondering, what kinds of flowers are common in June? (by common I mean in season) Thanks!
June flowers for wedding bouquets?
Gerber Daisies they came in a bunch of different colors too
Reply:you can go to a flower market and get any flower they are all grown in greenhouses so it really isn't a problem getting the flowers, but if you want june flowers because of the wedding date then lavender, sweet peas, roses, delphinium.
Reply:Flowers are common whenever you plant them basically. You can pick something that's going to be really easy to grow, and that's going to go with everything. You could pick your favorite flower even.
Reply:Lilies bloom in June. Here are some others that you might consider:
peonies
some varieties of clematis
roses
delphinium
foxglove
madevilla
shoes stock
June flowers for wedding bouquets?
Gerber Daisies they came in a bunch of different colors too
Reply:you can go to a flower market and get any flower they are all grown in greenhouses so it really isn't a problem getting the flowers, but if you want june flowers because of the wedding date then lavender, sweet peas, roses, delphinium.
Reply:Flowers are common whenever you plant them basically. You can pick something that's going to be really easy to grow, and that's going to go with everything. You could pick your favorite flower even.
Reply:Lilies bloom in June. Here are some others that you might consider:
peonies
some varieties of clematis
roses
delphinium
foxglove
madevilla
shoes stock
Im on a budget and have botten the vases for centerpiece...is $25 for flowers for each centerpiece?
Is $25 enough for flowers and the cost of someone arranging them? I was thinking of a simple arragement of hydrangeas and roses (about 3-4 hydrangeas and about 6 roses of diff colors)......
Im on a budget and have botten the vases for centerpiece...is $25 for flowers for each centerpiece?
try buying your flowers at a place like sams club or costco. they are not that hard to make yourself. that is what i did at my wedding. my mother in-law helped me. we made the center pieces and the boquets. we bought the flowers from sams club.
Reply:It's bought - not botten.
And who knows what flowers cost in LA except a florist - or someone who can buy wholesale?
The hydrangeas and roses do sound lovely, though.
Reply:you would be surprised, even in LA. If you have a clear vision of what you want the centerpieces to look like and limit yourself to just a couple of flower varieties, you should be able to do it. Call up your local Trader Joe's and speak to them about buying flowers in bulk. They won't give you a discount, because their prices are already really LOW but they will order the flowers you want from their supplier, and have them delivered to their store the morning that you need them. You can specify what quantity of what color flower, within reason and you will know ahead of time that you can get your desired choices and how much it will cost. Hydrangeas are typically not expensive, and you can get very good prices on small roses there. I would give it a shot. I made beautiful centerpieces for my daughter's christening reception and bought my flowers from TJs. I did all white tulips and they only cost me $4.49 for each bunch of 10. With the vases I bought and some pretty fabric ribbon to match my decor, I had stunning centerpieces for less than $10. For $25 you should be able to do something nice.
Reply:That seems like too much to me. Since you're on a budget, have you considered the possibility of arranging your centerpiece bouquets yourself? It's pretty easy. Just go to a flower shop (or actually even a grocery store- their floral depts. these days are awesome!) and purchase enough roses and hydrangeas to put in each vase, then arrange with some inexpensive fern filler, baby's breath, or just on their own.
Reply:I think $25 should cover the flowers alone but not the florist. I agree that you can probably arrange it yourself.
Reply:I doubt it.
Reply:Barbara - I think she meant "gotten". Relax....
I think hydrangeas are gorgeous and are a great choice for centerpieces because the blooms are large/broad. I would buy the flowers and arrange yourself if you're trying to stay within a budget. Good luck!
Reply:$25 would be enough per centerpiece if you made them yourself. You can buy the vases and then get flowers (and some greenery) from either a wholesale club or a grocery store. Ask comeone creative in your wedding party to come with you to get the flowers and to make the arrangements.
Im on a budget and have botten the vases for centerpiece...is $25 for flowers for each centerpiece?
try buying your flowers at a place like sams club or costco. they are not that hard to make yourself. that is what i did at my wedding. my mother in-law helped me. we made the center pieces and the boquets. we bought the flowers from sams club.
Reply:It's bought - not botten.
And who knows what flowers cost in LA except a florist - or someone who can buy wholesale?
The hydrangeas and roses do sound lovely, though.
Reply:you would be surprised, even in LA. If you have a clear vision of what you want the centerpieces to look like and limit yourself to just a couple of flower varieties, you should be able to do it. Call up your local Trader Joe's and speak to them about buying flowers in bulk. They won't give you a discount, because their prices are already really LOW but they will order the flowers you want from their supplier, and have them delivered to their store the morning that you need them. You can specify what quantity of what color flower, within reason and you will know ahead of time that you can get your desired choices and how much it will cost. Hydrangeas are typically not expensive, and you can get very good prices on small roses there. I would give it a shot. I made beautiful centerpieces for my daughter's christening reception and bought my flowers from TJs. I did all white tulips and they only cost me $4.49 for each bunch of 10. With the vases I bought and some pretty fabric ribbon to match my decor, I had stunning centerpieces for less than $10. For $25 you should be able to do something nice.
Reply:That seems like too much to me. Since you're on a budget, have you considered the possibility of arranging your centerpiece bouquets yourself? It's pretty easy. Just go to a flower shop (or actually even a grocery store- their floral depts. these days are awesome!) and purchase enough roses and hydrangeas to put in each vase, then arrange with some inexpensive fern filler, baby's breath, or just on their own.
Reply:I think $25 should cover the flowers alone but not the florist. I agree that you can probably arrange it yourself.
Reply:I doubt it.
Reply:Barbara - I think she meant "gotten". Relax....
I think hydrangeas are gorgeous and are a great choice for centerpieces because the blooms are large/broad. I would buy the flowers and arrange yourself if you're trying to stay within a budget. Good luck!
Reply:$25 would be enough per centerpiece if you made them yourself. You can buy the vases and then get flowers (and some greenery) from either a wholesale club or a grocery store. Ask comeone creative in your wedding party to come with you to get the flowers and to make the arrangements.
My wife will be induced Friday, and I have a few questions?
We took childbirth classes together, and my wife is adamant about not receiving painkillers, which is fine. The problem is I really love my wife, and I will hate seeing her in so much pain. So what are some tips on maintaining my cool so I can be as supportive as she needs me to be?
Also, I have arranged flowers to be delivered after the birth, and I'll be giving her a diamond tennis bracelet, I brought for her in the beginning of her pregnancy. Do you think she'll find that to be a little much, or do you think she'd like it? I would ask one of her friends, but they'd probably tell her.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
My wife will be induced Friday, and I have a few questions?
oh wow, you are a really nice husband... i didn't get flowers.. that sucks for me !! =) i think that is very nice and very thoughtful... as for you to keep your cool... just stand by her side, and tell her to breath, and just remember it is not constant pain.. she will be ok.. tell her thank you for giving me the most beautiful child in the world, remind her how pretty she is, and that you thank god for giving someone soo special to you!! good luck !! =)
Reply:well you are so sweet.
But since she isn't going to take the drugs, and will be in a lot of pain. Stay out of her way and don't let the nurses bully her. they might bully because she might be so cranky with the tremendous amount of pain.
Don't be mean to the nurses your self of course but let the know you ain't gonna take no crap off of them.
Being in labor twice i know how irritating it can be people taking pictures and people hovering over me and wanting to help and bless every ones heart i know they meant well but they have to understand sometime you have to stand back and let them get thru that contration. I personally liked my belly rubbed after a contraction maybe you can do that for her after one but durring she might be like BACK OFF!!! lol you will do fine
Reply:I don't think anyone remembers the pain after seeing that baby, so try to remember that.
Don't get offended by anything she says while in labor - she doesn't mean it.
Maybe tell her before what you told us - that you really love her and will hate seeing her in pain, so if she does change her mind and decides she needs/wants painkillers, she doesn't feel like she has to be brave and skip them for you (women who are induced may have stronger contractions meaning even more pain)
Let her know you're scared too, and if she can, it would help if she could tell you what she needs, like if she needs her back rubbed, or wants to get up and walk, or try a different position, so you can be her advocate and make sure the hospital staff allows her to do what she wants within reason.
And no, she won't find your gifts to be too much. They show how much you love her. You'll be a great dad because you love and respect your wife/baby's mommy.
Congratulations on your new baby!!!
Reply:Just keep your cool coz she will be relying on your to be the level-headed one, and make sure that the drs dont do anything that she doesnt want, incase she is unable to clearly communicate with them. Just be sensitive and try to do what you think she needs, but follow her lead if she doesnt like it. For the gifts thats awesome but I dont think do it to soon after she has baby coz she'll be too wasted to enjoy the moment or appreciate it, wait until shes freshened up, had a rest and is feeling more lively. Good luck.
Reply:I was induced as well and I also chose not to have an epidural. The induction didn't work as planned. I thought for sure that I'd go into labor in an instant but i didn't finally go into labor till they broke my water. Just be by her side and let her do her thing. She'll let you know what she needs...I was crying and holding tight to my husband's sleeve, burying my face in his arm to get thru the pain. My baby was face up/sunny side up. So I had alot of back labor. There were definitely times that I told my husband I wanted an epidural and he gently reminded me that That is not what I really want. He reminded me to breathe and kept saying I can do it.....finally I said I can't take it and the nurse offered Stadol to take the edge off. I am happy with that decision cuz I was not completely numb like with an epidural. Pretty much, I felt all the contractions but in between I was able to sleep and rest up for the next wave of contractions. It was a life saver.
My plan was to wait long enough on an epidural so that when I finally asked for one it would be too late to get one. It worked!
She'll be in pain so she may not have a clear head. If she is adamant about no epidural then it's up to you to remind her that she CAN get thru the pain and that she doesn't want a painkiller. Really talk out a plan with her ahead of time. The BEST thing you can do is support her decisions for childbirth.
Reply:Why is she being induced? Are you aware that induction often leads to a more painful labour? The contractions are often more intense, and harder to cope with; many induced women feel the need for painkillers, whom would otherwise cope just fine with a normal labour. This is especially the case with syntocinon (drip) induced labours, and ARM. (Link below with more info on inductions.)
"Overdue" is not a good reason for induction unless she's 42 weeks or over, and there are signs of fetal distress. Did you know that the average pregnancy duration of a non-induced (and non c-section'ed) healthy caucasian woman having her first baby is *not* in fact 40 weeks, its 41 weeks and 1 day? (Reference below)
Do consider encouraging your wife to cancel the induction, and to wait for labour to start naturally, so her natural hormonal pain relief will kick in, and contractions will build up more gradually and naturally (easier to cope with), and be less intense.
In terms of ways for you to help with pain relief: massage, back rubs, verbal encouragement, hold a hot water bottle or heat pack on the small of her back, hold her, help her labour in upright positions (sitting, walking, squatting, leaning on you).
To support her goal of labouring without pain relief, presuming you're going to hospital, tell the midwives/nurses/ob on duty that your wife wishes no pain relief, and to *not offer it* - if she needs it, she will *ask* for it. Its much easier to labour without pain relief if people aren't constantly offering it. If she *does* ask for it during labour, encourage her to wait out a few more contractions, and see how she goes; tell her she's doing great, and every contraction is bringing her closer to meeting her baby. Essentially, stall her, and offer encouragement about how well she's doing.
Its very common during transition (a stage of labour shortly before crowning/birthing) for women to say "I can't do this", or "get me out of here" or "I'm going to die" or "give me drugs". Recognise that often this is a plea for support and reassurance, and often a signal that birth is close.
Good luck! And BTW, the present is a lovely idea. Diamonds are never too much. ;)
:)Bronwyn
Reply:wow!.. you are going to win some fans in here!!
no its not too much.. its loveley
one piece of advice: No matter what she says during the delivery, she does not want to kill, maim, or torture you..lol
she will be in incredible pain, and there really is nothing you can do physically for her, apart from give her ice to suck on, rub her back (which she will scream at you is not helping)..
maybe dangle the bracelt in fron of her and say if she doesnt rip your head off this is what she will get!!
honestly though, its so hard to tell how she will go through the labour just stay there, stay calm and look forward to your beautiful child at the end!!
good luck!!
Reply:my husband was pretty supportive by talking me through my pregnancy i chose to go without pain killers , he always reminded me if i wanted to take them it wont be little me in anyway that many do it ... and massaged my back at all time ... just stay by her ... dont get irritated cuz she wil b very very moody the gifts seem beautiful ... she is lucky to have such a wonderful husband
best of luck or doing a great job
Reply:When you see her in that much pain it will be very hard for you not to be like if you need them you can it will be ok...my boyfriend did that...I did mine without medication and it was the best choice I ever made...but when I was in labor it worked better for me if nobody talked to me as far and I picked a state of mind and I just stuck with it and focused and breathed but there was a time during my labor I thought about getting the drugs and my bf said to me if you want to you can I know that you are hurting and it is very hard to watch this...he also almost fainted when I was crowning...the birth of your child is amazing and I really hope she doesn't change her mind about getting pain killers...oh and breathing is the only thing that will get her threw this...GOOD LUCK
Reply:wow
do you have a single brother
oh sorry I'm already married myself
I just want to say she's very lucky :)
and bring her a little squeezy stress ball or make sure she has one packed,, to save your hand from being crushed during the contractions. and make sure to have a full pitcher of (ice?) water and a glass for her, well maybe not glass..... plastic would be okay :) so she has drink and you dont have to leave her side except to fill the pitcher back up
congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Wow... If only MY hubby was as kind and thoughtful as what you are! I was induced as well and after 50+ hours of labour, having massive seizures and ending witha c-section he told me that "I could've done it better" and that the reason I had complications was because I "just gave in to the pain...".
I don't think that its too much, I think that your wife will appreciate it. Especially since she has just put her body through a marathon to bring you a precious child. Any woman that has experienced labour will tell you that it's really nice to be appreciated for what they have just done. To go through child birth is incredibly exhausting so praise and gifts to show her how much you Do appreciate her and how much you love her is exactly what she needs.
Labour is hard for most women and good on you for wanting to support her and her decision NOT to have pain relief. You may find that she'll want to change her mind and thats ok as well. What you need to do to stay calm is remind yourself that each contraction is helping her. Envision every pain as if its massaging her cervix to coax it open so your baby can come out. Take deep breaths and focus on the end result- as hard as that will be, that is what gets you through. Tell yourself that although she is in pain, that its a purposeful pain. Its not like breaking your leg, all that pain is there for a resason and its doing something.
Good luck, take care and I hope your wife knows just how lucky she is to have you.
Reply:i had an induced labor, i had contractoins after the induction they were severe, and i had the epidural at once, couldnt stand the pain, my husband was really so symapathetic with me , and i knew how much he loved coz he was so sad seeing me like that, but i got the epidural at once and then i was smiling , and he wasnt sympathetic anymore:-(, just kidding :-). hold ur wife's hand , help her with the pushing. if she changes her mind after the contractions about the painkiller and wanted epidural , support her and also read abt em , who knows what could happen.
my husband brought me flowers, that was so thoughtful of him, i do love him soo much.
the most important thing to take care of her after giving birth, offer to take the baby so she could have somesleep, offer her water , juice if she is breastfeeding, go and kiss her every now and then, she will be in a terrible mood because of the change in hormones, fix her breakfast , and dnt wait for her to ask these things , offering them will show her how much u are thinking abt her and her baby .
good luck and congratulations:-).
Reply:The fact that you pre-arranged for flowers to be delivered says a lot. I'd be happy enough with that. The bracelet is just icing on the cake, as long as its jewelry that she would like any other day of the week, I don't see why it wouldn't make a great 'birth' present, she is bringing your child into the world.
As for seeing her in pain, try to avoid doing the 'are you ok' thing every 5 seconds. No one wants to hear that question constantly, and to be sure, the answer is going to be no and she just might yell at you. Just remember that its her choice to go through that pain. Ask her 'is there anything you need' once in a while, but don't over do it. And good luck, it sounds like you guys are really well prepared for this.
Reply:the gifts are wonderful! she will be happy... I had 2 kids both with no pain meds, or epid... and it was great just having my husband there holding my hand, rubbing my back, or just reassuring me everything was going to be ok..
congrats and good luck!
Reply:awww that is so sweet, i think she will love it. just stay by her side and be as strong and comforting as possible, and be the same is she changes her mine. good luck
Reply:That's perfect. She will love the gifts, but she'll love your support even more. A+ husband!
Reply:You sound like a really sweet guy.
My husband was also worried about seeing me in pain. So I told him that it was REALLY important to me to do the birth with no pain medication and the best thing he can do is be strong and supportive and have an attitude of strength to pull me up, not be looking all worried as this will not keep me motivated.
He was FANTASTIC. He said things like, come on, you can do this, he reminded me how proud he was of me and that he believed in me. I could not have done it without him.
He gave me diamond earrings after the birth and I have not yet taken them out. I think it is a lovely gesture.
Best of luck.
Reply:I said I didn't want pain meds either. I was induced. I changed my mind. If she changes her mind do not tell her but honey you wanted... Let her decide when she is there experiencing it.
I think it is a beautiful idea to give her presents. Having a baby is wonderful and hard. The presents just tell her how much you love her and appreciate what she has gone through for you and your family and her too.
As far as keeping your cool, take deep breaths and just remember, we don't remember how the pain felt. We remember it hurt but when we see that baby for the first time it all goes away. She will be ok and so will you. Good luck and congrats.
Also, I have arranged flowers to be delivered after the birth, and I'll be giving her a diamond tennis bracelet, I brought for her in the beginning of her pregnancy. Do you think she'll find that to be a little much, or do you think she'd like it? I would ask one of her friends, but they'd probably tell her.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
My wife will be induced Friday, and I have a few questions?
oh wow, you are a really nice husband... i didn't get flowers.. that sucks for me !! =) i think that is very nice and very thoughtful... as for you to keep your cool... just stand by her side, and tell her to breath, and just remember it is not constant pain.. she will be ok.. tell her thank you for giving me the most beautiful child in the world, remind her how pretty she is, and that you thank god for giving someone soo special to you!! good luck !! =)
Reply:well you are so sweet.
But since she isn't going to take the drugs, and will be in a lot of pain. Stay out of her way and don't let the nurses bully her. they might bully because she might be so cranky with the tremendous amount of pain.
Don't be mean to the nurses your self of course but let the know you ain't gonna take no crap off of them.
Being in labor twice i know how irritating it can be people taking pictures and people hovering over me and wanting to help and bless every ones heart i know they meant well but they have to understand sometime you have to stand back and let them get thru that contration. I personally liked my belly rubbed after a contraction maybe you can do that for her after one but durring she might be like BACK OFF!!! lol you will do fine
Reply:I don't think anyone remembers the pain after seeing that baby, so try to remember that.
Don't get offended by anything she says while in labor - she doesn't mean it.
Maybe tell her before what you told us - that you really love her and will hate seeing her in pain, so if she does change her mind and decides she needs/wants painkillers, she doesn't feel like she has to be brave and skip them for you (women who are induced may have stronger contractions meaning even more pain)
Let her know you're scared too, and if she can, it would help if she could tell you what she needs, like if she needs her back rubbed, or wants to get up and walk, or try a different position, so you can be her advocate and make sure the hospital staff allows her to do what she wants within reason.
And no, she won't find your gifts to be too much. They show how much you love her. You'll be a great dad because you love and respect your wife/baby's mommy.
Congratulations on your new baby!!!
Reply:Just keep your cool coz she will be relying on your to be the level-headed one, and make sure that the drs dont do anything that she doesnt want, incase she is unable to clearly communicate with them. Just be sensitive and try to do what you think she needs, but follow her lead if she doesnt like it. For the gifts thats awesome but I dont think do it to soon after she has baby coz she'll be too wasted to enjoy the moment or appreciate it, wait until shes freshened up, had a rest and is feeling more lively. Good luck.
Reply:I was induced as well and I also chose not to have an epidural. The induction didn't work as planned. I thought for sure that I'd go into labor in an instant but i didn't finally go into labor till they broke my water. Just be by her side and let her do her thing. She'll let you know what she needs...I was crying and holding tight to my husband's sleeve, burying my face in his arm to get thru the pain. My baby was face up/sunny side up. So I had alot of back labor. There were definitely times that I told my husband I wanted an epidural and he gently reminded me that That is not what I really want. He reminded me to breathe and kept saying I can do it.....finally I said I can't take it and the nurse offered Stadol to take the edge off. I am happy with that decision cuz I was not completely numb like with an epidural. Pretty much, I felt all the contractions but in between I was able to sleep and rest up for the next wave of contractions. It was a life saver.
My plan was to wait long enough on an epidural so that when I finally asked for one it would be too late to get one. It worked!
She'll be in pain so she may not have a clear head. If she is adamant about no epidural then it's up to you to remind her that she CAN get thru the pain and that she doesn't want a painkiller. Really talk out a plan with her ahead of time. The BEST thing you can do is support her decisions for childbirth.
Reply:Why is she being induced? Are you aware that induction often leads to a more painful labour? The contractions are often more intense, and harder to cope with; many induced women feel the need for painkillers, whom would otherwise cope just fine with a normal labour. This is especially the case with syntocinon (drip) induced labours, and ARM. (Link below with more info on inductions.)
"Overdue" is not a good reason for induction unless she's 42 weeks or over, and there are signs of fetal distress. Did you know that the average pregnancy duration of a non-induced (and non c-section'ed) healthy caucasian woman having her first baby is *not* in fact 40 weeks, its 41 weeks and 1 day? (Reference below)
Do consider encouraging your wife to cancel the induction, and to wait for labour to start naturally, so her natural hormonal pain relief will kick in, and contractions will build up more gradually and naturally (easier to cope with), and be less intense.
In terms of ways for you to help with pain relief: massage, back rubs, verbal encouragement, hold a hot water bottle or heat pack on the small of her back, hold her, help her labour in upright positions (sitting, walking, squatting, leaning on you).
To support her goal of labouring without pain relief, presuming you're going to hospital, tell the midwives/nurses/ob on duty that your wife wishes no pain relief, and to *not offer it* - if she needs it, she will *ask* for it. Its much easier to labour without pain relief if people aren't constantly offering it. If she *does* ask for it during labour, encourage her to wait out a few more contractions, and see how she goes; tell her she's doing great, and every contraction is bringing her closer to meeting her baby. Essentially, stall her, and offer encouragement about how well she's doing.
Its very common during transition (a stage of labour shortly before crowning/birthing) for women to say "I can't do this", or "get me out of here" or "I'm going to die" or "give me drugs". Recognise that often this is a plea for support and reassurance, and often a signal that birth is close.
Good luck! And BTW, the present is a lovely idea. Diamonds are never too much. ;)
:)Bronwyn
Reply:wow!.. you are going to win some fans in here!!
no its not too much.. its loveley
one piece of advice: No matter what she says during the delivery, she does not want to kill, maim, or torture you..lol
she will be in incredible pain, and there really is nothing you can do physically for her, apart from give her ice to suck on, rub her back (which she will scream at you is not helping)..
maybe dangle the bracelt in fron of her and say if she doesnt rip your head off this is what she will get!!
honestly though, its so hard to tell how she will go through the labour just stay there, stay calm and look forward to your beautiful child at the end!!
good luck!!
Reply:my husband was pretty supportive by talking me through my pregnancy i chose to go without pain killers , he always reminded me if i wanted to take them it wont be little me in anyway that many do it ... and massaged my back at all time ... just stay by her ... dont get irritated cuz she wil b very very moody the gifts seem beautiful ... she is lucky to have such a wonderful husband
best of luck or doing a great job
Reply:When you see her in that much pain it will be very hard for you not to be like if you need them you can it will be ok...my boyfriend did that...I did mine without medication and it was the best choice I ever made...but when I was in labor it worked better for me if nobody talked to me as far and I picked a state of mind and I just stuck with it and focused and breathed but there was a time during my labor I thought about getting the drugs and my bf said to me if you want to you can I know that you are hurting and it is very hard to watch this...he also almost fainted when I was crowning...the birth of your child is amazing and I really hope she doesn't change her mind about getting pain killers...oh and breathing is the only thing that will get her threw this...GOOD LUCK
Reply:wow
do you have a single brother
oh sorry I'm already married myself
I just want to say she's very lucky :)
and bring her a little squeezy stress ball or make sure she has one packed,, to save your hand from being crushed during the contractions. and make sure to have a full pitcher of (ice?) water and a glass for her, well maybe not glass..... plastic would be okay :) so she has drink and you dont have to leave her side except to fill the pitcher back up
congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Wow... If only MY hubby was as kind and thoughtful as what you are! I was induced as well and after 50+ hours of labour, having massive seizures and ending witha c-section he told me that "I could've done it better" and that the reason I had complications was because I "just gave in to the pain...".
I don't think that its too much, I think that your wife will appreciate it. Especially since she has just put her body through a marathon to bring you a precious child. Any woman that has experienced labour will tell you that it's really nice to be appreciated for what they have just done. To go through child birth is incredibly exhausting so praise and gifts to show her how much you Do appreciate her and how much you love her is exactly what she needs.
Labour is hard for most women and good on you for wanting to support her and her decision NOT to have pain relief. You may find that she'll want to change her mind and thats ok as well. What you need to do to stay calm is remind yourself that each contraction is helping her. Envision every pain as if its massaging her cervix to coax it open so your baby can come out. Take deep breaths and focus on the end result- as hard as that will be, that is what gets you through. Tell yourself that although she is in pain, that its a purposeful pain. Its not like breaking your leg, all that pain is there for a resason and its doing something.
Good luck, take care and I hope your wife knows just how lucky she is to have you.
Reply:i had an induced labor, i had contractoins after the induction they were severe, and i had the epidural at once, couldnt stand the pain, my husband was really so symapathetic with me , and i knew how much he loved coz he was so sad seeing me like that, but i got the epidural at once and then i was smiling , and he wasnt sympathetic anymore:-(, just kidding :-). hold ur wife's hand , help her with the pushing. if she changes her mind after the contractions about the painkiller and wanted epidural , support her and also read abt em , who knows what could happen.
my husband brought me flowers, that was so thoughtful of him, i do love him soo much.
the most important thing to take care of her after giving birth, offer to take the baby so she could have somesleep, offer her water , juice if she is breastfeeding, go and kiss her every now and then, she will be in a terrible mood because of the change in hormones, fix her breakfast , and dnt wait for her to ask these things , offering them will show her how much u are thinking abt her and her baby .
good luck and congratulations:-).
Reply:The fact that you pre-arranged for flowers to be delivered says a lot. I'd be happy enough with that. The bracelet is just icing on the cake, as long as its jewelry that she would like any other day of the week, I don't see why it wouldn't make a great 'birth' present, she is bringing your child into the world.
As for seeing her in pain, try to avoid doing the 'are you ok' thing every 5 seconds. No one wants to hear that question constantly, and to be sure, the answer is going to be no and she just might yell at you. Just remember that its her choice to go through that pain. Ask her 'is there anything you need' once in a while, but don't over do it. And good luck, it sounds like you guys are really well prepared for this.
Reply:the gifts are wonderful! she will be happy... I had 2 kids both with no pain meds, or epid... and it was great just having my husband there holding my hand, rubbing my back, or just reassuring me everything was going to be ok..
congrats and good luck!
Reply:awww that is so sweet, i think she will love it. just stay by her side and be as strong and comforting as possible, and be the same is she changes her mine. good luck
Reply:That's perfect. She will love the gifts, but she'll love your support even more. A+ husband!
Reply:You sound like a really sweet guy.
My husband was also worried about seeing me in pain. So I told him that it was REALLY important to me to do the birth with no pain medication and the best thing he can do is be strong and supportive and have an attitude of strength to pull me up, not be looking all worried as this will not keep me motivated.
He was FANTASTIC. He said things like, come on, you can do this, he reminded me how proud he was of me and that he believed in me. I could not have done it without him.
He gave me diamond earrings after the birth and I have not yet taken them out. I think it is a lovely gesture.
Best of luck.
Reply:I said I didn't want pain meds either. I was induced. I changed my mind. If she changes her mind do not tell her but honey you wanted... Let her decide when she is there experiencing it.
I think it is a beautiful idea to give her presents. Having a baby is wonderful and hard. The presents just tell her how much you love her and appreciate what she has gone through for you and your family and her too.
As far as keeping your cool, take deep breaths and just remember, we don't remember how the pain felt. We remember it hurt but when we see that baby for the first time it all goes away. She will be ok and so will you. Good luck and congrats.
Are you becoming a victim of the US Wedding industry?
The wedding industry in the US is a huge business where couples (or their parents) run up credit card bills beyond what they can afford. With flowers in the thousands of dollars, extravagant locations, dresses not quite worth the fabric they’re made from and brides who complain and are never satisfied.
It seems some weddings are no longer a celebration of love but a show of money! I am in this business and I see it all.
Remember ‘home made weddings’ when aunts prepared their favorite food, sisters and cousins would decorate and arrange flowers, while mom and bride made favors and the veil! It was a time to reflect, to enjoy family, to share the experience.
In other countries this is still the norm, but does the US consumer mentality and the wedding industry that encourages it, forget what a wedding is for?
What, in your opinion %26amp; country is the most essential part of a wedding, what is/was your budget, what did you end up spending %26amp; what would you do different?
Are you becoming a victim of the US Wedding industry?
A B S O L U T E L Y
I agree that the meaining and sacredness of the event is lost and more people are interested in outdoing the next bride and having a party of all parties.
Reply:I agree and I don't....
personally I think it's ridiculous to put yourself into debt for one day. You have your whole lives to plan for and prepare for. Of course you want it to be nice but there is nice and than there is extravagant.
But if you want that... and you have the money to do so (not by charging it all on credit cards) that is totally your business.
Personally my wedding is in March.... we wanted to keep things small and simple, but very nice. We are using friends for DJ and family for photographer. My mom bargained for my dress and I am using her veil and the flower girl dress for my flower girl from her wedding. We are making lots of things. But our wedding is still coming in at about 8000 - 10000 because anything wedding related is so expensive and I think that is the problem with the industry some places really rip you off.
For example you can call and get prices for flowers but if they know the flowers are for a wedding they immediately charge more sometimes.... that's crazy!
I'm happy with our day and I've cut a lot corners and I have two other friends getting married after me or are spending MUCH more and they think I'm crazy... but I bet that my wedding will be as nice as thiers and at the end of the day I'll be just as married lol
Reply:I know a couple who are still $20,000 in debt due to a lavish wedding, 2 years after the DIVORCE! Can you imagine how awful it would be to still be paying for a wedding after you get a divorce. :(
Reply:The wedding industry is like any other. Driven by demand, it is not entirely fair to blame "the industry" without looking at the consumers. Those individuals who run up their credit cards for their wedding will probably go on to run up their credit cards on a plasma tv or vacation. They are victims of a larger problem. The rest of us plan weddings we can afford. I may be a victim to wanting a gorgeous wedding, but if I can afford it whats the problem? Everyone spends their money how they want based on their preferences; thats just simple economics.
Reply:Everyone plans for that one day, they do nothing to prepare for the marriage! It is really sad...that is why there are so many "starter" marriages!!
Reply:We're a US couple, and are resisting getting sucked into the wedding industry vortex. We, do, however want a basically traditional American wedding, like the ones our parents and siblings and friends had. We're living within a budget that's based on how much we could reasonably expect to save between the engagement and the wedding. We agreed not to go into debt for the wedding. So, we're working the wedding around the budget--how many guests, what kind of food, the flowers, the music, photographer, etc. are all tested against the budget. We're a bit ahead on the savings plan, so we're not having to cut things that we had decided on early. But, we're not spending a lot on many things (a couple of hundred on flowers, not a couple of thousand, about a hundred on my wedding dress, we bargained with the DJ and photographer, we're making our own invitations, programs, place cards, reply cards and thank-you cards, using a family heirloom ring, making my veil and the favors and centerpieces, no limo, postponing the honeymoon for four months after the wedding). It's going to be beautiful, but within our $12,000 budget, no debt.
Really, the only critical part of the wedding is the he, I, an officiant and two witnesses be there. Everything else is extra.
Reply:According to Forbes the average US wedding is something like $26,000. This is outrageous and ridiculous.
What's really crazy is that some couples take out loans and get into huge debts just to have this 'perfect' wedding. Then they live in some crappy rented apartment, when they could have used the wedding money as a down payment on a nice house.
Reply:Weddings and Funerals are the worst industries out there because they prey on human emotion and they get you when you are at your most vulnerable.
People should always go for the wedding that they can afford rather than the wedding of their dreams, or, wait until they can afford the wedding of their dreams without selling their soul to the credit card companies. Some people do not have self control and you cannot blame anyone for that.
Good luck
Reply:We don't have a budget-we're spending whatever it costs to get the things we want. We will end up spending about $25-30K when it's all said and done.
I do not recall home made weddings-I'm 38 years old and never been to one in my life and have also never personally known anyone who has had one. We just don't do that where I'm from (NE Pennsylvania).
I figure I waited 38 years to marry the man of my dreams (first wedding for both of us), and we earn income sufficient to not have to worry about every single cent we spend. We're doing our wedding our way, and things cost money. We'll earn more.
We aren't having any bridal party, no programs or favors, only spending $200 on the photographer, and less than that on flowers. His wedding attire only cost $65. We are, however spending lots of plane tix and hotel rooms for our families to fly to St Thomas, wine and dine them properly, and have great music--these things matter to us, and we'll spend what's necessary to make sure everyone has a great time celebrating with us.
It doesn't matter to me what anyone else does or doesn't do for their wedding. It isn't my business. I just hope if I'm invited to a wedding, the couple is happy, and the food and drinks are good.
I've heard the "save your $ for a home" argument, but we already own our land outright, and broke ground today for our dreamhome. We already do have a hefty downpayment.
Reply:I live in the US, and think it's ridiculous what some people spend. Here is what our wedding cost:
My dress: $650
Reception: $3200 (85 people, alcohol included)
Flowers: $400
Marriage License: $35
Tuxes: $375
Limo: $300
Favors: $120
Flower Girl Dress: $80
Alterations for both: $75
DJ: $300?
Cake: $350
So, not counting the bridesmaids dresses since they paid for those, the cost was $5885. And I wouldn't have done anything differently.
Reply:I think it's insane for people to spend thousands on their wedding. My sister in Montana attended a wedding just a couple of months ago where the wedding cost $100,000. (No kidding.) They had a menu for the guests to order from and everything. She said it was beautiful, and I guess if you have the money to do it, why not? But is it something that is just for show or is it for the sentimental value?
My husband and I did for under $2000. It was small, but we didn't go into debt for it. Sure, looking back, there were things we would do differently, but I wouldn't change the fact we didn't go into debt. One of the best pieces of advice I can offer people is if you can do it yourself, DO IT YOURSELF instead of paying someone to do it. There are things where that wouldn't work, of course, but for the most part, the decorations, the invitations, the food, can all be done by you or family. Course, that does depend on the size of the wedding you want. At any rate, I have thought about becoming a wedding planner myself, but in the end, I think the stressed out brides (who expect their day to be PERFECT) would cause me more stress than I need.
Reply:Good question!
I've never cared about having a "perfect" or "fairy tale" kind of wedding. My wedding isn't just a union between the hubby and me, it's a celebration between us and all of those that love us. That's the most essential thing to remember, as long as we have each other (which is the whole point of the wedding anyways!) and our family and friends, we're set :)
I'm spending less than 5k on my wedding (shocking when a lot of people pay around 25k!). We're having buffet style and my grandma, mom and I are doing a lot of the baking. We love to bake and have always baked together (it's how we bond LOL). All my family and friends are coming to a huge reception (which we're decorating ourselves) and going to dance and celebrate all night long.
I'm really excited :)
Reply:What I did wrong...spent way to much money and didnt focus on what matters most. That you love this person and that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If I were to do it again I would have a huge back yard BBQ, with only our closest friends and family. Id say come on over, we are getting married, oh and could you bring a bag of chips. lol.
Reply:I so agree with you, I am planning a wedding and have been doing searches on-line to find items to use. My budget-- 600$ for the whole thing!!
It takes some creativity and thinking outside the box but it can be done. I just don't believe in spending tons of money on a party per sae, but I do believe in making it a special and remembered day.
This is especially true for first timers, why blow all that money on a wedding when you could start your married life debt free, or invest in a home ? It just doesn't make sense, but that is just my own practical view :)
Reply:I agree with you! Thankfully, I've been married for 15 years and my wedding, while nice and professionally done, was not over the top! We were married at a place in Laguna Beach CA that offered the ceremony upstairs and receptions downstairs. They handled everything except the DJ, the flowers, pictures and our clothes. We had about 100 guests and I think the night cost us about $5000, I believe. My dress cost $600 and my bridesmaids dresses cost them each about $70. To this day, people tell me how much fun our wedding was and that is exactly what I wanted. Frankly, I would have gone to Vegas but my mother-in-law wanted us to have a big wedding (she doesn't have daughters) and she paid for everything. I was never the girl who dreamed of the big fancy wedding. They always seemed kind of pointless to me. And, lately, it seems that more emphasis is placed on the wedding and not the marriage.
Reply:I'm not a victim yet but I will be in another year when I start planning my wedding. Its almost impossible to have a wedding on a zero budget. My fiance and I do not have much money and we are going to end up paying for everything ourself. There is no way we can afford a 5 thousand dollar DEPOSIT on a location. Why does it have to be such an exorbitant (sp?) amount of money just to get married.
We are going to have to scrap and save for our wedding and even then it will not be a big production. I do believe the U.S. Wedding industry is out to hijack couples and take advantage. Its not fair to compromise your vision because the couple cannot afford to put themselves in debt just to get married.
Reply:We were only planning a VERY small wedding, and got scared off at the first hurdle (ring-buying, or rather just 'ring-contemplating') by the nightmarish creatures posing as salespeople in the jewellery store. They descended on us and were shoving anything and everything in our faces, some awful woman was asking me 'SO, HOW MUCH IS HE SPENDING??? HE SHOULD BE SPENDING AT LEAST X AMOUNT, YOU KNOW!!!', as if that was the secret trick to turn me into some harpy who would be demanding half a year's salary to be spent on my ring. Ugh.
So, we thought 'f*** that - no way are we dealing with this crap every step of the way', bought a couple of cheap 'temporary' rings elsewhere, and promptly got married, (without any guests at all) in the courthouse. Total wedding budget... the cost of the marriage licence plus the clothes we chose for the day. Not much.
We might try again, have some sort of a reception thing next year, but make very very very very sure not to have to deal with ANYONE (or any company) that makes it their business to rip people off just because they're getting married. The whole thing left a very nasty taste in my mouth - I have no idea how anyone actually goes through with organising a proper wedding, the whole industry that surrounds it is so loathsome!!
Reply:My most expensive part of the wedding attire was my bridal veil. It was $40.00. lol That was back in 1974! I made my floor length satin wedding gown and that was $20.00 for all of the materials. I also made the bridesmaid dresses and they were $10.00 each to make. The color was determined by what was on sale. (although blue was my favorite color, I had to settle for yellow dresses) I don't remember what the tux's cost to rent at that time. Had about 100 people at the wedding and church ladies made the food and my MIL provided the cake and the flowers. I remember the cake was $40.00 but didn't know how much the flowers were. The bridesmaids carried 1 yellow rose while I had a bouquet of white roses. We did have a professional photographer and I think photos ran $150. so that was to me the essential part of the wedding.... or so I thought.
As for what I would do different, I wouldn't have married my first husband. lol
The second time I was married in 1985, I was a professional cake decorator, so had that covered. lol I also did the flowers and I bought and wore a cream knee length dress that cost around $25.00 and my husband wore his air force uniform . We had a garden wedding with about 25 people. Oh yes and I illustrated and printed our wedding invitations. My mom and sisters made food for the reception, so it was quite simple. Just had simple snap shots. I think what I would have done different was to have had a professional photographer as the years have faded the photos.
When my daughter was married 7 years ago, her gown was less than $100. We went to the JC Penny outlet and we got all of her bridesmaids gowns for $10 each. Again color was determined by the price which was peach. Again I made the wedding cake and by then I was working at a floral shop and got all of the flowers wholesale as a perk of the job. I paid $150. which seemed like alot, but there were loads of flowers at her wedding! Her husband's parents were convieniently caterers. I don't remember what her photos cost but they were done by a professional photographer.
It seems some weddings are no longer a celebration of love but a show of money! I am in this business and I see it all.
Remember ‘home made weddings’ when aunts prepared their favorite food, sisters and cousins would decorate and arrange flowers, while mom and bride made favors and the veil! It was a time to reflect, to enjoy family, to share the experience.
In other countries this is still the norm, but does the US consumer mentality and the wedding industry that encourages it, forget what a wedding is for?
What, in your opinion %26amp; country is the most essential part of a wedding, what is/was your budget, what did you end up spending %26amp; what would you do different?
Are you becoming a victim of the US Wedding industry?
A B S O L U T E L Y
I agree that the meaining and sacredness of the event is lost and more people are interested in outdoing the next bride and having a party of all parties.
Reply:I agree and I don't....
personally I think it's ridiculous to put yourself into debt for one day. You have your whole lives to plan for and prepare for. Of course you want it to be nice but there is nice and than there is extravagant.
But if you want that... and you have the money to do so (not by charging it all on credit cards) that is totally your business.
Personally my wedding is in March.... we wanted to keep things small and simple, but very nice. We are using friends for DJ and family for photographer. My mom bargained for my dress and I am using her veil and the flower girl dress for my flower girl from her wedding. We are making lots of things. But our wedding is still coming in at about 8000 - 10000 because anything wedding related is so expensive and I think that is the problem with the industry some places really rip you off.
For example you can call and get prices for flowers but if they know the flowers are for a wedding they immediately charge more sometimes.... that's crazy!
I'm happy with our day and I've cut a lot corners and I have two other friends getting married after me or are spending MUCH more and they think I'm crazy... but I bet that my wedding will be as nice as thiers and at the end of the day I'll be just as married lol
Reply:I know a couple who are still $20,000 in debt due to a lavish wedding, 2 years after the DIVORCE! Can you imagine how awful it would be to still be paying for a wedding after you get a divorce. :(
Reply:The wedding industry is like any other. Driven by demand, it is not entirely fair to blame "the industry" without looking at the consumers. Those individuals who run up their credit cards for their wedding will probably go on to run up their credit cards on a plasma tv or vacation. They are victims of a larger problem. The rest of us plan weddings we can afford. I may be a victim to wanting a gorgeous wedding, but if I can afford it whats the problem? Everyone spends their money how they want based on their preferences; thats just simple economics.
Reply:Everyone plans for that one day, they do nothing to prepare for the marriage! It is really sad...that is why there are so many "starter" marriages!!
Reply:We're a US couple, and are resisting getting sucked into the wedding industry vortex. We, do, however want a basically traditional American wedding, like the ones our parents and siblings and friends had. We're living within a budget that's based on how much we could reasonably expect to save between the engagement and the wedding. We agreed not to go into debt for the wedding. So, we're working the wedding around the budget--how many guests, what kind of food, the flowers, the music, photographer, etc. are all tested against the budget. We're a bit ahead on the savings plan, so we're not having to cut things that we had decided on early. But, we're not spending a lot on many things (a couple of hundred on flowers, not a couple of thousand, about a hundred on my wedding dress, we bargained with the DJ and photographer, we're making our own invitations, programs, place cards, reply cards and thank-you cards, using a family heirloom ring, making my veil and the favors and centerpieces, no limo, postponing the honeymoon for four months after the wedding). It's going to be beautiful, but within our $12,000 budget, no debt.
Really, the only critical part of the wedding is the he, I, an officiant and two witnesses be there. Everything else is extra.
Reply:According to Forbes the average US wedding is something like $26,000. This is outrageous and ridiculous.
What's really crazy is that some couples take out loans and get into huge debts just to have this 'perfect' wedding. Then they live in some crappy rented apartment, when they could have used the wedding money as a down payment on a nice house.
Reply:Weddings and Funerals are the worst industries out there because they prey on human emotion and they get you when you are at your most vulnerable.
People should always go for the wedding that they can afford rather than the wedding of their dreams, or, wait until they can afford the wedding of their dreams without selling their soul to the credit card companies. Some people do not have self control and you cannot blame anyone for that.
Good luck
Reply:We don't have a budget-we're spending whatever it costs to get the things we want. We will end up spending about $25-30K when it's all said and done.
I do not recall home made weddings-I'm 38 years old and never been to one in my life and have also never personally known anyone who has had one. We just don't do that where I'm from (NE Pennsylvania).
I figure I waited 38 years to marry the man of my dreams (first wedding for both of us), and we earn income sufficient to not have to worry about every single cent we spend. We're doing our wedding our way, and things cost money. We'll earn more.
We aren't having any bridal party, no programs or favors, only spending $200 on the photographer, and less than that on flowers. His wedding attire only cost $65. We are, however spending lots of plane tix and hotel rooms for our families to fly to St Thomas, wine and dine them properly, and have great music--these things matter to us, and we'll spend what's necessary to make sure everyone has a great time celebrating with us.
It doesn't matter to me what anyone else does or doesn't do for their wedding. It isn't my business. I just hope if I'm invited to a wedding, the couple is happy, and the food and drinks are good.
I've heard the "save your $ for a home" argument, but we already own our land outright, and broke ground today for our dreamhome. We already do have a hefty downpayment.
Reply:I live in the US, and think it's ridiculous what some people spend. Here is what our wedding cost:
My dress: $650
Reception: $3200 (85 people, alcohol included)
Flowers: $400
Marriage License: $35
Tuxes: $375
Limo: $300
Favors: $120
Flower Girl Dress: $80
Alterations for both: $75
DJ: $300?
Cake: $350
So, not counting the bridesmaids dresses since they paid for those, the cost was $5885. And I wouldn't have done anything differently.
Reply:I think it's insane for people to spend thousands on their wedding. My sister in Montana attended a wedding just a couple of months ago where the wedding cost $100,000. (No kidding.) They had a menu for the guests to order from and everything. She said it was beautiful, and I guess if you have the money to do it, why not? But is it something that is just for show or is it for the sentimental value?
My husband and I did for under $2000. It was small, but we didn't go into debt for it. Sure, looking back, there were things we would do differently, but I wouldn't change the fact we didn't go into debt. One of the best pieces of advice I can offer people is if you can do it yourself, DO IT YOURSELF instead of paying someone to do it. There are things where that wouldn't work, of course, but for the most part, the decorations, the invitations, the food, can all be done by you or family. Course, that does depend on the size of the wedding you want. At any rate, I have thought about becoming a wedding planner myself, but in the end, I think the stressed out brides (who expect their day to be PERFECT) would cause me more stress than I need.
Reply:Good question!
I've never cared about having a "perfect" or "fairy tale" kind of wedding. My wedding isn't just a union between the hubby and me, it's a celebration between us and all of those that love us. That's the most essential thing to remember, as long as we have each other (which is the whole point of the wedding anyways!) and our family and friends, we're set :)
I'm spending less than 5k on my wedding (shocking when a lot of people pay around 25k!). We're having buffet style and my grandma, mom and I are doing a lot of the baking. We love to bake and have always baked together (it's how we bond LOL). All my family and friends are coming to a huge reception (which we're decorating ourselves) and going to dance and celebrate all night long.
I'm really excited :)
Reply:What I did wrong...spent way to much money and didnt focus on what matters most. That you love this person and that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If I were to do it again I would have a huge back yard BBQ, with only our closest friends and family. Id say come on over, we are getting married, oh and could you bring a bag of chips. lol.
Reply:I so agree with you, I am planning a wedding and have been doing searches on-line to find items to use. My budget-- 600$ for the whole thing!!
It takes some creativity and thinking outside the box but it can be done. I just don't believe in spending tons of money on a party per sae, but I do believe in making it a special and remembered day.
This is especially true for first timers, why blow all that money on a wedding when you could start your married life debt free, or invest in a home ? It just doesn't make sense, but that is just my own practical view :)
Reply:I agree with you! Thankfully, I've been married for 15 years and my wedding, while nice and professionally done, was not over the top! We were married at a place in Laguna Beach CA that offered the ceremony upstairs and receptions downstairs. They handled everything except the DJ, the flowers, pictures and our clothes. We had about 100 guests and I think the night cost us about $5000, I believe. My dress cost $600 and my bridesmaids dresses cost them each about $70. To this day, people tell me how much fun our wedding was and that is exactly what I wanted. Frankly, I would have gone to Vegas but my mother-in-law wanted us to have a big wedding (she doesn't have daughters) and she paid for everything. I was never the girl who dreamed of the big fancy wedding. They always seemed kind of pointless to me. And, lately, it seems that more emphasis is placed on the wedding and not the marriage.
Reply:I'm not a victim yet but I will be in another year when I start planning my wedding. Its almost impossible to have a wedding on a zero budget. My fiance and I do not have much money and we are going to end up paying for everything ourself. There is no way we can afford a 5 thousand dollar DEPOSIT on a location. Why does it have to be such an exorbitant (sp?) amount of money just to get married.
We are going to have to scrap and save for our wedding and even then it will not be a big production. I do believe the U.S. Wedding industry is out to hijack couples and take advantage. Its not fair to compromise your vision because the couple cannot afford to put themselves in debt just to get married.
Reply:We were only planning a VERY small wedding, and got scared off at the first hurdle (ring-buying, or rather just 'ring-contemplating') by the nightmarish creatures posing as salespeople in the jewellery store. They descended on us and were shoving anything and everything in our faces, some awful woman was asking me 'SO, HOW MUCH IS HE SPENDING??? HE SHOULD BE SPENDING AT LEAST X AMOUNT, YOU KNOW!!!', as if that was the secret trick to turn me into some harpy who would be demanding half a year's salary to be spent on my ring. Ugh.
So, we thought 'f*** that - no way are we dealing with this crap every step of the way', bought a couple of cheap 'temporary' rings elsewhere, and promptly got married, (without any guests at all) in the courthouse. Total wedding budget... the cost of the marriage licence plus the clothes we chose for the day. Not much.
We might try again, have some sort of a reception thing next year, but make very very very very sure not to have to deal with ANYONE (or any company) that makes it their business to rip people off just because they're getting married. The whole thing left a very nasty taste in my mouth - I have no idea how anyone actually goes through with organising a proper wedding, the whole industry that surrounds it is so loathsome!!
Reply:My most expensive part of the wedding attire was my bridal veil. It was $40.00. lol That was back in 1974! I made my floor length satin wedding gown and that was $20.00 for all of the materials. I also made the bridesmaid dresses and they were $10.00 each to make. The color was determined by what was on sale. (although blue was my favorite color, I had to settle for yellow dresses) I don't remember what the tux's cost to rent at that time. Had about 100 people at the wedding and church ladies made the food and my MIL provided the cake and the flowers. I remember the cake was $40.00 but didn't know how much the flowers were. The bridesmaids carried 1 yellow rose while I had a bouquet of white roses. We did have a professional photographer and I think photos ran $150. so that was to me the essential part of the wedding.... or so I thought.
As for what I would do different, I wouldn't have married my first husband. lol
The second time I was married in 1985, I was a professional cake decorator, so had that covered. lol I also did the flowers and I bought and wore a cream knee length dress that cost around $25.00 and my husband wore his air force uniform . We had a garden wedding with about 25 people. Oh yes and I illustrated and printed our wedding invitations. My mom and sisters made food for the reception, so it was quite simple. Just had simple snap shots. I think what I would have done different was to have had a professional photographer as the years have faded the photos.
When my daughter was married 7 years ago, her gown was less than $100. We went to the JC Penny outlet and we got all of her bridesmaids gowns for $10 each. Again color was determined by the price which was peach. Again I made the wedding cake and by then I was working at a floral shop and got all of the flowers wholesale as a perk of the job. I paid $150. which seemed like alot, but there were loads of flowers at her wedding! Her husband's parents were convieniently caterers. I don't remember what her photos cost but they were done by a professional photographer.
During a time of great distress my employer was AWESOME on helping me get my time off and arrangements made?
How do I thank them for going above and beyond? I have never had an employer work with me like that before. It would be great to tell them thank you, but I don't want to seem like a butt kisser.
*side info.... My grandmother passed away and I had to arrange a leave of absense ( my super helped fill them out, pretty much all I had to do was sign), plus take time off of work in the middle of shift when I got "the phone call". My manager, my supervisor and their boss were so sweet, and it just made me feel good knowing I worked for a company that would just really bend over backwards for me. Heck, my super told me to take as much time as I needed, and my manager would call and check up on me just to make sure I was ok.
I want to send a thank you card, or even some flowers for their kindness.
Your ideas? THANK YOU.
During a time of great distress my employer was AWESOME on helping me get my time off and arrangements made?
How very nice! It's so good to hear something like this, instead of the usual stuff about how nasty the boss has been at a time of personal crisis.
As to how to say thanks ~ nothing beats a personal face to face 'thank you'. Just telling them face to face, with sincerity and openness, how much it meant to you and how special you think their behaviour was can make a person's day, month ~ even year!
To honour them publicly, you could definitely send a big bunch of flowers, maybe some chocs and a card ... if you send it to the office, naming them and then adding "and the whole team", you are letting everyone know you appreciate them, but also that your bosses were extra good.
That way, it is no way 'butt kissing', it is simply a heartfelt gesture of thanks.
It must have been sad losing your dear grandmother, I can only imagine the devastation as I love my grandma so much, but having a great workplace team can really help you feel better and give you a much needed boost. Having that sort of support really matters.
I WAS going to say you can also let them know how great you found them by being a terrific employee, but judging by their actions and your attitude, I bet you already are!
Cheers :-)
Edited to say: Traveller has a good point about company policy ~ you might need to check that out! Best wishes :-)
Reply:I usually am cautious about gifts to employers, etc. Even a letter to the company thanking them, could be a problem if in helping you, they "bypassed" some company policy. Perhaps just a heartfelt "thank you " in private is best.
If you really must do more than that, then I'd say a dinner certificate for two to some local, and reasonably priced restaurant if you can afford that. ( but that is six dinners if you thank all three of them that way!); about $60 usd for some place like Denny's.
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*side info.... My grandmother passed away and I had to arrange a leave of absense ( my super helped fill them out, pretty much all I had to do was sign), plus take time off of work in the middle of shift when I got "the phone call". My manager, my supervisor and their boss were so sweet, and it just made me feel good knowing I worked for a company that would just really bend over backwards for me. Heck, my super told me to take as much time as I needed, and my manager would call and check up on me just to make sure I was ok.
I want to send a thank you card, or even some flowers for their kindness.
Your ideas? THANK YOU.
During a time of great distress my employer was AWESOME on helping me get my time off and arrangements made?
How very nice! It's so good to hear something like this, instead of the usual stuff about how nasty the boss has been at a time of personal crisis.
As to how to say thanks ~ nothing beats a personal face to face 'thank you'. Just telling them face to face, with sincerity and openness, how much it meant to you and how special you think their behaviour was can make a person's day, month ~ even year!
To honour them publicly, you could definitely send a big bunch of flowers, maybe some chocs and a card ... if you send it to the office, naming them and then adding "and the whole team", you are letting everyone know you appreciate them, but also that your bosses were extra good.
That way, it is no way 'butt kissing', it is simply a heartfelt gesture of thanks.
It must have been sad losing your dear grandmother, I can only imagine the devastation as I love my grandma so much, but having a great workplace team can really help you feel better and give you a much needed boost. Having that sort of support really matters.
I WAS going to say you can also let them know how great you found them by being a terrific employee, but judging by their actions and your attitude, I bet you already are!
Cheers :-)
Edited to say: Traveller has a good point about company policy ~ you might need to check that out! Best wishes :-)
Reply:I usually am cautious about gifts to employers, etc. Even a letter to the company thanking them, could be a problem if in helping you, they "bypassed" some company policy. Perhaps just a heartfelt "thank you " in private is best.
If you really must do more than that, then I'd say a dinner certificate for two to some local, and reasonably priced restaurant if you can afford that. ( but that is six dinners if you thank all three of them that way!); about $60 usd for some place like Denny's.
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